For having a BBQ at ds's 2nd birthday party

[onetiredmummy]

Get this. Ds's birthday party is next Saturday, and as we have large family there will be lots of adults there. Most of these adults will be travelling down specially (coming south in August on a Sat!)& the journey is min 2 hours from the nearest, they will be driving back on the same day too. Dh has decided to do a BBQ but there will still be party food for any children who turn up.

Went to see MIL today & she has informed me that I am being selfish for doing a BBQ, that birthday parties are meant for the children and no adult in their right mind wants feeding. She says I am taking the attention away from ds by making it an adult event & generally stopping it being a birthday party.

I don't know what to do now, am I spoiling his party?

we have done a BBQ for DDs first and second birthdays...we also had some of DSs friends over...at teh age of 1 & 2 , they don;t really understand it all, so why not make it a party the adults and older children can enjoy too?

i did it for ds' 1st birthday and i do admit the party was more for the adults than for him cos he didn't know what was going on and i wanted an excuse for a party. there were only a few children there but what child doesnt like burgers and sausages?

I would do a bbq for dd birthday except it's at the end of jan .

So we do a buffet type thing with food both children and adults will eat.

I am also tight i will not do big birthdays for dd (who is only 3). I do not see the point of spending £100's for a party when they will not remember it, i'd rather put the money in her trust fund.

A lot of her friends are from the beginning of dec to mid feb. And last year i was they only one who just invited a few of her close friends so she had about 5 children her age, and all the other mums how good it was and it was the only party where noone had a tanturm.

Absolutely agree with custardo! None of her business how you choose to celebrate ds's birthday. Even if he was a lot older!

We did similar for ds's first birthday - not bbq as his birthday is in fab but it was a party for adults and children. Does she honestly think all your family should make all that effort to come for no food? Mad woman!!!!

No reason on earth that I can think of why you shouldn't enjoy his party as well! In fact only reason I might not do bbq is that I would be worried about having to constantly police it for fear of children getting burnt. But then I have a small garden, crap bbq and a younger child. And I would definately have party for adults too. You do what you want and have a lovely day!

birthday in feb not fab!

Only read OP:

Yes I agree with your MIL you are a selfish selfish person and should be hung for not wanting to create french fancies and mini sausage rolls etc by hand on the morning of the party!! (I am of course Joking!!)

Ask her if she'd like to do the food then?!! What's she on about? It's your DS's birthday, that's the whole point and no-one's going to forget that just cos your cooking food for them?!! What a nutter!!

We did a BBQ (NEVER again LOL) last year for DD's 1st birthday and she loved it, there was only one other child but she got all the attention she needed, being passed from person to person for gifts and hugs all afternoon (didn't even go for a nap and was still in a good mood!!)

If people are travelling the country for the occasion then that in itself tells you that they know what they're coming for! It's not like they're just coming to be fed FFS

I could go on and on like this all evening now. . . . Stop me somebody. . . . My furious typing is getting me a stare from DH. . . .

Well, I guess that MIL will not be eating any of that food she so easily disparages at the weekend, will she?

She talking out of her a**e! I'm sure DS will just be happy that everyone came to his party and he will still be the centre of attention no doubt by all the attendees. I'm sure you'll have a fantastic day!...and what a treat for the adults....yum yum!