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Ironing his stupid trousers!!!

85 replies

SnotBlower · 16/08/2019 08:20

DP doesn’t live with me, he visits at weekends. He lives at home with mummy who does everything for him.

He recently had a hernia op. He bought some cargo trousers as he was told jeans would be too tight around the ball sack.

So he comes to my house to stay for the week. During which he leaves his stupid trousers on the bathroom floor and soaked them with shower water. Next day he asks me where his trousers are. I suggested they may be where he left them. He acts horrified and says “you left them in that state on the floor?!” So I say “no, YOU left them in that state”. He storms off muttering to himself and then asks me to wash them. I tell him to put them in the wash basket and they will be washed with next load. He does this whilst continuing to mutter to himself. A few hours later he asks where stupid trousers are. I say they’re on the line drying. He snaps “for God’s sake, I need them! Couldn’t you have put them in the dryer?” So I simply say “no”.

Now the best bit, he comes up to me later with said stupid trousers and asks where he should put them to be ironed. I sarcastically reply “the ironing board”. Stupid twat only went and laid them on the ironing board to await my arrival!!

I refused to iron them and told him to do it himself. He kicked off saying he didn’t know how to. WIBU to not do it for him?

OP posts:
CrazyDuchess · 16/08/2019 09:29

Eurgh - end it now!!!

GreenFingersWouldBeHandy · 16/08/2019 09:35

Christ, how pathetic is he?

My DP would even dare to try and pull that shit. And to be fair, he would be too embarrassed to anyway (I don't even own an ironing board; he does).

Really, really unattractive behaviour. Do not ever move in with him.

I don't think I could be with someone so utterly lazy/helpless.

GreenFingersWouldBeHandy · 16/08/2019 09:35

PS: I do like your answers to his stupid questions though. Grin

GoGoGoGoGo · 16/08/2019 09:41

How old is he?

Have you asked how he copes at work without his Mummy there?

cakecakecheese · 16/08/2019 09:42

Oh dear the magic fairy that cleans up after him at home, didn't come with him to your place, and missed the memo about the holiday too.

DoIjusthavetoputupwithit · 16/08/2019 09:43

Never ever ever let this man child live with you.
In fact, just run now. As fast as you can.

nornironrock · 16/08/2019 09:43

There are so many things.....

Firstly - ironing cargo pants? Really? After they've been line dried. I don't think so.

Secondly, he sounds like a real catch! There's no way in hell I would not iron any of my own stuff. The only way to make sure it is done to the standard you want is to do it yourself. I learned that the first time my Mum put tramlines down the sleeve of a formal shirt.

Anyway, how will you have time to iron them? I'm assuming a lot of your time will be spent serving him drinks, and wiping his bum????

FuriousCheekyFucker · 16/08/2019 09:44

Look on the bright side.

It's Friday Morning. If you dump him before lunchtime you've got the entire weekend and the rest of your life to enjoy without him.

Frouby · 16/08/2019 09:47

Fuck that shit OP.

I would phone his mother and say he is on his way home and he is to stay there until he is house trained. Complete with his trousers. Explain it's not the 1950s anymore and until he realises that having a penis doesn't mean he is exempt from adulting he is likely to live at home forever because no sensible woman would want him sharing a home with her.

Iamthewombat · 16/08/2019 09:48

Your OP really made me laugh. It cheered up a wet morning. Thank you!

Queenioqueenio · 16/08/2019 09:58

Lol, I wouldn’t have even replied to him, or maybe just shrugged 🤷‍♀️.
Send him back home to mummy.

jackstini · 16/08/2019 10:15

Depends if he wants to change

When I first met DH (age 21) he couldn't do anything domesticated as his Mum has always done everything for her 3 sons

However, he wasn't happy about not being able - felt a bit stupid so asked me how to do stuff and taught himself how to iron, hoover, clean & cook - because he wanted to be an adult!

Ask him?!

pinkyredrose · 16/08/2019 10:27

He asked you where to put the trousers to be ironed?! Is he that unaware of how life operates?

Caaarrrl · 16/08/2019 10:27

But he didn't say, "can you show me how to wash, dry, iron these?" He fully expected OP to do it automatically. This shows no evidence that he wants to learn anything.

ralphfromlordoftheflies · 16/08/2019 10:28

He sounds great. How old is he? If he's 38 rather than 18 this would be even better. Catapult him back to mother.

CupoTeap · 16/08/2019 10:33

Send him home tomummy with a note!

Drum2018 · 16/08/2019 10:33

Send him home today and change the locks if he has a key. Not a chance in hell I'd want to be with someone like that. If he'd been embarrassed and asked for help with the washing machine etc, then maybe I'd give him a chance, but given his entitled attitude I'd ditch him now.

C0untDucku1a · 16/08/2019 10:35

Do nothing for him beyond normal stuff youre already doing for yourself.

Dump when he returns to his motherx

It isnt just the unattractiveness of him not being a dunctioning adult, but his attitude towards you has been utterly disgraceful.

Evennow · 16/08/2019 10:42

I would end it. Clearly he needs his Mummy. No point in trying to train him. He will doubtless be one of those people who do tasks badly on purpose so someone else will take over. Unless, of course, you want to do it all. Some people do, you clearly don’t. YANBU. He is, very.

TregunaMekoides · 16/08/2019 10:43

Jeeez I hope for your sake he's decent cop in bed or I can't imagine why you're with him!

TixieLix · 16/08/2019 10:44

LOL! I've told both my DDs they should not live with someone who hasn't had to fend for themselves away from their parents, as they will likely be expected to take over where the parents (have to admit, most often mummy) left off.

Can we have a live feed of you binning him OP?

Tiredmum100 · 16/08/2019 10:47

Oh my, what an absolute turn off. He sounds pathetic. My 5 year old ds is more capable than him. I'd be getting rid.

SureTry · 16/08/2019 10:49

You're fucked on so many levels if you stick with this, he's always going to be useless and his DM is always going to complain that you don't do enough for him. RUN!!!

messolini9 · 16/08/2019 10:56

I thought we were going to have posh boy red trousers or even golfing trousers levels of stupidity. I feel misled

Grin Grin Grin

messolini9 · 16/08/2019 10:58

I’m sat here now wondering whether to end it now or once he’s fucked off home.

Safer to wait til he's home, so you don't have to find his shoes, tie his laces for him, ask him if he's cleaned his teeth & packed him a lunch before walking him out to the school bus ...