I tend to date people I meet online - generally have been okay guys but some have turned out to be very controlling (in a very hypocritical way) and one still continued trying to find out if I'm dating someone new, trying to get back with me, etc. for several years after I broke up with him. So, I was very glad in hindsight that I had never shared my address with him.
Both before that guy and after him, all the guys I've dated - I've never told them my address - I did know the guy's address though (I never forced them to tell me - they'd invite me around to theirs.. for obvious reasons lol) and generally it's been OK.
But someone who I started to date recently (2 months ago) - who seems good in a lot of ways said he found it very odd I wouldn't tell him my address and kept trying to guess where I lived, etc. I know exactly where he lives as I've visited him, his job location, etc. (but he voluntarily told me - I never insisted). He said it's odd that I know where he lives but he doesn't know where I live. I did tell him about my awful ex and some women tend to be more cautious about revealing addresses compared to men - he said he wanted to know so he could walk me home after dates etc. and that it's a shame I don't trust him, his previous partners had told him their address etc. I told him it's not about trust - it's just a policy I apply to all the people I've dated (even the ones I had been with for 1.5 years) and none of them had a huge issue about it.
I live in a rented flatshare. Main reasons for not telling him are not really the danger element (as it's unlikely) but I kinda like having my "own space/hideout" - I'd hate to be looking awful and putting the bins out etc. and have him visiting for a surprise visit, or know when I leave home and get back home, etc. I find it worse that it's a flatshare I live in so if he was to randomly visit me one day without telling me, one of my flatmates might let him into our home (I don't like the idea of him or anyone having that much access to me and my space).
I've no idea what the solution is :( I know it seems easy to say tell him when you trust him and make boundaries clear but him being a bit of a spontaneous romantic, he might just suddenly impulsively visit me without letting me know.
I know I could always move home if things were to go very badly but I really like my current place. I know my psycho ex would have definitely stalked me etc. if he knew my address!