HATE uninvited callers!
I am agoraphobic, anxious and my sleep pattern is horrendous so I'm often asleep in the day.
Currently living in a flat with buzzer entry thing, I don't even always answer that unless I am expecting a caller.
First Christmas here the neighbours (who hadn't even bothered to introduce themselves or ask first!) twigged I was usually home and arranged for their deliveries to come to me! First couple times I was annoyed but went along...
Then it got stupid! One neighbour had a flat pack Fucking wardrobe delivered and then expected ME to carry it to their flat! Wtf!
I'm physically disabled as well as mentally ill and this nonsense was clogging up my hallway, I told them to shift it or I was opening it, calling the retailer and arranging for them to collect it as a return (very likely at neighbours expense) - they shifted it there and then! Total pisstake!
From that moment on I point blank refused to take deliveries for anyone else.
I know what deliveries we are expecting (dd has had it drummed into her to let me know because of my stance on not accepting other people's) and if I answer the buzzer I ask what name its for (my name still not on buzzer which actually makes this easier so I'm not pushing to get that changed any time soon) and if it's not our name they don't get me buzzing them in. If they somehow get past that point and come to my door I've also a peep hole and I ask them to show me the address label first (this has come about due to delivery people trying to trick me into taking others parcels) and only then open the door, because I've also had delivery drivers trying to sneak parcels into my property - including throwing them down my hall!
I've also had people buzz and not say who they are - not letting them in either. Landlord has sent several letters out to all tenants reminding us not to let people in we don't know or don't have reason to admit, other tenants still buzzing people in when they shouldn't be, lower floor flats been broken into several times as a result.
Bloody annoying!!
But even purely from a social point of view, no I hate unexpected callers. I need to plan and I need to be prepared. I personally do not see the need to do this in this modern age when it's very easy to check with people in advance whether it's convenient to call or not.
Those posters who bang on about how it was the norm in "ye olde days" have also forgotten that when people couldn't check in advance there WAS an etiquette to when you called on someone.
I remember a time when not everyone even had a landline phone and noted comments/reactions from my parents and grandparents regarding people who called unexpectedly at inconvenient times.
It was considered rude to call at someone's house early morning, late at night, or around rough mealtimes (say 12-2 for lunch 4-6 dinner). And even if someone called outside those times if for some other reason it was inconvenient it wasn't considered rude to politely say so - "oh hi, I'm afraid it isn't a good time right now, can we catch up another day?" "Ok no problem see you later"
So this notion or claim that "the poppers" have that people used to call round whenever and be welcomed with open arms and fed and watered isn't actually true.
The only person my family would rarely turn away was the priest - but that's a whole other thread!