hey, so I and Ds have lived in our home for three years, genuinely always got on with neighbors as we live in an end terrace but to be able to get to our house we have to go down a ginnel which faces everyone’s gardens...
That’s by the by, our next door neighbor has mental health issues has had mental breakdowns while we have lived in the property we’ve been supportive etc... But there has been occasions when i’ve had friends over and he’s literally thrown himself into a mound of nettles while talking to me... about 3 months ago I had a rat run in front of my front door... he had a garden that was an absolute jungle... it still is... every year it’s the same he’s saying he’ll sort it out... actually got someone in to do it last year but yet again back to the same. This is usual talk where it’s apparently going to get ‘sorted’ he doesn’t work so there is plenty of time just to go out for five mins a day or week to pull up weeds and whatnot... back to the rat... there was a family of them living in his pipe work as the was over a foot of pipe missing... they’d burrowed our from the pipes and through to my garden. He EVENTUALLY got someone out... had known about said problem for YEARS!!!
So I took it with a pinch of salt and said don’t worry about it...
Back to the garden... he apparently doesn’t like gardening so chooses to leave it as it is. Yet going to clean up the streets around the village is better for his mental health...
Then a few weeks ago I had a parcel come... I was at work at the time and came home to a delivery note from the RM person stating my parcel had been left with my neighbor. So I go knock on the door.. no answer... later that evening we had a chinese the woman came to deliver it and as she was leaving he came to my gate with said parcel opened the gate then walked back into his fn garden... so I open the door and he was like “this is for you isn’t it?” my reply “yeah” clearly it had my name on the chuffing front of it in bold letters... so he gives it to me and i notice it’s open... then he says “oh... it seems to be open..” so I was really p*d off and slammed my gate shut and didn’t say another word to him... my parcel was a private parcel....
He is 20 years older than me... I also have mental health issues and have done for many years but I don’t talk about it to everyone.
Since that... he has typed out a letter and gone to the post office to send it to me at my home address.... I was shocked... it was only updates on the rat situation but to mail it to me... I didn’t say anything just thought ‘okay fair enough’ then... a couple of weeks later I get another letter... recorded delivery signed for... I wasn’t in so had to go pick it up from the depot it was from him... again... making sure I had signed for it...
I’d had enough... I was done. My landlord asked him to stop sending me the letters and that I would prefer non communication with him. He didn’t take it well... obviously nobody would but it got to a point that he was knocking on my door all the time once at 11pm at night to say he’d seen something go across the sky... i was in chuffin bed... felt like saying it was a fucking aeroplane... but because everyone says it’s okay to him he gets away with everything including walking into peoples homes.
But i’ve put my own stop to it... my landlord put up a screen attached to my fence just to give us a bit of privacy as the fences are only 2ft high now with the screen still see through mind is at the recommended height of no more than 2 metres high. He was absolutely furious... but baring in mind i’m an end terrace so the only thing it blocks out is my garden... nobody else’s so it shouldn’t be an issue... it was... he said it was ridiculous, to be quite honest I would put it past him to try and rip it down... Am I being unfair in cutting contact with him or what?