If you're husband was in charge of you in Gilead...?

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And you had to submit to his every whim will, how would that in practice work for you...?

Mine is generally good and well-meaning, and would like to think he was protecting me from the regime's worst excesses.

In practice though, I sense he might become complacent in the role, and I would resent the shit out of him as a result. And the inability to check his occasional stupidities would grate to high heaven...

We would have been refugees beaching our rubber dingy on the shores of Mexico.

Mine might try to give me and order but take one look at my total warfare eyebrow raising and mumble sorry.

Oh, good thread! Mine would be in demand and quite high up because of his skill set, I'm sure. But he never has, and never will, follow rules or authority just for the sake of it. He would have a self-preservation setting though, maybe a sort of Commander Lawrence, but without having been one of the architects at the beginning. He would definitely be up for some behind the scenes subversive action, and he wouldn't give a shit if he eventually ended up on the wall for it. I would definitely be reading, he wouldn't shag the Handmaid and all of us, including our Martha, would be in the Resistance. basically, he isnt a twat and neither of us have any fucks to give.

I feel confident that my husband would be in the resistance. Me, I'd like to think I'd be the same but i think I'd be afraid if ending up on the wall.

(Well, either that, or I'm totally wrong and he'd be full-on Fred )

It's strongly intimated by the flashbacks in the TV series that Luke loves June but is secretly a bit chuffed to have more "say" and "husbandly power" and in some way delays their exit from Gillead (until too late) - of course both his consent and wallet would have been needed by June.

Sadly, I think many men would slip along these lines. Complacency and complicitly by those not immediately affected is how these regimes have time to become established.

I think the vast majority of men would love it. Most women are deluded if they think their husbands would be secret resistance warriors.

Those helping Jews escape from Nazi Germany were a tiny, tiny minority. History shows that most people will follow the herd.

He'd think it was bloody stupid and behind closed doors I'd be reading and making decisions. Don't know whether he'd be in the resistance or not - he's risk averse and I suspect he'd say we need to play the game in order to stay safe.

We enjoy a bit of dom/sub stuff in the bedroom so I imagine he’d quite enjoy some of it, so long as I was happy too.

He can’t organise things or make decisions for shit though so I think he’d leave it all up to me behind closed doors.

Mine would be incapable of being in charge as very few decisions actually get made unless I push them or insist he decide. It’s both irritating and pleasing at the same time.

DH would have been purged before Gilead was set up. He is an academic and lets say his writing and research is not much appreciated by right wing christian based religious groups. So I reckon I'd be on my own

My first husband left me for another woman but I married DH and was his first wife so not sure if that would make me handmaid (assuming I was younger)/Jezebel or not. Given my age I wouldn't be either though though I might be a Martha. On balance though, given DH's end I'd probably be sent to the colonies

Hmm, hard to see what his job would be as I work and he doesn't.

Apart from that we would prob carry on much the same - live quietly, me cooking, doing everything round the house, him pretending it was his idea, keep our heads down.

Just difficult to see where any cash would be coming from.

Not sure mine would be entirely sure what to do with himself. I don't think a decision would ever be made again, but I wouldn't have a bad time of it. He's pretty lovely!

Mine would definitely be in the resistance. He'd be outraged at the thought of his daughters being subject to the system. I think he'd be less outraged about its impact on me because he sees me as strong and able to handle my own fights.

He wouldn't make me or stop me from doing anything behind closed doors, but I think he'd be poor at seeing how to facilitate my life outside of the home or when others were around without constant prompting. I suspect he'd forget from time to time just how debilitating it would be for me and I'd resent him for that, a bit like the OP.

I might also resent him more generally for his privilege in that system. It would, I think, sour things between us even if he were very aware of how things affected me and did his best to mitigate that.

DH would be on the wall PDQ as fully paid up member of the awkward squad. I’d be a Martha due to my ovaries being in retirement. I’d like to think I’d have the nerve to join the resistance rather than buckling under.

I'm DHs 2nd wife and had given birth to DD before our first anniversary so I'm pretty sure I'd be turfed out as a handmaid. However, I think a lot of men would love the power and control they would get. Having seen the appalling way most of my friends DHs have acted post wedding, pregnancy and babies, I think they'd enjoy it. DH is terrible with money so if my accounts were closed and he had access to the savings we'd be bankrupt.

Would I be a wife? Would I get to wear all those lovely dresses?! And would I at least have some kind of status?

Makes a big difference. I wouldn't like to be an Econowife!

If we had staff for household chores, a handmaid for him to shag and a nanny for the kids, I actually don’t know if I’d mind so much... and I love gardening and embroidery so I’m down with the wifely role. That said I’m unmarried and living in sin so i’d be off to the colonies as I’m too old to be a hamdmaid myself!

In reality, we'd have tried to flee Gilead and likely been killed in the process.

However, if he was a commander, he'd be in a constant state of anxiety because I'm not well behaved and he's a total law-abider. He'd want us to keep our heads down. He would love the lack of housework and cooking though.

Gilead seems to take it's environmental impact quite seriously, and so I think he'd be the Commander in charge of designing that, putting all the religious stuff and the erosion of female freedom aside as "for the greater good".

DH and I are both in early 60s. You know, you never see anyone who appears to be more than 50 or so. So who knows where we'd be. Dead, probably.

If we were younger, I'd assume I'd have ended up a handmaid (Like June; fertile, 2nd marriage so an adulteress). DH not sure, he wouldn't want to be part of the patriarchy or its 'enforcers'. So I suppose a generic 'worker' of some kind.

TBH, we both would have decamped for Canada as soon as Gilead 'took over', before they put in the worst restrictions. Living in Trump's America we're already watching the way that wind's blowing.

Mine would spend a heck of a lot more time on outdoor pursuits, but I doubt he’d cut my fingers off.

DH would have definitely tried to get me and DD out the country on the basis that they both have dual nationality - I have visions of me however being stopped at the boarder and not allowed through much like what happened to Emily maybe on the flimsy basis that DD was born before we were actually married and I dont have official dual nationality myself. DH would have no qualms about leaving me and getting DD out because we'd both sacrifice ourselves for DD!

Mine would be pretty lovely, I think. We'd definitely be in the resistance.

DH would be so terrified that he would have to join the resistance. The thought of decisions and being in charge and telling people stuff. Horrendous.