AIBU or my neighbour?

[Justme1234567]

I’m currently on a year introduction tenancy (not sure what they are called) and I turned music on whilst I was cleaning (which I assumed was normal) my neighbour then banged on my door and when I opened it she screamed TURN YOUR MUSIC DOWN AND LET ME ENJOY MY GARDEN it was 1pm, she then proceeded to make a complaint and I’ve been told to come into the office to discuss, can they do this even though it was 1pm?

Surely if you have neighbours you have to compromise and understand there will be abit of noise every now and then.

If she wants silence 24/7 she should move to a place where she has no neighbours

I swear some people are weird. If she had asked you simply to turn it down I would understand. But to go and complain and now your going to be called in to the office over simply playing music ?

Overreacting I think

Depends on what you were listening to
It was 1 o clock in the afternoon, noise is pretty standard. If not music then it would be somebodies lawnmower or kids playing outside. I can't believe how many people think you were unreasonable! Maybe I just live in a noisy neighbourhood. Seriously what did people do in the days before headphones?!

@Justme1234567 OP I don’t think you did anything wrong at all. I think your neighbour is overreacting. Are they elderly? some people on this thread seem a little dramatic... maybe it’s just me... I’ve lived in some pretty rough neighbourhoods... drug dealers and their shady clientele / screaming arguments / loud motorbikes at all hours a bit of music (if it wasn’t cursing or violent) wouldn’t be a big deal. Some people are just OTT IMO but everyone has different standards on what they will / won’t accept I guess!! Looks like Your stuck next to a moaning myrtle lol

1pm? She’s an arsehole.

1am and you are.

For one whole summer I couldn't sit out in our garden at all. Our neighbours son was a dj and played club music constantly at a really loud volume with the windows open. We fell out about it eventually and were threatened by her husband. Thank God both husband and son have moved out now and life is much more peaceful! I would say if it's a one off that's fine , but not every day or yabu

It's honestly impossible to say without knowing how loud it was. If she could just hear it quietly in the distance then she was being unreasonable, but if it was loud enough to sound like it was playing in her own garden then you were being unreasonable.

Either way, she should probably have said 'Sorry, you probably can't tell how the sound carries from here but could you turn your music down a bit?' rather than shouting at you. Often people actually have no idea that they are disturbing anyone as they just don't know how much their noise carries - it can be really hard to tell.

@Travis1, it is usually against trial tenancy rules, though and strictly speaking they can end your tenancy for it. If it's ongoing then EH will rule in the other tenants favour.

You can lose your rented home for anti-social behaviour.

@ponoka7 music at 1 in the afternoon once is hardly anti social behaviour In one of our rented flats we had utter hell from our upstairs neighbours who were council tenants. I complained, did the journal etc etc had to have the police out because they were actually kicking my door. Still nothing was ever done about them. We moved.

I honestly feel like mumsnet is a parallel universe at times.

It was 1pm in the afternoon, she needs to relax. She would hate me as a neighbour, because I like bass and I'm going to play my music for an hour whilst I clean and thats it.

It's really strange to me what constitutes noise nuisance. I moved from a very quiet rural area to a flat in a busy city centre Street above a salon. I have to have a window open 24/7 as it's small and gets damp quickly. The noise is incredible. Salon plays music that I can hear all day long (SO sick of Billie eilish now!), incessant loud chatter from pedestrians, the front door sticks and has to be slammed every time someone comes or goes from the block, shaking the building, and my personal favourite, people gunning their backfiring cars down the road at all hours of the night.

My NDN plays his ukelele and I can hear it through our party wall. It's a blissful reprieve!

It's just different expectations isn't it, I've always tried to be a considerate neighbour (I'm the sort who worries my tv is too loud even though my adjoined NDN is deaf!) but I live in a street of 'live and let live' types. I wouldn't bat an eyelid at loud music during the day because that's the norm round here but I know my DM's NDN for example would react at least as badly as yours if it happened in their street because it's not the done thing in that area.

I don't think I'd do anything with regard to your neighbour. Attend the meeting, apologise and explain about the headphones and that it won't happen again and put it down to experience. She shouldn't have shouted at you but I think I would just want to draw a line under it and move on.

What a grumpy neighbour you have, I'd just totally ignore her. If her pics weren't falling off the wall then all is good, yeah?