Refuse to be DB Executor - AIBU?

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I've had little contact with DB since childhood...he moved to Spain 20 years back and our relationship is just neutral to mutual disinterest. Out of the blue, I receive an email requesting that I be legal executor to his estate. He owns a lot of properties overseas, has grown up kids - plenty of them too. I have refused, I haven't and don't need to ask the same of him at all. I do feel a little bad, but this feels a bit cheeky fuckery after all these years. I doubt I'd even be a beneficiary. AIBU?

Given the nature of the circumstances , that would only ever work out well for one of the reciprocal parties. 😆

Given that you have very little relationship with him you should definitely say no. As others have said, this could be a very time consuming and complex process especially with overseas investments. If have has many property investments then wouldn't he likely have an accountant? Perhaps they could do it or pay a solicitor.

My boss just finished being executor for his DM's will, he is the Chief Financial Officer of our firm and a lawyer as well. He says never again! Very stressful and time consuming and his siblings/nieces/nephews argued about the division of assets, property sales etc. so it was the most thankless task he'd ever done and he pretty much doesn't want to see his family ever again at this point!

@FinallyHere....in practical terms yes, making the offer is about 'sentiment' and mutual goodwill than two-way practicality. The likelihood of both parties having a dual spouse wipeout would be unlikely. Maybe it could be taken on with the proviso of potentially being 'ghost' appointment! 😂

random question..if someone left you a house overseas could you just refuse it?

@FractalChaos.....probably depends on the jurisdiction of the country , but within the U.K. , yes, I think a beneficiary can refuse any part of an inheritance if that's what they so wish and just need to tell the executor / write to the solicitor stating that they don't want the inheritance. What would actually happen to the inheritance thereafter I'm not sure...probably get offered to other 'next of kin' or failing that government coffers.