I started a thread on relationships. I was very upset when I posted and have since calmed down a lot. It’s left me wondering if I over reacted based on my circumstances or if this guy is actually taking me for granted.
I’ve included the full thread here but for context:
I had a near miss which could have resulted in my losing my life. Nothing seriously bad actually happened to me although I was shaken up but i found out after that I could have died. I was very lucky.
When I found out the full extent of the risk I’d been exposed to I messaged my bf, we were both at work so couldn’t communicate much but then there was little from him the whole eve , I was in shock and a bit miffed but didn’t say anything as didn’t want my emotions to dictate whatever I said to him but I was still pissed off the next day and told him a phone call would have been nice... he said he thought I didn’t want to be disturbed.
I felt quite hurt and it compounded how I’d been feeling about his lack of real support when things get tough. Anyway, he went away that day as planned, I had lots planned too but I also became unwell thinking I had ptsd from the incident and went to the docs who said I was understandably in shock so a few days have passed. I feel less traumatised but have been seriously questioning my relationship. Bf has since realised he was a bit neglectful and has occasionally called and messaged from his holiday but generally worse for wear and not fun to talk to as on very different wavelengths. I feel a bit lonely but as it gets closer to his return I’m wondering if I have completely over reacted?
My friends say don’t act in haste because of my mental state and recent trauma.
Full post link here, am posting in aibu for traffic.
Bottom line have I been a dick? www.mumsnet.com/Talk/relationships/3659152-Lack-of-support-from-d-p?msgid=89201415#89201415