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AIBU?

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SofaSurfer1 · 15/08/2019 13:59

I gave my neighbor a lift home. All good, i went home. She call, ask if she forgot her iPhone on my car. Nope. Later in the evening, she send me a photo of smashed phone in driveway, apparently she dropped it as she went out of car and i drove over it. She say i ruined it. Am i responsible?

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ThePhoenixRises · 15/08/2019 14:00

No, she dropped it, it's her responsibility to take care of her own phone.

verystressedmum · 15/08/2019 14:00

Errr no Confused she dropped it. She just wants you to pay for it. I would either tell her that sorry it's not your responsibility as she was the one who dropped it or just avoid her because friends don't do this.

PurpleDaisies · 15/08/2019 14:01

No. She is entirely responsible.

AnneLovesGilbert · 15/08/2019 14:01

She is! Doesn’t anyone take responsibility for themselves anymore?! FFS.

IAskTooManyQuestions · 15/08/2019 14:02

Not your responsibility.

AmIThough · 15/08/2019 14:02

YANBU - not your problem!

LorelaiRoryEmily · 15/08/2019 14:03

Completely her fault. I wouldn’t even bother responding and I certainly wouldn’t be giving her any more lifts

cheesydoesit · 15/08/2019 14:04

What?! She is being highly unreasonable. Don't bother giving her a lift again.

MyNewBearTotoro · 15/08/2019 14:05

Very rarely would I side 100% with anybody on AIBU but in this case I can confidently say this is absolutely not your fault! She dropped it in the driveway, there’s no way you could have expected, seen or known that as you drove out so no way the fault can lie with you. It was her responsibility and fault and if she tries to put even a tiny bit of blame on you she’s being a cheeky fucker.

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SofaSurfer1 · 15/08/2019 14:05

Ok thanks. I wasnt sure, probably because i hate conflict.

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AngelasAshes · 15/08/2019 14:05

Not your responsibility. She dropped it.
However, Apple does have accidental damage insurance they sell with most phones. I think you get 1yr free and then a small fee for 3yrs. If she takes it to an Apple shop, they will scan serial # and tell her if it’s covered and can be replaced for free.

Halo1234 · 15/08/2019 14:06

100% hers. You weren't in possession of it. Unbelievable she is even questioning who's fault it is.

Fizzpopwhizzbang · 15/08/2019 14:06

Nope, not at all. I'd just say "oh no! That's so annoying! Oh well, see you soon"

Not your responsibility at all. If she asks you to pay for it then she's being ridiculous.

dollydaydream114 · 15/08/2019 14:06

She's being absurd. Of course you don't have to pay for a phone that she dropped, whether you accidentally ran over it or not. She was the one who dropped it so it's her fault.

steppemum · 15/08/2019 14:07

she dropped it.
if she had said - stop, I've dropped my phone, and you said no and drove off, THEN maybe you coudl be responsible!

CheeseCakeSunflowers · 15/08/2019 14:07

Reply that you will check if there is any damage to your tyre and let her know if she owes you anything. Seriously, I think I would suggest that she contact her house insurance company, tell her they will automatically contact your car insurance company if you are liable, which you definitely are not, but it might shut her up.

ChesterDrawsDoesntExist · 15/08/2019 14:11

Ha ha ha! That's some seriously awesome cheekyfuckery. I'm a little bit in awe of her cheek,
I have run over my own phone once. Or someone else did. I don't know. I just know that my smooshed Iphone was found in the car park of the local docs (where I had been) and no matter who drove over it, it was 100% my fault for dropping it in the first place.

Tell her to contact her home insurance. Or her iPhone insurance. Cos she should have at least one if she has a lick of sense (which to be fair, it doesn't sound like it 😂)

BizzzzyBee · 15/08/2019 14:11

Nope. She dropped it! And there’s no proof that you’re the one who drove over it either.

EL8888 · 15/08/2019 14:14

No. She’s being ridiculous and unreasonable

Rivkka · 15/08/2019 14:18

It probably smashed when she stopped it on the driveway. They smash really easily.

GreenFingersWouldBeHandy · 15/08/2019 14:21

Haha just joining to see how long it is until she realises what a CF she's being. 100% not your fault, OP.

RubyRubyRubyRubyAaaaah · 15/08/2019 14:27

Yes you must pay for it - as soon as she provides the CCTV evidence that it was not her fault for dropping it, and proving that you wilfully ran over it.
How does she return the favour of you giving her lifts? Petrol money? Any little favours for you? Or is she just a CF....bet she’s a CF

CruellaFeinberg · 15/08/2019 14:29

Definitely not you - she dropped it, her fault

if she dropped it on a train track and a train when over it - would it be the train drivers fault? no - it would be reasonable to expect that the train was going that way, and that she shouldn't have dropped it

TixieLix · 15/08/2019 14:33

Key word here is 'apparently'. It's just her word that she dropped it and you drove over it. Even if she had proof that it was driven over, it's still her responsibility for not taking better care of her phone.

The fact she called you to ask if her phone was on/in your car means she didn't know it was smashed on the driveway, which by default means she didn't see you drive over it.

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SofaSurfer1 · 15/08/2019 14:34

She backed down. I said to her it was her responsibility and she said "i know, i know it was dh who said it was on you".
I dont know her very well.
Thanks all again. Flowers

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