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AIBU?

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AIBU for wanting this family relocated??

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TheeVee · 10/08/2019 19:33

This woman and her unruly children got evicted from a house in Efford. They got placed on the same street as me 😭

[link removed at OP's request]

The children (youngest about 6yo) are out at all times, causing a lot of trouble. They shout/sware at the people who live around here.
They vandalise the area, they have thrown stones etc at peoples property, graffiti the area.etc..they are violent towards the other children around here.
Linda shouts/screams/swears at her children all of the time.
Her children litter and vandalise the area. They also badly bully a lot of the children in this area including my DD.
The mother is very racist towards Muslims, and she harasses one of the lovely Muslim family’s on our street. Shouting/swearing racist slurs whenever she sees anybody from this family.

The police won’t do anything, they just say to “log it”
The Muslim family have complained to the council and police about her family, but they keep getting fobbed off.
Does anybody know if we can be listened to? Or what rights we as a community have?

I don’t think I ABU as they have to live somewhere, but surely not here....? Not when they are so anti-social??
I’m prepared to be told I’m wrong, as I’ve not slept well for weeks, so my perspective may be a bit off ? 🤷‍♀️

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highheelsandbobblehats · 10/08/2019 19:34

If not there, then where?

Squawkie · 10/08/2019 19:35

I really feel for the children in this situation. Yes obviously they do need to live somewhere, but clearly they need a lot of additional support to be able to live in a community such as your own.

Have you contacted your MP?

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TheeVee · 10/08/2019 19:36

I know highheels but if they must be somewhere, why couldn’t they have just left them there? 😭

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Farmerswifey12 · 10/08/2019 19:37

YANBU, of course they need to live somewhere but racism and anti social behaviour shouldn't have to be tolerated.

Not sure what you can do though except keep complaining to council and police if they are damaging property etc

CaptainMyCaptain · 10/08/2019 19:37

You need to do whatever the previous neighbours did.

BananasAreTheSourceOfEvil · 10/08/2019 19:37

That video is from nine years ago?

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TheeVee · 10/08/2019 19:38

squakie I haven’t contacted our mp. Do you think they could help?

I know it’s not at all the kids fault, just the way they were dragged up I suppose. But they are upsetting a lot of people.

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ilovesooty · 10/08/2019 19:39

Isn't this rather identifying?

Cheeserton · 10/08/2019 19:39

Given the level of their conduct, how about bloody prison??

Nautiloid · 10/08/2019 19:40

It's odd the way they are speaking on the video as if this is a huge victory...but as you say, they have to be somewhere. It's just moving the problem somewhere else.
I'm sorry you are suffering this OP. I don't know what the answer is.

Jupiters · 10/08/2019 19:41

I suppose the problem is they physically have to live somewhere.

thenightsky · 10/08/2019 19:44

God what a nightmare

I don't know what the answer is though

SnuggyBuggy · 10/08/2019 19:44

All you can do is keep complaining

stucknoue · 10/08/2019 19:47

They do have to live somewhere but given the circumstances I would question if those children should be living with that parent. The first step is a family support programme, then relocate for a fresh start, of these don't work cps should step in

Sparklesocks · 10/08/2019 19:48

Hang on that video is nearly 10 years old, so they got evicted then and placed on your street 9 years later? And they still have young kids? How do you know it’s the same family if it’s just an old video?

ChibiTotoro · 10/08/2019 19:48

YANBU but you do need to do what the police have said and log everything this family do that is out of order. The police can only apply to the courts once there is enough evidence against them. It will be hard going, but that's the system that you need to work within, as they already have previous hopefully it shouldn't take as long for an intervention to happen.

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TheeVee · 10/08/2019 19:51

It’s the same family ☹️ she had older children, but since moving here she’s had more! She has a 6yo an 8yo and the older ones.

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Bigfatwiggle · 10/08/2019 19:51

I don't understand why the children have not been taken into care. If this is the state of their behaviour then unfortunately the mother needs help. If they have already been moved once and are just continuing their behaviour then it hasn't worked. Perhaps keep a lot of everything. Ring 101, speak to social services who will no doubt already have the family on their radar and speak with your mp. It isn't fair that the problems have been shunted onto another street.

Bigfatwiggle · 10/08/2019 19:53

*keep a log of everything.

How long have they been living in your street?

SomeAfternoonDelight · 10/08/2019 19:55

You all need to have a ‘meeting’ and agree that whenever the family does something unjustly you contact all possible authorities. It’s shameful. They’ve been kicked out of previous accommodation and it has not changed. The children should be taken from this woman. Clearly she is unfit. The authorities are letting the children down.

foreverandeveramen · 10/08/2019 20:03

I feel really uncomfortable with her actually being identified on this thread. Was it necessary to do that? I'd be surprised if the thread could stand as surely it's potentially libellous for MN to host this statement as fact:

"Linda shouts/screams/swears at her children all of the time.
Her children litter and vandalise the area. They also badly bully a lot of the children in this area including my DD.
The mother is very racist towards Muslims, and she harasses one of the lovely Muslim family’s on our street. Shouting/swearing racist slurs whenever she sees anybody from this family."

Poochandmutt · 10/08/2019 20:04

What are the schools doing in all this ..kids must be a handful at school ,if they are like that home .suprised school hasn’t got ss involved

CloudRusting · 10/08/2019 20:06

The community needs to be the squeaky wheel. Everyone should log behaviour they see and report all incidents to the relevant authorities. Time consuming and tedious as it is. Review any agreements you sign about behaviour and the council’s policies on complaints and escalations. Use the council’s language and ask for responses in accordance with their own policies.

The Muslim family should insist the police records any further incidents as hate incidents and if they take no action as a result raise a complaint asking to know why hate the hate incidents are going unchallenged. This is important as hate incidents are harder for police to ignore than general anti social behaviour.

Your councillor and MP would also be able to put on pressure but you need strong evidence of the behaviour and the avenues you’ve tried to date.

BoneyBackJefferson · 10/08/2019 20:09

Poochandmutt

everything that they can, internally and working with external companies/providers.

Whatever happens it is a very long and laborious process.

RubbingHimSourly · 10/08/2019 20:10

So sad for those children. That woman has probably had.loads of support thrown at her and yet is allowed to carry on dragging up children. It's awful, they're futures are destroyed already. :(

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