To be pissed off with sister using DS for attention?

[thedysontree]

My sister was visiting me yesterday and we noticed DS (16 months) who has had a cold for a few days was starting to look quite poorly and his temperature was very high, so I decided he needed to go to A&E. My sister drove for us. We were kept waiting for a good few hours in A&E and sister spent most of the time on her phone, which I didn't mind as it can't have been very interesting for her. Finally DS is seen, given antibiotics and is admitted for the night. Once the appropriate staff came to escort DS to the ward my sister said goodbye to me and left. I stayed with DS for the night and DH drove us home the next morning after he was discharged.

After getting DS settled back at home I had time to check my phone. I browsed Facebook for a while and I saw a post from my sister that was put up at 5:24pm which would have been when we were waiting in A&E. My sister had used Facebook's "check in" feature to check into the A&E department (she hadn't even checked into the children's department, and she has no DC) and there were loads of comments from concerned friends and family members. Lot's of "Are you okay? Ring me x", "Oh no what's happened hun x", "Is everything okay? You're worrying me.". Of course she had replied to each comment with a typical "I will PM you x". I am a very private person and don't feel the need to tell extended family and acquaintances that my toddler spent a night in the hospital and was perfectly fine. It feels like my sister was attention seeking and wanted people worrying about HER so I messaged her asking her to take the post down and I also said I was not happy with her using DS as a way of getting attention for herself. AIBU?

If she's the sort of person who checks in everywhere then I doubt it was as calculated as you think. I don't see how it impacts you or your DS tbh. She may not even have mentioned you in her PMs. She could just have said she was fine and was at A&E with someone else.

A text to a few of her friends "Dnephew is in hospital." would have been fine by me. It was the way she put it on Facebook and made it look like she was the one who had been admitted in to get people worrying about HER which rubbed be the wrong way.

Those of you asking if she’s very young...from my experience, middle aged women are far, far worse for this kind of thing than teenagers or young people.

Some people have fb set up so it automatically checks in. I don't, but some people like that.
Once people had started commenting she may well have chosen to say "send pm" because she knew that you didn't want that sort of thing online. If she took it down then people do talk and she might not have wanted to come back to lets of messages saying "saw you were at A&E it must be bad as you've taken it down."

She did do you a favour by driving you there, so I wouldn't make too much of it.

YADNBU.

I delete people for this as it annoys me so much, always the same shit. 'Check in', lap up sympathy, get PMs, attention seeking twits.

I have a lovely friend (middle-aged like me) who always does this. It really makes me cringe I just can't stand all the "you ok hun" nonsense. I never comment just wait until I see her to ask how she is. If was something really important she would let me know personally.

Does it matter? She drove you. He was fine. She didn't blast about dn over fb. Pop a little thankyou on her checkin for driving you both today. Win win!

I dereg'd from Facebook at least 5 years ago and people were pulling stunts like this back then!

Incredible that people are still doing the same old crap for attention.

Yanbu to find it offensive and cringeworthy.

So she drove you to the hospital and waited with you for several hours...didn't spread the fact your kid was poorly around, inciting mass family panic ...and you're bothered about her squeezing a little bit of drama out of a probably very boring day?

YANBU! Absolutely hate attention seeking like this.

Whenever I see people post stuff like this they always sink in my estimation somewhat and my twat radar goes off the scale.

Reply to the check in, say something like all ok, thank you all for the concern for my son

YADNBU. This is cringe, all the "You ok hun" "PM me" rubbish, when it's not even about her!

“Squeezing a little drama out of a boring day” Ya what?! Do you realise how pathetic that sounds? Are you ops sister?

Does it matter? She drove you. He was fine. She didn't blast about dn over fb. Pop a little thankyou on her checkin for driving you both today

Yeap. I hate hospitals and am not very good at accompanying people there. In fact, that is my main fear of growing old all the hours that old people have to spend at the outpatients. Let her have her frankly peculiar little pleasure.

I wonder if the posters defending the sister are the kind of people who check in everywhere and document every last piss, shit and fart on FB?

Those of you asking if she’s very young...from my experience, middle aged women are far, far worse for this kind of thing than teenagers or young people.

This is my experience as well. My DM is dreadful, she will go on holiday and check in at the airport, then check in when she arrives at the other airport, then check in at the hotel and at every bar, restauarnt and tourist attraction she visists whilst there and then check in when its time to go home. With her its definitely attention seeking, and its toe curlingly embarassing to see.

The worst I've ever seen though was someone who checked into a crematorium. I thought that was the height of bad taste.

I wonder if the posters defending the sister are the kind of people who check in everywhere and document every last piss, shit and fart on FB?

Nope, the cap doesn't fit me.

The sister drove the OP to the hospital, spent hours in the waiting room with the OP and the OP, takes all that for granted and is giving out about a stupid facebook post.

I rarely check in on Fb and have never checked into a hospital. Even though I've spent many days there over the last year. I still think OP is over-reacting.
It's a certain personality type that checks into a hospital so I doubt this was out of character for OP's DSIS .I don't understand why she's taking it so personally.