AIBU to be pissed off?

[Feelingpoorlyareyou]

Been with my boyfriend for a year, we don’t live together but in the same area. He’s been busy with work so haven’t had time to see each other , on Monday I called him a few times didn’t pick up, so texted him and asked if he could call me back. He didn’t because he fell asleep, fine. Called him on Tuesday, he was at the gym so couldn’t speak. Wednesday he was with his mum because his grandmother was at the hospital, so later that evening he texts me saying he will have a shower and we can ‘ have a talk ‘ once he’s settled. So I say I’ll call at 10pm, he’s fine with that. Call him at 10pm, he doesn’t pick up and texted me saying he’s currently on the phone but will call me back once he’s finished. So I sit there and wait for an hour, I texted him saying I’m going to bed soon and if he’s going to call me back? He then said he fell asleep (which really annoyed me, cuz when he got off the phone with whoever he was speaking to, he just rolled over and fell asleep knowing I was waiting for him?) he just asked if he can come round tomorrow after gym(today) I said yes, he was suppose to be here at 1pm today, he didn’t show up so I call him and he says he’s ill ( he did sound like he had the flu so I don’t think he’s lying) I told him he doesn’t have to come if he’s not feeling well, he says he will come anyway ( I think he felt guilty) anyway 3 hours goes by no text or call even though I can see he’s been on WhatsApp literally every 10 mins. So I just sent him a text saying I’ve been trying to speak to you all week, basically explaining how patient ive been with him and I just give up.

He basically just lost it calling me ‘an inconsiderate piece of shit’ how I’m ‘always arguing with him’ and how ‘he keeps going to the toilet ‘ and ‘ I don’t give a fuck if he’s ill’ and then told me to leave him alone.

AIBU to think that in the 3 hours he was online on WhatsApp he could just have sent me a text saying he feels worse now and won’t be able to come? I told him not to come if he’s ill, but he said he would anyway. So he knew I was waiting for him. I didn’t say anything for 3 hours because I don’t want to keep pestering him, well enough to be on WhatsApp every 10 mins for 3 hours but not well enough to send me a quick text letting me know he’s not coming so I don’t just sit there waiting for him. Who is BU?

The flu doesn't make you have to go to the toilet a lot?

I’d just leave it. Don’t reply, let him contact you. But I understand it will be incredibly difficult if he never does. You’ll always be wondering. If that happens, say it gets to a week and he hasn’t got in touch, then just text him that it’s over and block him. That way you finished it.

Fwiw, if I called my boyfriend and they did not pick up, I'd leave one message and wait for them to call back (I mean, I'd get on with my life in the mean time, but I wouldn't call him repeatedly). Did he always expect you to make the running in the relationship?

"an inconsiderate piece of shit"

That would be it for me. Seriously. I would maybe tell him to fuck off for speaking to me like this and fuck off some more. Then I'd dump and block. I had a boyfriend call me an 'ignorant bitch'. Never spoke to him again. Deleted him from my life.

You really don’t need someone like this in your life, grab your self respect and walk away from him.

^^ as upsetting as it might be OP, I actually think he is waiting for you to end the relationship. Just don't contact him anymore he has treated you dreadfully. Sorry OP hope you find someone who deserves you and treats you better.

I'd leave him to it, to be honest it doesn't sound like he's as invested as you are

I would assume he was ending the relationship and block/delete.

WOW just message him I've been trying to break up with you like a grown up but as your acting like a twat anyways....dont come back dint call me ever again

He's dumped you and neglected to tell you, hoping you'll get the hint.

Block, move on. You're clearly not a priority to him. It shouldn't ever be like this, let alone so early on.

I think it's a bit of a jump to suggest there's another woman but it certainly doesn't sound like he's that into you I'm afraid.

Cut contact and see what happens. He'll either contact you or he won't. But I wouldn't keep chasing him if I was you. It's not working so use another method.

Sounds like he’s trying to get you to dump him but acting like a tool. Sorry OP some men do this. The harsh reality is if he wanted to speak to you he would no matter what else was going, and besides his nan being ill there didn’t seem to be much else going on that would stop him calling. How has the relationship been in the past few months?

Block, end
He doesn’t give enough of a shit about you, particularly at this stage and has called you a piece of shit.

How old is this pathetic man?! He treats you like absolute crap. It seems that the more you hang around waiting for him to grace you with a text, the worse he is getting. It takes a few seconds to send a message: if he can’t be arsed then why waste any more time on him? You deserve better!

He's not into u

He's 33. The reason why I was so patient with him is because he has in the past accused me of 'jumping into conclusions too quick', so I tried to be more understanding of his situation and make excuses for him. But enough is enough, I can't do it anymore. I don't feel like a priority in his life, he's always got an excuse. Fell asleep, this happened, that happened. Can't do it anymore. He says he loves me but it's hard to believe when he treats me like this. He's still on WhatsApp

He hasn't got the courage to say it's over so he's being a dick to make you do it for him.

You can do better.
Mark It down as experience and move on

Don't settle for this rude piece of shit. Dump him and find yourself a decent bloke.

Yeah, he trying to provoke an argument because he's too spineless to be honest and actually end things.

Block on everything and get on with your life.

I wouldn't respond to that msg. Unacceptable

Yeah, I'd leave him alone. Forever.

Honestly, the way he spoke to you is so fucking out of order. I agree with PP, it sounds like he's trying to prompt you to end things, make you the bad guy. Spineless twat.

Don't waste anymore time on him, he clearly doesn't care.

I don't feel like a priority in his life That's because you aren't a priority in his life and you deserve better.

You've wasted a year on this twat, surely that's enough.

Focus now on your self-esteem.

This is an awful way to accept being treated by anyone.