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AIBU?

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To be pissed off with sister using DS for attention?

43 replies

thedysontree · 24/08/2019 19:29

My sister was visiting me yesterday and we noticed DS (16 months) who has had a cold for a few days was starting to look quite poorly and his temperature was very high, so I decided he needed to go to A&E. My sister drove for us. We were kept waiting for a good few hours in A&E and sister spent most of the time on her phone, which I didn't mind as it can't have been very interesting for her. Finally DS is seen, given antibiotics and is admitted for the night. Once the appropriate staff came to escort DS to the ward my sister said goodbye to me and left. I stayed with DS for the night and DH drove us home the next morning after he was discharged.

After getting DS settled back at home I had time to check my phone. I browsed Facebook for a while and I saw a post from my sister that was put up at 5:24pm which would have been when we were waiting in A&E. My sister had used Facebook's "check in" feature to check into the A&E department (she hadn't even checked into the children's department, and she has no DC) and there were loads of comments from concerned friends and family members. Lot's of "Are you okay? Ring me x", "Oh no what's happened hun x", "Is everything okay? You're worrying me.". Of course she had replied to each comment with a typical "I will PM you x". I am a very private person and don't feel the need to tell extended family and acquaintances that my toddler spent a night in the hospital and was perfectly fine. It feels like my sister was attention seeking and wanted people worrying about HER so I messaged her asking her to take the post down and I also said I was not happy with her using DS as a way of getting attention for herself. AIBU?

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Proseccoinamug · 24/08/2019 19:32

YANBU

KatnissMellark · 24/08/2019 19:32

Yanbu, what a bore. You can't control what she posts though.

lanbro · 24/08/2019 19:33

YA def NBU, can't abide thr hospital check in anyway, even worse to use your dc

Pretendapony · 24/08/2019 19:34

YANBU. I really don’t understand why people do this!

TruthOnTrial · 24/08/2019 19:35

You'll have to exclude her from future personal incidents in order to keep control of your own life.

She'll miss out and so will you, but I cant see you have any choice when shes behaving like a tabloid newspaper.

ElleDubloo · 24/08/2019 19:36

She’s an idiot. Everyone who she PM’s with the truth will think she’s an idiot.

HelloMrDinosaur · 24/08/2019 19:37

Meh. Annoying. Hardly worth getting your knickers in a twist about. Facebook innit

LadyGlitterSparkles · 24/08/2019 19:38

Good god no, YANBU. I never post that I am in a GP surgery or hospital. Esp if it was someone else's DC.

Puddingmama2017 · 24/08/2019 19:38

My mum does this, checks in everywhere, usually to draw attention to the fact she’s doing something with me and the kids. Usually with a heart emoji and a ‘love them!’ caption. Consequently everyone on my friends list knows where I’ve been. Which I hate.

Puddingmama2017 · 24/08/2019 19:39

So no, YADNBU!!

bobstersmum · 24/08/2019 19:41

Facebook saddo eh!

MRex · 24/08/2019 19:46

YANBU

ClemDanFango · 24/08/2019 19:48

Oh this is so fucking cringe! YANBU.

ClemDanFango · 24/08/2019 19:49

Copy + paste this 9gag.com/gag/a9KQzOj

AmIRightOrAMeringue · 24/08/2019 19:50

YANBU to be annoyed but YABU to ask her to remove it, she is getting attention from a shitty situation but shes not actually named him in a public forum she has pmd people. If she had texted her friends to say she was in hospital would you tell her off for that?

Teedeepie · 24/08/2019 19:50

YANBU. I hate the current trend of either stealth boasts or pity party posts to draw attention to yourself. (I currently know someone who announced her departure from Facebook 4 days ago... everyone is voicing their concern.... yet she is still on there and answering questions??? Hmm. )

The only person who had any business checking into a & e on Facebook, if they chose to, was you. I hope your little one is feeling better x

jesuschristwtf · 24/08/2019 19:53

Is she very young? My sister does it and it’s really annoying. I now untag myself from everything she puts me in.

Stayawayfromitsmouth · 24/08/2019 19:53

Who evem uses Facebook anymore it's so past its use by date. Only saddos.
Even more sad are the losers who get drawn into such obvious egoism.

Saywatopatnow · 24/08/2019 19:59

People are feckin loopy when they want to get attention for themselves. I had a conversation with my neighbour earlier & she's told everyone else in my street any holiday I've taken with my kids was funded by SS which isn't true at all. She's ramped up since she couldn't interfere in other neighbours business.

ParkheadParadise · 24/08/2019 20:00

My niece does that all the bloody time.
She's put things like
I'm fuming
Some people are just nasty arseholes
Follows a load of what's up hun!
I'll pm u
Drives me mad.
She's also known for taking pictures of dd with stupid filters.

gilliansgardenbench · 24/08/2019 20:00

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Kerrywerrywoo1 · 24/08/2019 20:04

Sounds like she’s an insensitive attention seeking twat.
You can’t do anything about it except tell her to never ever do that again; you were not mentioned but you had a personal moment shared regardless. She’s a dick..

Oysterbabe · 24/08/2019 20:06

Yanbu. She'd have got a delete as a friend from me. I have a zero tolerance approach to this bullshit.

bridgetreilly · 24/08/2019 20:07

Meh. She didn't post anything about your son, right? So the only one she's made look stupid online is herself. I couldn't get too bothered about that, tbh.

Drum2018 · 24/08/2019 20:08

Her own life must be pathetic if she has to seek attention this way. YANBU. I hope she took the post down.