How to get my OH to go to A&E?

[Mummyto1little1]

Posting for traffic sorry!

Earlier me and OH took LO out and somehow he managed to trip over and hit his hand. He didn't complain it hurts he was just laughing.

I touched the hand earlier not knowing it hurt and he told me to stop because it hurt.

He can bend his fingers but only slightly.

I've told him to go the A&E but he said no he will be fine and he doesn't want to waste there time.

Also he Hates hospitals anyway.

How do I get him to go?

Son is almost 10 months.

OP I think you are mothering him. It is up to him whether he goes and how to manage work - assuming he is an able- minded, fully grown, non- vulnerable adult? If he needs your help, he can ask of course. This feels like a huge fuss about nothing.

It's a little mishap with a hand. Generally, bodies work out how to heal such things - unless he is a concert pianist or something that relies on 1000% high functioning, I am sure it will get better enough on its own. If it doesn't, it's on him.

Sorry - I am maybe a bit harsh about these things, as having lived in a couple of African countries, the bar for hospital-worthy/ making a fuss is radically different... as is the idea that a 10 mile journey is too much effort... I taught kids in Africa who walked that far on barefoot every day to get to school, often I am sure with injuries worse than your partner's!

We are very, very lucky to worry about the things we worry about in this country.

He works where he has to carry heavy boxes and load/unload lorries.

The nearest minor injuries is 33 miles away that's why I said A&E

This is ridiculous. If he wants to go, he’ll go. Let him make his own mind up. Nothing you can do if he won’t go.

I know I can't force him.

Seriously, why do people not read the thread, it's only 4 pages, OP has said MIU is 33 miles away and doesn't have x-ray. It isn't always a shorter wait also. I am fairly sure in this case most GPs would recommend A&E (or MIU if they have xray).

I really don't get why people are martyrs about injuries, drop him at A&E, collect him when he's done, tell him not to be an arse about it.

Ok well now he's just being ridiculous! It will not be particularly busy on a wed afternoon/evening and if he's not going to work because of it he has a responsibility to his employers to get it sorted!

He's just being a numpty now!

Tell him if he doesn’t go then he isn’t staying in the house tonight. Worked with my DP and getting him to the GP (it was very much warranted - I’m not always a bitch)

I wouldn't go for this injury. If my hand turned blue, swell double it's size or started to hurt to the point screaming, I would, otherwise, it's a case of iburprofen and monitoring.

I should have gone to A&E (another 40mins drive) as needed a Dr to look at the X-ray as I had broken my wrist. Our lovely minor injuries is only staffed by nurses, though they are amazing at what they do, they can only do so much.

We have nurse practitioners at ours and they can do x-rays there (eases the pressure on radiography at the main hospital 10 miles away). Once done, they notify the main A&E, a doctor looks at the x-ray on the system, and if it's not displaced, they can plaster it at minor injuries. It saves shedloads of time and money, as it serves a sizeable town and a large rural area.

Unfortunately, when I broke my wrist it was displaced so I had to go to A&E. It was snowy and icy and the buses weren't running and it cost me over £50 to get a taxi there and back. My shit of an ex wouldn't leave work early to take me.

I got the last laugh though. He was stuck on the motorway in the snow for over 12 hours. I didn't gloat though. At least not in front of him.

My husband fell and 'damaged' his finger a few years ago. He thought it might be broken so he made a makeshift splint for it. as doubted the hospital would do anything more. Several weeks later a physio friend noticed how awkward it looked and told him to get an xray. Turns out it had been broken but had healed really badly... What a surprise. He ended up needing surgery to rebreak it then have a pin inserted to aid healing process.

His dad offered to take him to A&E but he said no.

He said he might go tomorrow because it hurts a lot But he might not if it doesn't hurt much because he will be wasting their time.

Let him suffer! It will be his own fault.

I'd get his dad to get him to go because he won't listen to you. Or I agree with pp let him suffer

I pushed a little hard and managed to break my hand! I wasnt even in that much pain, just uncomfortable. I had to have my hand in a cast for 6 weeks! Hope he gets to A and E tomorrow and has an x-ray. Its not your job to worry though, he'll go when he wants too. It would be annoying me though OP, theres just not much you can do about it!

He probably will go tomorrow because he said it hurt when he dryed his hands. He said he doesn't want it to be busy so I said If he wants to go it will be early in the morning (about 8am?)

Did he go OP?

Yes he did. Turns out he's broken his hand. Tomorrow he has to go back to see if he has to have an operation.

Yes he did. Turns out he's broken his hand. Tomorrow he has to go back to see if he has to have an operation

Oh @Mummyto1little1 eek!

Hope it's ok, I don't want you to be any more worried than you are but in case people revisit this thread in future, hand injuries are notoriously complicated and it's always worth getting them checked out ASAP.

I lost use of one of mine following a car crash and it was one of the least of my injuries on paper severity and pain wise but my GOD it's an absolute pain in the arse and it sounds stupid but you don't realise how limiting it is having one that doesn't work!

Thankfully mine was fine after about six months but I'm always aware now how much worse it can be than I would have thought previously.

Again so sorry if this sounds alarmist and hopefully he is ok and has a quick recovery, but it's way more important to get hands and feet seen to quickly than people realise!

@mummytolittle1 glad he went eventually.

I had a displaced fracture of the 5th metacarpal head which required internal fixation.

I asked for a nerve block rather than a general anaesthetic as wanted to be in and out of hospital as quickly as humanly possible.

Surgery was fine, recovery was painful and long I'm not going to lie. The first few days was very sore and with only paracetamol/ibuprofen fit felt like there was no relief, keeping it still at night was difficult, and I found sleeping on the sofa better than the bed.

However, the pain was much reduced after a couple of days, cast and sling stayed on 3 weeks then it was a splint. Several hospital appointments for check ups, stitch removal and xrays during that 3 weeks.

Problem with having the cast is that 3 weeks of not using your hand makes it very stiff, so I then had about 10 weeks of physio to get the hand moving again.

Tell your hubby, not to bugger around so much next time and to go to the hospital when he's told to go

glad he got seen and is getting treatment.
hopefully his job will be ok with it as well.

The nurse on triage told him off because it was quite swollen and bruised and he admitted it hurt a lot and and she said he should've came yesterday then. I think he's learnt his lesson

He's complaining he's bored because he can't do anything only watch tv.

Hope he's OK and recovers quickly