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AIBU to ask someone not to block me in my driveway?

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Leona11 · 24/08/2019 11:57

I had to go knocking round all of my neighbours this morning before 0930 as someone blocked me into my drive and I couldn’t get out for work. The same car has blocked me a good few times before but as I wasn’t in a rush, I didn’t do anything. I’m super stressed about work right now (really affecting the awful anxiety I manage on a daily basis) and I’m worried that I have been cheeky.

The car turned out to belong to a carer - when she answered the door, she said ‘Oh yeah I’m blocking you’. I said that in future perhaps she could knock to check I’m not about to leave the house or leave a quick note on her windscreen to let me know how long she’d be, as a courtesy, as it happens a lot. She seemed to really take a huff and I could hear her moaning about me to someone on the phone although she moved the car. I’m not one of those people that would complain about an ambulance etc at my door of course, but for routine, everyday visits, AIBU to have said this to her? Thanks so much for your views!

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Nanny0gg · 24/08/2019 13:50

In our cul de sac, a carer three times a day was causing havoc, our neighbour went to the house owner and asked why the carer did not park in his large drive. He said he wasn`t having that, no carers allowed on his land in their cars. This carer looks after his wife who really does need the care because he does sod all. Retired chief inspector, so you would think he might be a little more intelligent.

I would say that's for the carer's company to take up in light of numerous complaints from the neighbours.

BoneyBackJefferson · 24/08/2019 13:54

SavingSpaces2019

The problem with the university sticking notices on windows was the size of them (A4) and the glue that they used which made the notes very difficult to take off and were causing damage to the cars windows.

It meant that driving the cars would have been illegal, which caused even more problems with parking on campus.

BrokenWing · 24/08/2019 14:13

You have, inadvertently, just given her permission to block your drive if she leaves a note 🤦‍♀️

Make a point of asking her to move (and drive around the block if necessary) every time you see she has blocked you in. Then tell her not to park there anymore.

Ravenblack · 24/08/2019 14:14

@Leona11

Absolutely 100% not being unreasonable.

I know RIGHT NOW - 3 different people who are having issues with carers and their inconsiderate parking. And in every single case, the person they are visiting has a driveway. They just cannot be arsed to take the extra 30 seconds it takes to park on the driveway. And they don't even park down the road a bit (like 2 car lengths,) or in a better, more convenient place; they park opposite the driveway every single time.

One woman I know who is suffering these thoughtless, selfish individuals left her house at 2pm the other week, to go pick up her daughter to take her to the airport. When she left the house, she saw the carer who goes to the man opposite, had parked directly opposite her driveway, (on the dropped kerb,) and about 3 feet from the kerb opposite, so my friend could not reverse out.

She went to knock the door to ask her to move, and the man said the carer sees three people in this road (55 houses,) and she has parked there and gone to the other 2 first. So she has blocked in my friend, and fucked off down the road to some other person's house, and the poor chap didn't know where. She had to enlist 4 or 5 neighbours to go knocking on all the doors in the street to find the stupid selfish woman.

After 5-6 minutes, this carer came up the road red-faced, and said to my friend 'I am trying to do a job here!' like it was my friend's fault! Ignorant woman! My friend said 'and I am trying to get my car out of my drive so I can take my daughter to the airport!' The carer said 'can she not get a taxi?' My friend said 'are actually kidding me right now? How dare you?' And as soon as she got home she reported the carer to the council.

She never saw her again. Apparently, she got moved out of that area.

I also know a man who works night shifts, (12 hour shifts in a factory,) who struggles to get into his drive EVERY SINGLE MORNING when he comes in at 8am, because the 'morning carer' is there opposite his drive. Sometimes he cannot get in, and has to park down the road, and move the car after she has gone. He says he is not prepared to go banging on peoples doors, trying to get the silly cow to move, when he has done a 12 hour shift.

ANOTHER person I know parks her car on the road, (outside her house,) because she has no driveway, and the carer parks opposite her EVERY SINGLE DAY, closing the gap and almost blocking the road up. One time, a delivery lorry could not get through, and my friend refused to move her car, saying 'make that bloody carer move! She is the daft cow who blocked up the road, not me!' The person's house who the carer was at, had a 4 car driveway too!

Loads of people suffer these pillocks too. I don't give a shit that they do supposedly a tough job. PLENTY of people do tough jobs and don't act like utter entitled arseholes. And it's naff-all to do with people not wanting the carers on their drives. EVERYONE ELSE parks on the drives. (Visitors/delivery men/Tesco dot com people/workmen..) It's just the fecking carers who park so badly!

Another problem is, when you tell these carers to park more considerately, some of them do. But then a month later, different carers come, and THEY start blocking people in, so you have to tell THEM then.

OP, report these people to the council. Do it Tuesday when they re-open.

As a few posters have said, it is illegal to park on a dropped kerb!

BlankTimes · 24/08/2019 14:18

Don’t even actually mind her blocking the drive way

But you SHOULD mind. You really should. Not only is it an offence, what she's doing is beyond inconsiderate

Everyone else with a driveway who needs access to their own property minds.

What if there was an emergency, not just medical for the emergency services, but general household things like electrician or plumber - he's not going to leave his van out of sight in case all his tools get stolen.

rwalker · 24/08/2019 18:12

I too would not mind her blocking my drive until you said about her shit attitude
You were being more than accommodating and she is just rude so would complain to her company and tell her not to park there again at all.

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