AIBU to be pissed off?

[Feelingpoorlyareyou]

Been with my boyfriend for a year, we don’t live together but in the same area. He’s been busy with work so haven’t had time to see each other , on Monday I called him a few times didn’t pick up, so texted him and asked if he could call me back. He didn’t because he fell asleep, fine. Called him on Tuesday, he was at the gym so couldn’t speak. Wednesday he was with his mum because his grandmother was at the hospital, so later that evening he texts me saying he will have a shower and we can ‘ have a talk ‘ once he’s settled. So I say I’ll call at 10pm, he’s fine with that. Call him at 10pm, he doesn’t pick up and texted me saying he’s currently on the phone but will call me back once he’s finished. So I sit there and wait for an hour, I texted him saying I’m going to bed soon and if he’s going to call me back? He then said he fell asleep (which really annoyed me, cuz when he got off the phone with whoever he was speaking to, he just rolled over and fell asleep knowing I was waiting for him?) he just asked if he can come round tomorrow after gym(today) I said yes, he was suppose to be here at 1pm today, he didn’t show up so I call him and he says he’s ill ( he did sound like he had the flu so I don’t think he’s lying) I told him he doesn’t have to come if he’s not feeling well, he says he will come anyway ( I think he felt guilty) anyway 3 hours goes by no text or call even though I can see he’s been on WhatsApp literally every 10 mins. So I just sent him a text saying I’ve been trying to speak to you all week, basically explaining how patient ive been with him and I just give up.

He basically just lost it calling me ‘an inconsiderate piece of shit’ how I’m ‘always arguing with him’ and how ‘he keeps going to the toilet ‘ and ‘ I don’t give a fuck if he’s ill’ and then told me to leave him alone.

AIBU to think that in the 3 hours he was online on WhatsApp he could just have sent me a text saying he feels worse now and won’t be able to come? I told him not to come if he’s ill, but he said he would anyway. So he knew I was waiting for him. I didn’t say anything for 3 hours because I don’t want to keep pestering him, well enough to be on WhatsApp every 10 mins for 3 hours but not well enough to send me a quick text letting me know he’s not coming so I don’t just sit there waiting for him. Who is BU?

Brace yourself. I think you’re being dumped quite slowly and cruelly. Block the twat.

"an inconsiderate piece of shit"
Genuinely, I would dump someone who spoke to me like that. You're worth more than that.

You both sound like immature kids tbh!

He should make time for you yes but why are you WhatsApp stalking him, it's weird!

Even if the lack of contact could be justified (and it sounds like a series of excuses) that’s a horrible way to talk to your girlfriend, I would not want to stay with him.

Oh he definitely shouldn't speak to you like that!

Just walk away.

Sounds like there's another woman.

I wouldn’t be in a relationship with someone who spoke to me like that.

Raise your bar! He’s a dick.

He’s treating you badly so you’ll dump him. That ways he’s not the bad guy as you ended it. It’s cowardly and on top of how he’s spoken to you I’d just block him and move on

Take a hint he's dumped you .
Although it's shit way of doing it , I got to half way the paragraph and I came to that conclusion. You've let this carry on all week , do not be a mug . Send him a message tell him he's a twat then block him .
Go out with friends and forget about the shit cause clearly he has no thought for you .

I agree with herculepoirot2. He's ending the relationship. He doesn't want to see you sorry

I can't beleive it went that many days and you're still wanting him over.

Don't waste your time.

Yikes. It's over. Block him, forget him and move on.

I actually felt sorry for him until he failed to show up. It sounds like he’s got a lot on and his life sounds pretty exhausting, you can’t blame someone for having the best of intentions of contacting you but then life gets in the way. But there’s no excuse for arranging to meet someone and then not showing up, especially when they’re constantly messaging other people. Why not just say ‘I’m so sorry but I’m too ill to make it today’? He sounds extremely inconsiderate at a point in the relationship where you’re generally making the most effort

Delete, block, forget.

Move on.

“Inconsiderate piece of shit?” Dump the twat.
Thank your lucky stars and don’t look back.

Wow! What a Prince!

He is showing his true colours. Doesn’t matter how “ill” he is there is no excuse for his behaviour. Get rid.

Ill or not, calling you a piece of shit is not acceptable. All the other stuff is annoying but could probably be explained if he was apologetic about it but if his first reaction is to call you horrible names, it's time to call time on this relationship

Block and move on.

Leave him: I’d message and say “I no longer feel our relationship is working out, so it’s best if we just leave it here” and block.

Don’t respond to him. Just leave it now. Let him contact you.

Why do you even still want to see him at this point?

It's not really working is it? Just don't waste any more time on him, he's leading you a merry dance.

How are you even considering for a second staying with someone who has just called you an inconsiderate piece of shit, let alone the fact that he sounds like an utter waste of space?!?! Dump him & move on. You sound far too nice for him.