AIBU to not take da away

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It's been an expensive month with uniform etc to buy
This weekend I'm taking ds1 & 2 to London
I've booked Madame Tussaud's, Tower of London etc
So I asked them to not ask me for any money this week so I wasn't skint for London

Anyway despite that they've been to local football place and trampoline park

This morning ds (15) text his grandad saying mum has no money can I have £20 to go out

I was mortified and angry so I text his grandad and said to ignore the text and I would give him some money

I then phoned ds and said I was cross and that's I'd asked his grandfather not to give him money, before I could finish he hung up and then sent me the following msg

So WWYD? Still take him to London or not? I'm thinking not, and teaching him a lesson

Happy to be told AIBU though

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@womaninthedark I love your post thank you

I think you've got it spot on there
I'll take him but he won't be getting anything and only because it's booked

Dd had a job at 13 and has worked ever since so he needs to get something sorted or start helping

You are not a bad Mother at all, children have to learn the value of money. And the asking for money from the grandfather was wrong.

Perhaps a serious chat about money and things to your son would be better, But maybe still go to London if you can afford it . Its wrong that you should be kind of run into the ground,by children always demanding money and things.

My daughters have done this. I feel embarrassed when they do, but I feel that some people are being extremely judgmental about the situation. Teens often push boundaries, it doesn't mean you've done anything wrong in their upbringing. It's an opportunity to set a boundary if it's something you're not ok with. I think not taking him to London is harsh. You've saved and spent money to have a good time so you should go and do that. You deserve a break too, it can't ALWAYS just be about the kids and making a point.

What did the text say?! Why not type it?

Take him to London but get him to clean the bathroom or other chore to earn that 20

so...dont enforce apologising hes a gobshite-so he doesnt have to speak. ..what he could do is get his arse to grandads and offer help garden/car clean/game of pool at the pub? guess every family set up is different.id kill mine for asking\demanding anything,ever.especially from grandparents.

Kids are awful these days - not saying your DS should do this and mine don't (sadly too young and not to be trusted with neighbours etc) but when we were a certain age (me and my friend approx 10 onwards) plus our 2 year younger brothers - if we needed extra money in school holidays for treats we would go door to door of local houses in very local streets to us (not far away at all) to people we knew by sight offering to wash cars - made a fair few quid that way. Why can't your DS do that?

Agreed on other hand he should be grounded or WIFI etc taken off him as punishment but still take to London for the 'treats'.

Well he's buggered off out with his mates all day without a care in the world

I am seriously considering not taking him, he can go to his dads

And now he's just come in and gone straight upstairs
What am I meant to do? 🤷🏼‍♀️

If you're not going to take him to London if he doesn't apologise, you should at least make clear to him in advance that that's the position.

I went up to talk to him

Said 'why are you on fortnite'
He said 'why not'
I said 'because I asked you 2 days ago to stop playing until further notice as your attitude was so bad

He throws his headphones on the desk gets up puts his other headphones in and gets into bed

I asked if he still wanted to come to London
He said 'dunno'

I am at my wits end

Delightful aren't they. (he's a selfish teenage boy, there's a lot of them about!
I don't agree with dickish adults on here calling him things like gobshite though.
Your not a bad mum, it's hard, you want peace and to enjoy the holiday and life in general, they make you feel guilty too...
I have one 16 nearly that is take take take take, drives me to distraction, lovely child when he wants something though....

Yes indeed
He was lovely to me when he wanted a new phone
It's better than mine ffs

😁Yes, I got a hi mum how are you, do you want a drink before he asked for his 'needed' latest item of clothing.
The night after it would be a grunting noise at best!