Just had a letter child overweight

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Well yea she is a bit but just has large hips and bust and her stomach sticks out a bit bit she is solid no fat tbh. Maybe if they took a look at her medical records they would see she is limited exercise as she has a congenital heart disease and cannot tolerate running jumping as she gets out of breath. But goes swimming a lot as she finds this easier but cannot do a whole length in one go (as her stupid school found out when she got out of the water and passed out as they made her try 2 lengths) then went into meltdown when they realised about her heart even though they had all her medical history and do’s and dont’s. The hospital she attends in London have been asked about her weight and have told us she is healthy and bright and do not worry. She eats healthy all fresh food and veg and her school meals are also healthy they grow all their vegetables and does not have a sweet tooth. She is growing fast so her tummy is going down. Her mum was exactly the same but is only a 12 now she is nearly 12 years old so sir this letter is of no use to us. We keep an eye on whatever she eats get her as much physical exercise that she can tolerate she is a happy child and we will not be contacting you. But will
Gladly take your letter to the hospital when we attend her next checkup

Well if your 12 year old is so ‘solid’ her tummy sticks out and she can’t exercise due to health issues then you bloody owe it to her to keep a tight control of food intake so you don’t facilitate being an overweight child who will have no chance as an adult at loosing the weight.

I had one of these for my ds2. He is like a bean pole now at 18 and I worry about him being underweight ! I never even told him I had received the letter and didn't agree to my other two being weighed after that.

I really wish there was this letter when I was young. I was over weight but because I wasn't as big as my mum at the same age she did t see the problem. Unfortunately bad ha it's formed as a child are hard to shift. I'm
massive now and really wish mum would have taken control of my eating while she had control.

I see so many of my DC's friends who are just a little on the large side and I do feel sorry for them.

Neither of my children have a weight problem but I do try and watch their eating habits to try and ensure they don't binge like I did and do.

There are so many over weight kids nowadays that I think we just see this as being normal. When I went to sports day in June, I would say at least a third of all the kids there were over weight, yet so many parents were outraged with their 'your child is overweight' letters. What annoys me is that my kids are very slim (normal bmi) but everyone comments on how 'skinny' my kids are. No, they are just what kids should look like thanks very much!

Op, as others have said, weight is about 95% diet so maybe you should take an in depth look at what your dc is eating and be honest with yourself. It can't have been nice being told your dc is overweight but you can do soemthing about it before the problem gets worse.

Solid = overweight. Well built = overweight.
Sturdy = overweight.

Being overweight has impacted massively on my life for the past 20 years. Do not let this happen to your daughter.

Folks, consultants are not biased by parental rosy tinted spectacles, they'd have said if weight was a concern, particularly given the nature of her condition. Normal rules don't apply here.

Don’t be ridiculous.
If your daughter is under a specialist medical team, then you should be perfectly able to understand that this measurement is an indicator and nothing more.
Stop getting your knickers in a twist for no reason.
You know you can ignore it as you have specialist medical contact. So accept it for what it is, ignore it, move on.

You really want your daughter’s private medical records available to anyone involved in a national scheme of basic healthy weight indicator?

How much do you think the scheme would take to administer if every child’s medical history had to be reviewed before the letter was sent?

You’re just being silly.

She does sound overweight to me I’m afraid. I’ve lost nearly 3 stone in the last year so some of my size 12s have started to fit me again, but I’m still in the overweight range, so I agree with a pp that size is not an indicator. I’m 5’2. Almost all my friends who were “solid”, “chunky” as kids have grown up to be very overweight adults.

Won’t exercise be harder for her if she is overweight? Again running around in a park and swimming lessons aren’t going to help her weight much. It’s all about diet

I think they are usually right, tbh. My four year old was weighed in December and definitely looked plump, as soon as Xmas was over I just started giving him smaller plates and limiting snacks. I got the letter to say he was indeed a little overweight in April, he was weighed again last month and is fine now. It's really easy with kids. I just bought some fun plates for him that were smaller and didn't keep crap in the house. Better to reign it in now than have them struggle with weight as an adult

When DD2 was 12, the school nurse told her she was fat. When I went in to complain, it turned out the school nurse (who was not slender herself) had not taken DD2's height into consideration when she was weighed. DD2 is very tall and was then, too. When I finally persuaded the nurse that taking her height was relevant, there was a visible lightbulb moment when she realised that DD2 was not fat! How she couldn't tell this just by looking is beyond me, but I think that you need to take letters like this with a pinch of salt. Your child has extenuating circumstances, and so may well sometimes carry more weight and will need to manage that by calorie control. But saying so damages self-esteem. DD2 was very insecure after that, despite everything I said.

The hospital she attends in London have been asked about her weight and have told us she is healthy and bright and do not worry.

It doesn't actually mean she's not overweight or close to it.

How bright she is also has nothing to do with her weight.

Tbh I wouldn't be satisfied with an answer like that because it sounds more like a platitude than a medical answer.