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To be pissed of at my boss

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notagoodidea · 20/08/2019 20:53

Ok sorry it is s bit long but didn't want to drip feed. Got a boss who is a nightmare and she likes to publicly humiliate people, do she tried to do it to me a couple of weeks ago by printing out a couple of documents she claimed showed I had made a mistake on. She the waved them about as she marched over to my desk and slapped them down and announced loudly in the open plan office that I had done them wrong. When I looked at them and noticed that they were partial documents of the same thing and pointed that out to her she got onto a temper and stomped off. An hour later she announced that i would be working at a different location for the next two weeks for training purposes, ok but the new location is 24.5 miles further away from my home so almost 50 extra miles a day travelling, an extra hour at least of travel time. Of course there was no training provided I was just hot desking at another location. Then an insulting meeting towards the end of the 2 weeks where I did not show the appropriate degree of gratefullness for the previous 2 weeks of non training i was told it was now extended a further 2 weeks. So I will be forced to drive an extra 1000 miles, spend £300 on fuel and with the extra travel time loose around 26 hours, just because she is a bitch. And the £300 is coming out of my holiday savings. I am beyond livid and feel like walking out. How can I kill her and hide the body?

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messolini9 · 21/08/2019 16:07

JEEZ, @Lilylay Flowers

I have posted about her before she was the lovely boss who told me to wear a thicker pad rather then go home during a miscarriage

Although you have just reminded me of a boss I managed to sidestep years ago ... who told a colleague on the day she returned to work after a MC that she was "more interested in trying for another baby than her job".

How these arseholes don't get documented & dismissed is ... bewildering, enraging! Colleague above was far too upset to want to pursue action.

messolini9 · 21/08/2019 16:11

excuse me, just for clarity - colleague's boss was female.
Not that there's any more excuse for a male to talk this way, but ... with women like that, I wonder how they can't see they are playing for Team Patriarch ...

HollowTalk · 21/08/2019 16:14

What would happen if you just couldn't afford to go there? That's a lot for someone to pay out. And what if someone's car wasn't up to those journeys, or if they didn't have a car?

Could you call in the morning and say your car has broken down?

MerryBerryCheesecake · 21/08/2019 16:22

Are there no nearly finished roadworks anywhere on the route of your long extra commute, maybe with a nice deep hole already dug out, works finished with and waiting to be filled in?

messolini9 · 21/08/2019 16:25

I said I did not see any benefit to bieing here. Was told they think it is beneficial so I have to stay the 2 weeks extra

"That's great boss. To make sure I am getting the maximum benefit from the training, can I see the documented course aims & objectives? I would also like a written precis of what skills you are expecting me to improve through the training, so I can refer to it & make sure I'm doing my part correctly."

If you email the gist of that, it should help fix her, @notagoodidea - because you will then have a documented record of you formally asking what the training consists of & why you are expected to be there.
(& informally - any rep or senior manager with a brain will work out that your email is actually saying "WTF? - why are you resource-wasting, gameplaying & victimising, you silly bitch".)

Also, dress up in a vicar suit one evening, disguise your face, follow her home & kick her up the arse, Father Ted-style before running smartly away. I know it's a tad short of your preferred murder spree, but imagine the howling relief of your uncontrollable cackling as you flee the scene!

FixTheBone · 21/08/2019 16:30

Document it all. Save all emails. Record all conversations.

Speak to an employment lawyer now, ask them what constitutes constructive dismissal, be alert for anything that could qualify and save that as well.

BlackCatSleeping · 21/08/2019 16:32

Yeah, I have bad news. It’s pretty impossible to plan the perfect murder these days as we are being tracked by CCTV, satnavs, our phones, etc. The only people that get away with it is just dumb luck on their part. I thought about this a lot when I was with my Ex.

She sounds awful though. Can you go off sick? Fake a back injury or something?

ElizaDee · 21/08/2019 16:42

Just keep lacing her tea with liquid laxative.

ChikiTIKI · 21/08/2019 16:58

Just writing in my support of you. It's awful having horrible managers like this. They must have no life whatsoever outside of work. I often sit at work and think, what is it that makes some office workers so horrible. Is it some Lord of the Flies type psychology going on?! Isn't it so much easier to just be nice..... :/

TimeIhadaNameChange · 21/08/2019 17:12

If it's training you can't possibly get any other work done, now can you? Take a book and find somewhere to read.

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notagoodidea · 21/08/2019 18:44

Thanks for the support, I am documenting everything and I put in a sneaky milage claim with the extended hours on it and they didn't notice, do fingers crossed o might get travel time if it goes through 🤞

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Sceptre86 · 21/08/2019 18:47

Under the patio? At a building site?

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notagoodidea · 21/08/2019 18:47

Time, the thing is I am expected to be working and just not notice that there is no training at all, they would be all over me if I was not at the hot desk working, I get looks if I take a loo break

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notagoodidea · 21/08/2019 18:48

Good ideas Sceptre

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LemonPrism · 21/08/2019 19:16

I would be expensing the fuel...

LemonPrism · 21/08/2019 19:19

Should've RTFT. I've head and icicle is the best murder weapon as the evidence melts... not long to wait until winter

LemonPrism · 21/08/2019 19:21

Heard an* ffs

ThatCurlyGirl · 21/08/2019 19:22

She sounds like a right fucking Emma.

(If you know you know)

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FawnDrench · 21/08/2019 20:04

After every interaction or conversation, immediately email her with the gist of what was discussed and what your understanding of it is, what she said, what you said etc as a "synopsis" to clarify that you understand from a "business perspective" or whatever - and particularly with regard to all this "training".

Keep all and any documentation as I'm sure you already do.

If she doesn't reply to your emails you can start each one with a phrase such as "further to our telephone conversation / face to face discussion on such a date at such a time in such a place, I am writing to confirm / clarify that my understanding is blah blah blah. If I don't hear back from you to the contrary by such a date, I will assume that you are in agreement with the contents of this email".

Chickenpie9 · 21/08/2019 20:15

Do you get work sick pay ? I would consider going off with work related stress if you do and finding a new job she sounds an absolute nightmare .

ForalltheSaints · 21/08/2019 21:07

This seems to me to be harassment and/or bullying.

Other than the sickness, which most doctors would probably sign off you for, I think you ought to get legal advice.

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notagoodidea · 22/08/2019 07:31

The off sick for stress idea might be worth a go, will try to get doctors appointment to try it, thank you

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RandomMess · 22/08/2019 08:54

You don't need a sick note for the first week!

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notagoodidea · 22/08/2019 15:19

Trying a new tactic today. Singing along badly to the radio playing in the background, they will either switch off the radio or send me back 😁

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BlackCatSleeping · 22/08/2019 15:37

Can you eat some beans and fart a lot? Really stinky ones! Don’t forget to forget to shower either.

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