To let him in

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Really could do with an outsiders perspective.
Split with husband 8 months ago due to his alcoholism and abusive behaviour.
I've had a couple of one night stands since, I've been talking to this guy for over a month, met on bumble. He travels a lot for work, I missed meeting up with him last time he was back but he's home tomorrow and has asked to come to my house when he arrives at 2am.
Is this unreasonable?
I've never done this before, someone to turn up to my house for sex, should I offer him a drink or do we get straight down to business!?
The previous one night stands were with people I already knew.
This feels like a completely different ball game.
Also do I let him stay over or ask him to leave... or am I completely out of my depth here?

Christ if I’m still up at 2am I’m so chill I don’t think I’d get up to even let my fiancé in 😂

So your plan is to let stranger in at 2am. Who you hardly know. He could tie you up and Rob you or even kill you for all you know. If you don't know someone don't give them your address your putting yourself in danger

Nah. Just tell him to go home to his wife/partner.

Jesus no - please do not let a complete stranger into your house for sex. Ever.

Do not do this. Far too dangerous

Nope. Don't let a stranger into your house at 2am, that's crazy.

Meet him the next day at a sociable hour where there are other people about in a cafe or bar to suss him out a bit, or if you are dead set on sex that first night at least meet him in a hotel and tell a friend where you are.

2am is a booty call.
No!!!
What are you thinking ?

Have you got ambitions to get murdered?

My darling, you are being used as a free hotel with perks. Are you really going to wait up until 2am for a stranger? Are you even in the mood? Tell him no, get to bed and in the morning have a word with yourself about self worth.

have a word with yourself about self worth

If the OP was a man nobody would mention self-worth!! It’s so offensive!

@skittlenommer if the OP was my male friend and told me the same scenario I would say the exact same thing. No one is saying don’t have fun on this thread. It’s a random guy off the internet arriving at her home at 2am? It’s offensive to her that he has suggested it.

The fact that he asked to come to yours at 2am is a bit of a worry. Most decent blokes would realise that’s not on

Nothing wrong with ONS or just meeting for sex though - ignore the pearl clutches.

Please don't. I speak from experience, it is not safe. He could be anybody, probably married, possibly diseased. Meet in public first time.

Not in a million years
Do you live alone or have DC's?

Agree with all the above, likely married and looking for sex only

Bloody hell i'm a bloke and i'd just not want to impose a 2am meet on a woman I hardley knew!

I fuck a lot of strangers, but this is taking risk to a whole new level.

Ask him to book a hotel room and meet him in the bar (or a bar in town) so you can suss him out and walk away if your instincts tell you to. (And fucking listen to those instincts - we have them for a reason. As women we are often socially conditioned not to heed them, not to "make a scene", not to "embarrass everyone". Fuck that. I'd rather embarrass myself, the bloke in question, and indeed my entire family
than get raped/robbed/murdered.)

If he wants a guaranteed shag at 2am then there's plenty of escorts who will be happy to oblige.

Are you really that desperate to wait up & let a complete stranger into your house at 2am for leg over?

Honestly. You really need to take a step back & see how terrible this sounds, not to mention potentially dangerous.

I'm no prude, but come on OP, this screams potentially dangerous & very desperate behaviour.

I second what @FuriousVexation says.

I've had a lot of 'fun times' too ... but this takes it to a whole new level.

No no no and no...what are you thinking? Please don't do this, it's dangerous and nobody reasonable would suggest this. Block and move on. Do the Freedom Programme and find some self esteem and confidence before you head off to date. Come on OP, you know this is not OK otherwise you wouldn't be asking. Be safe please!

Are you insane? This man is a complete stranger. Of course you shouldn’t let him into your house at 2am for sex.

Have some common sense and self respect. Good god.

Ok so we are all agreed we disapprove. Are still you all ok with victim blaming as well?

I've had loads of casual sex and even I think this is unwise, OP. Mainly because he thinks it's acceptable to turn up at the house of a woman he has never met, at 2am in the morning, hoping for sex. When it comes to OLD, any man who isn't willing to meet you in a public place for the first time is either thick as mince, or predatory and hopes you are stupid/desperate.
It's not like picking up a man in a club and taking him home at 2am either. In that sort of situation you've chatted to the bloke, got some sort of impression of whether he's OK and whether you fancy shagging him or not, etc. You know nothing about this random. Even if he doesn't have harmful intentions towards you, it could be crashingly awkward if you find you don't fancy one another and if he's a reasonable bloke who would accept that you're not going to spread your legs, or you'd prefer him to leave, how is he going to get home at that time of night?

Tell him no thanks. And if he either tantrums or tries to persuade you by insisting he's a 'nice guy' cut all contact immediately, because that will be a clear indication that he is a nasty bit of goods.

It's 2.19am now

I think that your question was, do I offer him a drink before we get down to business, ha ha.. are you real.. just don't go along with all this,it sounds very dodgy.