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AIBU or my neighbour?

38 replies

Justme1234567 · 19/08/2019 18:39

I’m currently on a year introduction tenancy (not sure what they are called) and I turned music on whilst I was cleaning (which I assumed was normal) my neighbour then banged on my door and when I opened it she screamed TURN YOUR MUSIC DOWN AND LET ME ENJOY MY GARDEN it was 1pm, she then proceeded to make a complaint and I’ve been told to come into the office to discuss, can they do this even though it was 1pm?

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Original poster
Justme1234567 · 19/08/2019 18:40

I never listen to music it was only because my headphones werent charged

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Stressedout10 · 19/08/2019 18:41

How loud was your music?

73Sunglasslover · 19/08/2019 18:41

Depends on how loud it was TBH.

ChardonnaysPrettySister · 19/08/2019 18:42

She should not have screamed but it’s very annoying to have someone else’s music blaring when you’re in your garden.

So both BU.

Pipandmum · 19/08/2019 18:42

I have no idea what an introduction tenancy is. How loud was the music? I would have though normal volume was perfectly fine.

BizzzzyBee · 19/08/2019 18:43

It’s not necessarily illegal to blast music with your windows open, but it isn’t very neighbourly. If you want it loud then close your windows! Regarding her complaint - it depends what the rules of your tenancy say?

CacenCrunch · 19/08/2019 18:44

Unless you were blasting it with the windows open not unreasonable at all. How loud was it?

Original poster
Justme1234567 · 19/08/2019 18:44

It was loud but no base or anything.

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Stressedout10 · 19/08/2019 18:45

Then yes you were being very unreasonable

Ithinkmycatisevil · 19/08/2019 18:46

At 1pm she was being unreasonable. I often turn music in loud and sing in the garden while hanging out washing. My poor neighbours!

Coconutbug · 19/08/2019 18:46

Maybe a bit of both, she shouldn't of reacted that way but you possibly shouldn't of had your music so loud. Maybe she has had nightmare neighbour before and wants to nip it in the bud.

BitOftheSea · 19/08/2019 18:49

It’s a bit antisocial to have music on so loud it disturbs people in their garden, whatever the time of day. She has overreacted to a one off though (maybe bad neighbours lived there before). The fact that you don’t know it’s a bit antisocial seems like she might be right to get the landlords to explain it to you though. Hopefully there won’t be any further consequences.

Boomboomboomboom · 19/08/2019 18:50

Well your tenancy is at risk if you breach it, and no doubt there will be a term about nuisance/annoyance behaviour or anti social behaviour and/or noise but it would be disproportionate for you to be served with a notice to end the introductory tenancy based on one noise breach alone.

Everyone has to try and live in a respectful manner and loud music at any time can be a breach of tenancy.

Hopefully if you explain the circumstances to your housing officer, and your neighbours unacceptable response, you'll get nothing more than an oral or written warning

MaybeitsMaybelline · 19/08/2019 18:53

Tbh I wouldn’t be happy living next door to you 1pm or 1am. Playing loud music
At any time is annoying, imagine if everyone on the street did it all day, full blast. Sound travels. Shit your windows, if you want it loud wear headphones.

Original poster
Justme1234567 · 19/08/2019 18:54

Tha me for your replies everyone, I’m thinking to go over an apologise, but I also would like to let her know I didn’t appreciate how she spoke to me x

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SistersOfMerci · 19/08/2019 18:55

Loud music? Thank goodness you've seen the error of your ways. I had neighbours who did this, it was awful.m

Solonelywastheballard · 19/08/2019 18:59

Depends what you were listening too.

bellabasset · 19/08/2019 19:01

With my windows closed I can hear the thump of the crap coming from 2 doors down. When it was in the garden from 10 pm till the early hours there were complaints from several neighbours.

So what you have to think of is if your neighbours can hear your music is it being selfish?

Cherrysoup · 19/08/2019 19:06

I think you should not apologize. She was over the top dramatic to make a complaint and to shout at you in that way, but you were unreasonable to impact on her. Saying that, plenty of people are very inconsiderate and playmusic in the garden. Also, as a landlord, I have been told that it is not my place to deal with neighbour issues (I have tried to help with something and was told I shouldn't get involved) so when you speak to the agent, mention this. Is it in your contract to not play music?

Sorrysorrysosorry · 19/08/2019 19:19

We had neighbours playing music in their garden yesterday. It was so loud we could hear it indoors. Teen asked us to turn it down, it was so loud it woke him up and he thought it was us!

Loud music is very antisocial no matter what kind of music it is.

ScaryBunnyPainting · 19/08/2019 20:37

I wouldn’t like to hear your music, however I think her reaction was out of line.

inmyshoos · 20/08/2019 11:41

Maybe say something like.... listen im sorry my music upset you so much, was trying to motivate my house cleaning but I'll wear headphones in future. Im sorry about that. Are you ok? ....

Ponoka7 · 20/08/2019 12:11

"but I also would like to let her know I didn’t appreciate how she spoke to me"

Don't go to hers, it could be seen as threatening behaviour. Put a Sorry card through with what you planned to sau about wearing headphones, if you feel you must apologise.

It surprised me that people could complain about noise of a day. I lived in a very noisy area, but my neighbour's (who hated me) complaint was held up by my housing officer (who then told me she would ignore my neighbour's threatening behaviour and intimidation of me.

Any ongoing noise which impacts on your enjoyment of your home or garden can break your tenancy agreement.

You'll just get a telling off. Make sure you state that you usually use headphones and it was a one off.

Travis1 · 20/08/2019 12:19

1 o'clock in the afternoon not morning? She was being unreasonable and would I hell be going to apologising. If she'd contacted the police or council regarding this then she would have been told where to go.
It's what happens when you have neighbours. Sometimes we play loud music.....sometimes my 70 year old neighbour plays loud music in the garden.....sometimes the other neighbour is out in their garden with the fire on until after 11pm. Generally we all rub along. If you want utter peace to enjoy your garden get a detached house with no neighbours.

CTRL · 20/08/2019 12:23

I’m going to disagree with the other posts here saying you were wrong

My neighbours listen to music often and sometimes it’s loud but honestly at 1pm - I don’t care. They have a life and it’s not something they do everyday so I don’t feel the need to complain....

I could understand if you do this everyday and she had complained before but it’s an isolated incident and same way she’s outside enjoying her day, why can you not be inside enjoying yours ??

Why could she not just knock on the door and ask you to turn it down ??

She was unreasonable in my opinion.

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