How to get my OH to go to A&E?

[Mummyto1little1]

Posting for traffic sorry!

Earlier me and OH took LO out and somehow he managed to trip over and hit his hand. He didn't complain it hurts he was just laughing.

I touched the hand earlier not knowing it hurt and he told me to stop because it hurt.

He can bend his fingers but only slightly.

I've told him to go the A&E but he said no he will be fine and he doesn't want to waste there time.

Also he Hates hospitals anyway.

How do I get him to go?

I work in hand trauma and it could be that he can't move his fingers due to swelling. If your local MIU doesn't have an xray then all they'll do is tell him to go to A&E or send a referral through.

You've got about a 10 day window between fracturing your hand and having it treated easily. If he doesn't want to wait in A&E for hours he could ask his GP for a referral. This could take a few days though so all in all he's probably better to wait and possibly be seen by a trauma specialist in A&E.

Unless it's a nasty comminuted or oblique fracture though, as other posters have said they'll probably strap or splint it.

And for others saying that a fall isn't much of an accident, I've seen a case of a woman breaking her finger because she flicked a bee! And another sustaining a stubbing injury poring his trousers on - hands are bloody buggers

In my experience people in minor injuries are pretty good at assessing whether this sort of injury is likely to need an Xray or not - they did when I broke a finger. So if he goes to minor injuries and they say it doesn't need an X ray, he won't have wasted much time; but if they say it does, that is good advice that he needs to take.

I had similar with my partner last week. Cycling to work, hit a pot hole and hit the ground hard. Got up and carried on to work (straight past our local hospital), and did a full 6 hour shift. Insisted he was fine to me, his boss and all of his colleagues who told him he needed to go to A&E.

The following morning, I dragged him to A&E at 8am, because he admitted he couldn't actually breathe properly and his shoulder wasn't quite right. Turns out he had a broken a rib and dislocated his shoulder, which required full assessment in urgent treatment because they weren't sure if he'd need surgical intervention to fix the shoulder. The doctors were really unimpressed he hadn't come in straight away, and even more unimpressed that he'd gone to work. Thankfully, the shoulder relocated fine and he's home recovering, and milking it for all its worth.

I find with men the more hurt they actually are, the more they insist its not a big deal and they are fine.

He called the GP and they have told him it would be best to get it xrayed but he still won't listen he said he will be wasting their time.

Op he sounds just like my DH 🙈 his idea when he sliced his hand was duck tape .It did prob need stitches did he go nope and it did heal eventually. But op my mum did similiar once and left it years later had awful arthritis,Dr reckoned she had broke bone in her hand where it connects to wrist don't know names and it hadn't healed right .Cautionary tale to pass on to your DH , ignoring an injury against medical advice to get it checked might seem ok at time but bite you back years later .Good luck .

I told him he won't waste their time because he did say it hurts quite a bit. And I told him I'll go with him if he would want.

Its not A&E, its Minor Injuries at the most.

They will only put some ice on it and wrap it.

Well if he won't listen to the advice of his GP he is unlikely to take advice from anyone at all. Leave him to his sore hand and let him crack on. It is only him who who will suffer.

I know he will be the one who suffers but he said he's "fine" but I know he isn't. As if he was fine he would've gone to work and he told them he probably won't go tomorrow or Friday either. But if he's off for 3 days he will need to prove to them he's been somewhere (it's the same with illness) so they believe him as he didn't even tell them why he wasn't going.

I hate to say it, but that's how DH broke his wrist...

In that case if it turns out to be broken and he has to take more time off work he is going to look rather foolish.

He said he would ask me to take him now but it's going to be busy so he will just leave it as I will need to get son soon aswell (partners dad has him as he always does as partner is usually at work and I am but I'm off this week but he said he will still have son) and he would want me to stay with him.

He's a grown man let him worry about his own hand, or not in this case!

Op he's a grown bloody man fgs.

Stop pandering. If it's that bad he would go. I bet if you stop talking about it he will go on his own time.

@MyDcAreMarvel

The OP said "It's 33 miles from our house".

I know he is an adult. I stopped talking about it and then he said what I said in my pp

The hand is complicated as there's many bones (and ligaments etc.) that need to work together for normal function. He needs to go to wherever has X-ray facilities sooner rather than later as worst case scenario is the loss of some function if it's broken and doesn't heal properly.

Genuine (non-goady) question for those saying minor injuries and not A and E:

What if you have to don't have a minor injuries anywhere near you? We're a minimum of 45 mins away by car to the nearest minor injuries but within 10 mins of an an A and E (would pass to go to minor injuries) and 25 mins of another (opposite direction). I know anyone living north of us would be another 20 - 45 mins on top of our driving time. In that situation are we unreasonable to use A and E for a (potentially minor but requiring X-ray) injury?

margotsdevil it is the same for us .We have a minor injuries in our nearest small town but it is only open until 5pm and then they only xray two days a week .So it would have be A&E after 5pm and that is a 35-40 min drive .

I hope his hand is soon better.

How to get my OH to go to A&E?
Punch him very hard on the nose?

That's why i said A&E as minor injuries is 33 miles and doesn't xray.

He still is saying he will be fine as A&E will be busy now and son will be back soon.

Fgs , just drop him off at A&E and then go pick up your son and go back and wait for him , or ask his dad if he can keep the baby until later on . It’s always potentially going to be busy .

How old is your son, take supplies, iPad etc and drop him off and stay in the car or go fir a coffee

We don’t have an MIU here (wish we did) so it’s A&E or nothing. If they don’t have an X-ray it’s pointless going if a fracture is suspected

My son cut his eyebrow open at 7am recently - we went to A&E and were in an out in less than an hour. Go first thing in the morning unless there’s signs of loss of feeling / function, in which case go now