lilmishap I arrived as a baby to refugee parents in the UK and for all my childhood knew only unemployed or labourers in my social sphere. Education opened the door for me but even then I only got a 2:2 despite my shitty schooling where no one in my year even got 5 GCSEs.
Fast forward 20 years later and I'm in a job whose sales team will share a £1million bonus from a single sales deal and I typically will pocket what many people earn in a year as a commission on top of a high six figure salary excluding share options ..
yadeyadeya....you get the picture...
Anyway my point is yes it's a bit boastful but I got here by sheer utter stubborness in terms of work ethic, studying night and day to be an expert in my field, constant professional exams and qualifications as well as the ability to risk it all and change jobs every 2 years to leap frog pay rises... whilst managing two small children. Admittedly I paid a lot in childcare even if it meant paying for childcare on my credit card and I carried a hefty childcare debt for 2 years once owing on my credit card £8000 inorder for me to work (I was a single mother at the time).
I don't think there is a magic formula but there are certain character traits such as risk taking, common career attributes such as being able to adapt, move and be able to deal outside your comfort zone as well as your station coupled with outstanding social softskills.
Yes it's absolutely true we will only hire you if we think you are going to fit in. My company won't trust you to complete a £70million dollar deal if you don't look, act or speak the part. This took me ages to figure out. No one in my sphere ever taught me, I just taught myself with a lot of trial, copy and error.
Lilmishap social group has now come after the high earnings to the point I now don't know anyone who isn't middle class. I am not sure if that's a bad thing or not but my world socially and professionally doesn't provide many opportunities to collide with other social groups unless I actively seek it like on Mumsnet or volunteering.