Who IBU. No food in the house

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According to my DC and DH there is never any food in the house.

So last night is an example. DH said he was going to be late home and I was gong out. I fed the DC and he came home early. He ordered a pizza as there was "no food in the house". My DC and DH fridge gaze all the time and come out wit this statement nearly every day.

IMO if there was a problem in the world I could live off my store cupboards for a month I reckon. I buy fresh most of the time and cook from scratch most nights but still get this comment.

Apart from what I am cooking from scratch tonight and tomorrow this is what is available the cupboards and fridge: fresh ham, cheese, sandwiches, a litre of yoghurt, fresh fruit, popcorn, pasta with pasta sauces in freezer, bread, tins of soup and beans. These are not our regular meals, they are quick fixes that I use once or twice a week or for lunch. We don't have loads of treats e.g. chocolates and crisps at home but do eat them when out.

So who is BU? Is there no food in my house?

my house exactly but I have a big home made veggie sous sous in the fridge but complaints as I no longer have biscuits, frozen chips or crisps in the house. freezer burning with frozen veg and vegan food - veggie household)
I don't buy the other junk because that is the only thing that would be eaten and no healthy foods - crisps disappear within a day but fruit will rot away.

My ex would do that. A cursory look in the fridge and then off to get a takeaway. He came home from work one day and demanded if dinner was ready, when I replied ”no, because... ” he slammed out of the house and didn't wait for me to finish my sentence ”we’re having dinner with Mary and Eric tonight as we planned” so when he returned with his kebab a bit later, I had gone out. I had a lovely meal out with our friends, he had a kebab in front of the tv.

He admitted later that he had forgotten we were going out but that still didn't excuse him not bothering to let me finish my sentence - one of many reasons why he's an ex.

Think they mean junk food.

Oh likely lass, your house sounds a bit strict. I do buy a bit of junk food for DCs, I myself would not want to be faced with a houseful of veg and nothing else.

YANBU - your DH is blatantly just being lazy! If the sandwiches aren’t pre-packed, the fruit isn’t already made into a fruit salad etc it doesn’t count as food. Having to defrost something from the freezer or heat up a “boring” tin of baked beans or soup means there is nothing in. It’s a big from me!

We get that here: open fridge, open cupboards, open drawers looking for easy pre-packed crap which I don’t like buying for obvious reasons. I actually spend a couple of hours each week preparing healthy, nutritious food you can just grab from the fridge but it’s still ‘no food’ because it’s not packaged. It’s actually stuff you can eat without cutlery and mostly doesn’t need heating up! Right size chicken pieces, boiled eggs, vegetable sticks/pieces, variety of salad items, a variety of fruit ( fresh and ready cut up), pancakes and there’s always cheese, natural yoghurt, hummus, breadsticks, pita bread whatever. I don’t know why I bother sometimes. Teenagers eat a lot, a lot! And they need to but it’s got to be fuel not junk. Laziness!

Every time I go shopping,
"Off to the shops is there anything anybody wants?"

Later in the day DH or DC looking in the cupboard and fridge
"Did you get any [name of random food]"

Me

DD is the worst
"GOD-UH you never have anything nice to eat in, you never have any pineapple"
I buy pineapple, it languishes in the fridge other DC pester for it but I say well DD asked for it so we'd better leave it for her.
DD looks in the fridge ignoring elderly pineapple
"Urgh, you never have any sausage rolls in"
And repeat and repeat and repeat.

notso it’s the same here! I actually cut the pineapple (and Melli’s, watermelons), it’s in a container but still 90% nobody touches it despite asking for it, unless I use it for fruit salad.
I get the random DC attempt at cooking something other than scrambled eggs which sounds a bit like: ‘Mum, do we have frozen crocodile tears, arctic dry red moss, Peruvian molluscs? And where do we keep the purple moon dust?’

I kind've see both points of view, yes he is an adult and can eat what he wants but also it depends on if you can afford to buy extra and also considering other's needs at the same time. It annoys me when people eat all the 'good' stuff and leave nothing for anyone else, I'd prefer it if they left a few or went out and bought something for themself. So, it's all about practicality, and consideration for everyone else. Hope that made sense! It did in my head.

My dc came out with this frequently.

My answer was that, as it’s the school holidays, he can bake a cake if he wants one.

rofl

same here when children were little and dexh in house.
what they mean is 'i want cake/crisps/sweets/crap to eat in front of tv/xbox'

they are not hungry they are bored.

eating when we are not hungry is a primary cause of weight gain and obesity...

however the odd bit of cake never hurt anyone...depending of ages of dc i would suggest that they make cake/flapjack/biscuits..good activity...if they want crisps tell them to google how to make them and give it a go...

if they are too little for this suggest to DH that he does this with them..a lovely bonding experience for them all :)

Even if there is stuff that is recognisably food, DP often fails to see it.

He moaned the other day that there were no beans, so I bought 2 4-packs when I was next in the supermarket. When I went to put them away, there were 6 tins in the cupboard.

It looks like we're stockpiling for Brexit.

"GOD-UH you never have anything nice to eat in, you never have any pineapple"

This made me laugh . My teen is just like this.

My son’s phrase is “there’s no food in the house, only ingredients”

If they're anything like DP they mean there's no snacks like crisps and biscuits. I'm trying to eat healthier so I now buy snacks for him that I don't like so I won't eat them.

DP is the same, DS isn't old enough to do it yet though.

Yeah, my freezer is full, cupboards full, but there's " no food "

Grrr

OP Just get your importunate DCs and DH to sit down, write a list and do their own shopping together. It might shock your DCs how much instant food costs. Just sit down and discuss it with them.

My DS often likes something a bit more nutrient dense than what you have listed, food he doesn't have actually cook, but not necessarily treat food. Nuts, honey for a sandwich, muesli or granola, and so on.

OH will say in the same few minutes that 'we need to use what's in the freezer before buying more, it's overfull' and when I ask him to decide what we could have for dinner 'I can't fiind anything', so what it's full of I don't know, a few mini-Magnums aren't that big!

DS also likes frozen bananas and milk to make a smoothie. Maybe ask your family what foods they would like to have available?

Sounds like my DP! He keeps complaining there's nothing to eat and I can always list at least 10 things he could make for himself every time he says it. They should rephrase and say "I'm super lazy, there's no fast/microwaveable/convenient food in the house, I can't be bothered cooking" but yeah you're not BU he is!

Ask what they want, but sounds like they want junk food and / or fast food

Also discuss if they've forgotten how to cook, or lost the use of limbs

Dh does this, it’s code for there’s no sausage rolls in the fridge.

Lazy arsed family, we all have them. Mine are the same, less so DD and DS now as both can cook from scratch.

DH expects a supply of leftover whole home cooked meals on demand, ready for him to nuke for three minutes and job done..

Sadly he is often disappointed.