To not pick my dp and his son up from town

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I’m pregnant and I have sciatica and as of late I’m considering amputation of my leg for pain relief.

Dp and his son have gone to watch a footy match in the next town over and I have had his other son for the day which I didn’t mind at all. I’ve done the weekly shop, trawled to a farm shop at dp request so done lots of lifting, and picking my step son up and in and out of the car. Back is in bits.

Dp just text to say are you not picking us up from town? I said no I can’t my back is killing and I’m pretty tired. Didn’t go down too well - not an explosive argument but could tell he wasn’t happy.

The town centre is about 5 min drove from our house or should I say the train station - but I need to get petrol too and it would mean hobbling across the forecourt and back and it’s not like sitting down gives me any relief.

Aibu to not do it? I don’t think I am being unreasonable to be honest.

If he's too cheap for a 5 minute taxi why couldn't they walk?

No problem with non drivers necessarily, I didn't learn til I was 34, but I do have an issue with people who just expect lifts within walking distance.

And ESPECIALLY if you've been looking after his other child all day.

For any future outing he has, suggest you preempt a day or two earlier. You’re off to x, if you’re wanting a lift can you do the shop the day before and organise care for the children as otherwise I’ll be wiped out like when you went to the footy the other week.

How old are his kids?

He sounds like a prince amongst men. I am not sure why you have posted, sounds like you think his behaviour is endearing

well Like pp have said he has legs so he can get himself to and from his locations of choice.

@DishingOutDone I love my dh and wouldn't replace him for anything but sometimes he can say or do something which warrants a rant. Sometimes I might be wrong and something he might be wrong or we are both wrong. Doesn't make our relationship awful but think forum can be a good place to find perspective.

The op is in pain, wants to rest but couldn't decide who was in the wrong. Communication could have helped yes but like many men the dh just doesn't realise what it's like to grow a tiny human (parasite as I like to call mine) and so forget themselves when they come out with stupid comments.

OP. Hope you are feeling better today. Keep resting and get the dh to make you a nice dinner today

He's not going to get how tired you are if you keep doing everything. Can't believe after your original post you then made dinner! If you don't behave as if you're tired, why would he think you are?
You don't need permission to sit down, go to bed, or leave childcare t o him. Just remember actions speak louder than words, and your actions speak as loudly as his. If you keep on doing stuff while saying you're tir ed, you're sending mixed messages.
Although as he is a father already he should ' get' pregnancy.

I have relationships with non drivers
They are turned out the same, the gratefulness at the start then merely turned i to entitlement to be driven around like Miss Daisy
Id never be with a non driver now