The way our finances are set up doesn't feel right to me and I'm interested in what the wise people of MN think. My DP and I have been together for 5 years, and we live with my adult DC in my property which is in my name. DP divorced a few years ago when we were already together and after the divorce bought a property in his own name in a cheaper area an hour away (he says so as to have a place for his excess furniture and stuff etc including hobby stuff which needs space). Our bank accounts are separate which I don't have an issue with. Most of his personal finance stuff, bank and card paper work etc is registered to his own property address. What I do have an issue with is that he pays nothing towards the running costs of my home (where he lives with me and my DC) because he says he has to pay for the running costs of his place (which obviously he does). He does however pay for most of our weekly food shopping, which has been the routine we seem to have settled into over the last couple of years. I'm bothered by the fact that he doesn't contribute to the running costs of the house we both live in (apart from food). Any views on this?