To mention wanking again

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After seeing the previous thread in a bit dubious but here goes and I've name changed in fear of flaming

My DH asked me to order him some coils for his vape. He had gone to bed and I couldn't find the website he usually has them from type etc. So I went on his phone in the history to find it and I noticed he has been watching a lot of porn. Now I know all men wank but what I am upset about is that he hasn't been interested in having sex with me for months. I put it down to that he was tired so haven't challenged it but clearly from his history he is horny!! I'm really hurt to be honest that he would rather wank to porn than have sex with me.

Ok update. I spoke to him and he said we don't have enough sex and he knows I'm tired and stressed so doesn't want to bother me or keep asking. I want to have more sex but my libido is low. I still fancy him.and want to improve - any tips???

I honestly think that the more you do it, the more you want it.

I would have a few drinks and start with a vibrator to get you in the mood and relaxed. Then give him a BJ to relax him and then just get down and dirty......

And not all men watch porn and wank. A ridiculous statement.

I would go the opposite way. Start with kissing. When you won’t be disturbed but no sex. Long snogging sessions. You’ll both want to go further but ignore that as far as possible. It’s like hitting the reset button and I think it really works.

Do that for a week and then see how your drive is. Then build up slowly kissing and oral/ touching and whatever your thing is. No penetration for aa long as you can...couple of weeks. Then when you finally give into what you both want it’ll be epic!

Do you know why your libido is low? Are you tired a lot? I recently came off the pill ( to see if I was menopausal as the pill stopped my periods) at my sex drive went through the roof, so it seems that the pill was reducing my libido. I also find that stress and tiredness have a negative effect.

Low libido is a very common side effect of hormonal BC that is hardly ever mentioned when it's prescribed.