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Aibu to book a night away with dd while dh has gone on a lads trip

26 replies

epari · 22/08/2019 17:14

My husband thinks I'm being petty but he's going to Amsterdam (where he grew up) with his best friend for a night basically to go smoke.

That doesn't bother me, what bothers me is that in the whole 16 months we've had dd I haven't had one night away, he couldn't get a day off work to watch her when I was attending a wedding with his sister, so I ended up having a shitty night with a tired baby and then I ended up coming home early! Never mind but he's managed to get 3 days off work for his "trip". And he's on his annual leave a week later as we are going on holiday.

Anyways I want to go for a night to Paris with dd, but he thinks I'm being petty and there's no need because we are going on holiday after he comes back? But that isn't the point? I've always wanted him to take me on random little nights to Holland/Paris etc but he says it's pointless

Would I be unreasonable to just take me and dd off so I can tour do the Louvre etc !?

OP posts:
CheezerGoode · 22/08/2019 17:15

If you can afford it, then do it.

Enjoy!

IDontDrinkTea · 22/08/2019 17:18

Do it. You’ll have a lovely time

Muchtoomuchtodo · 22/08/2019 17:18

Not U at all as long as finances allow.

Have fun!

OverpricedFloorCushion · 22/08/2019 17:20

Do it... leave him with DD though and give yourself a break

ArkwrightsTill · 22/08/2019 17:22

If there’s no need for you to have a night away because you’re going on holiday then there’s no need for him to have a night away either....

BeanBag7 · 22/08/2019 17:24

Go for it! He is a big hypocrite if he says you dont need a holiday when he is having one!
On the other hand I think one night in Paris is a bit of a waste - travelling all the way there for one night and travelling back the next day? Why not go for 2 nights.

RedForShort · 22/08/2019 17:25

Did you ask why there's a need for him to go away if your all going on holiday?

GreenFingersWouldBeHandy · 22/08/2019 17:25

I've always wanted him to take me on random little nights to Holland/Paris etc but he says it's pointless

But it's OK for him to take 3 days to go and get stoned?

Sounds like a right charmer. Not exactly the most romantic soul in the world, is he?

Just do what you want; it won't affect him either way so none of his business.

Shoxfordian · 22/08/2019 17:26

Go and do it, you'll have fun

Leave him with the baby one weekend and go off with your friends

ThatssomebadhatHarry · 22/08/2019 17:28

Petty is an odd response.

He sounds like a wanker.

NoSauce · 22/08/2019 17:31

If you think you’ll enjoy it on your own with DD and you’re not just doing because he’s going away then I’d say do it! I love Paris. One night is a bit rubbish though, can you make it two Grin

DrinkSangriaInThePark · 22/08/2019 17:33

He sounds very selfish.

sergeilavrov · 22/08/2019 17:35

Not unreasonable at all! Introducing your daughter to travel and culture is a wonderful thing to do if it’s affordable: the Louvre has great facilities for little ones. Book tickets in advance and use the southern entrance, much less busy. Tell him that petty would be making him take her to Amsterdam and ruining their lads weekend Grin

cacklingmags · 22/08/2019 17:35

Go to Paris with DD.
Go away for a weekend and leave him with DD.
Tell him he is a world class fecker.

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epari · 22/08/2019 17:37

I could go for two nights. I was thinking this or to see my family up north. He's like "so I'm going to be in dam and you will be in Paris at the same time?"

Erm yes lmao.

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epari · 22/08/2019 17:39

@sergeilavrov

Thanks!

I was like "well we could come along, and I'll randomly stroll past you while you're in the cafe, I'm sure dd would love Amsterdam" his face was a picture GrinGrin

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NoSauce · 22/08/2019 17:39

Why shouldn’t you? What’s his problem? Definitely do something OP.

BearFoxBear · 22/08/2019 17:41

I don't know why you're wavering over it. I do this all the time when DH is travelling for work, me and ds have a lovely time in loads of different places!

Disfordarkchocolate · 22/08/2019 17:41

That sounds lovely. If you went to see family could you have some time without DD?

BackforGood · 22/08/2019 18:59

Not unreasonable at all to go away for a night or two, but personally, I think I'd prefer to book it when he were home to look after dd and not be struggling to manage a 16month old through all the hassle that is travel and then carting her round places in Paris - nowhere near as relaxing as doing that without her maybe next month when he looks after her.

FudgeBrownie2019 · 22/08/2019 19:01

I take the DCs away when DH is away. They love travelling, I love travelling, DH hates travelling so it's a winner.

Vgbeat · 22/08/2019 19:36

I would say go away yes but it does sound like you making an excuse do it as at 16 months your little one will have no interest in the Louvre or remember it.

raspberryk · 22/08/2019 19:38

I would book a spa break by myself and leave dd with him. The day he gets home!

Star801 · 22/08/2019 19:44

Go! I’ve done solo trips with DS when DH is too busy with work.

filka · 22/08/2019 19:58

If he's not at home, why would he care whether you were or not, provided DD is being looked after properly.

And if it was a money issue, why is his trip to AMS ok, but yours not?

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