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Aibu for not going to A&E?

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Mar19901 · 11/08/2019 22:21

AiBU to not go A&E?

so basically about 4 weeks ago got severe ear ache and throat ache (suffer really badly with tonsillitis). i tried to ride it out with over counter medicines and sprays but nothing was working so eventually went to the Gp. She diagnosed tonsillitis and ear infection started me on penicillin for 10 days. but over the course of the last 4 weeks i have had a temperature that comes and goes with pain killers of about 38.5° i also have a ill child so spent a week in hospital with him so even though i haven't been well i haven't actually stopped. My husband is away with work atm but fast forward to yesterday i woke up with temp of 39.8° all day it stayed near about that not coming down less than 39.5° so i called our GP extened access and they were able to offer me and appointment today. When i went GP saw it and said tonsils have gone huge and infection worse. temperature has stayed in the 39° all day today. GP started on ciprofloxacin but said if temps get any higher i should go straight to A&e as she would be concerned about sepsis. however i have been in bed with my sick child and no family close by i havent been able to go A&e but my temp is now 39.8 and i feel rubbish dont know what to do. just looked in mirror and tonsils look disgusting Throat is in agony cant even stand due to temp. By the way i should add DS has lung condition required oxygen and is on NG fed so not like i can just leave him with anyone. DH had said he would try come back earlier than planned but not sure what to do in meantime. i am all dosed out on naproxen and cocodomol.

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CherrySocks · 11/08/2019 22:25

Phone 111 and ask their advice

user1471546851 · 11/08/2019 22:27

Hiya op
I hope you're okay! You poor poor thing
I really think you need to go to hosp. Sepsis is so dangerous.
Maybe call out of hours gp or NHS advice line and tell them you're situation?
See what they recommend.
Flowers

PoptartPoptart · 11/08/2019 22:27

GP started on ciprofloxacin but said if temps get any higher i should go straight to A&e as she would be concerned about sepsis
I would do what your doctor advised and go to A&E op. You don’t mess about with potential sepsis.

HappyHammy · 11/08/2019 22:28

You really need to get medical help. Any family friends or neighbour who can look after d.s. either come to your house or meet you at hospital. how long is it till your dh gets home. Are you able to take sips of water. Your temp is very high. At the very least you should call 111 for advice.

PurpleWithRed · 11/08/2019 22:31

Can you take your ds with you if you go to a&e?

Spellcheck · 11/08/2019 22:32

You poor thing, you must feel horrible. Is there any way at all your DH could come home? You sound very ill and it could be dangerous. It would be great if you could get an out of hours doc to visit? 111 might be able to help with that. We’ve had one before when my son was ill and couldn’t be moved. Wishing you and your son well v soon x

CatAteMe · 11/08/2019 22:33

I think you should try and get to a&e
could you take DS with you ? or call 111 and ask for their advice regarding your situation with him
If there is any chance it is sepsis it is really really important you seek help.
Have first hand experience of sepsis lately with a relative currently in hospital for 5 months with a lot of time spent in intensive care and not expected to make a recovery anytime in the near future...if ever and it was scary how fast it took hold as well....just a couple of hours really ! so its really important you get medical help !

diz29 · 11/08/2019 22:33

Who will look after your son if your tonsils start to restrict your airway due to them swelling?

Just something to think about......

Tell your husband to come home NOW!

ElstreeViaduct · 11/08/2019 22:34

I think you need to follow the advice and go to A&E with your son. Ring your DH and let him know you are going.

It's awful I know but I don't think you can afford to risk any further deterioration when you are home alone, sole adult in charge of a child on oxygen.

You can ring 111 if it makes you feel better but the opinion of a GP who has seen you in person today should trump what anyone would tell you over the phone.

Mar19901 · 11/08/2019 22:37

just cried to dh on phone he said he will leave the hotel now but prob wont be here until about 2/3am. i cant swallow anything only ate couple if spoonful of yogurt today and just sips of water with meds its excruciating. Thank yiu for ur replies

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Mar19901 · 11/08/2019 22:38

i had sepsis after DS was born so i know how dangerous it could be. but i guess i can just take ds with me to the hospital until dh can meet us there

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HappyHammy · 11/08/2019 22:39

Get yourself to hospital, get better soon. Flowers Call an ambulance if you need to.

TestingTestingWonTooFree · 11/08/2019 22:39

Can you get a taxi and take DS with you to an A&E?

Mar19901 · 11/08/2019 22:41

just starting to get ds things together to take to hospital with us my head is throbbing. will call taxi once we both ready.

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ElstreeViaduct · 11/08/2019 22:44

Yes please take DS and a taxi. It'll be no fun but it'll get you seen several hours earlier. If you need another reason, it's probably the quickest way for your DH to get to bed as he can scoop up DS and come home rather than worrying about getting you to hospital.

Crunchymum · 11/08/2019 22:44

My DC3 is disabled and had an NG tube for a year. I know you can't leave them with just anyone.

Given DH is coming home, can anyone sit with your DC for a few hours, until he is back?

Alternatively make sure DH keeps you updated re: ETA and have a cab booked to take you the moment he arrives.

Bluemascara4 · 11/08/2019 22:45

Good call @Mar19901 . I hope you're ok and are in a taxi now x

Crunchymum · 11/08/2019 22:46

I assumed that you DH was coming home to allow you to go to A&E whilst he looks after DC.

If you are planning to take DC and a taxi anyway the go now???? Confused

Hawkmoth · 11/08/2019 22:46

You poor thing, what a nightmare. Hope all goes well x

MuddyMoose · 11/08/2019 22:46

Really hope you'll be ok & your DH arrived safely & quickly to you.

Starlight456 · 11/08/2019 22:49

I am glad you are going to the hospital .

youarenotkiddingme · 11/08/2019 22:49

I'm sure hospital staff will understand a disabled child on ng feeds and O2 can't be left and your dh is on his way. Lots of parents get taken I'll whilst out in streets etc and they don't just abandon the kids!

PepsiLola · 11/08/2019 22:51

Call 111 they will arrange for an ambulance for you

regularbutpanickingabit · 11/08/2019 22:51

If there is any way you can get a cab for you and ds to go in now then please do. Your dh can meet you there. It sounds like you are at high risk of sepsis and that just not worth messing with if at all possible. Tonsils are hideous when they get to that point as they are just massive pus harbourers. I really hope they take them out for you after this. I had monthly tonsillitis which sounds like I had a sore throat ever few weeks but the amount of poison dripping in to my system meant that I was permanently ill. When I had them out it was like the sun drying the beach after a decade long storm. I couldn’t believe how much better and energetic and generally well I felt. It was a total revelation.

Proseccoinamug · 11/08/2019 22:52

Definitely go and take ds with you until she can get there. Take care, op.

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