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Original poster

football season.....here we go again!!!

38 replies

ijustlovecrisps · 09/08/2019 23:51

Does anyone else feel the same as me?
The dread, the anger, the swearing, the being ignored... I could go on!
Can you relate to this?
I live in a city with rival football teams!
I don't mind watching the odd game and finding out the scores but honestly...!
I hate the anger, the swearing, the moods..
If I comment I get a lecture....

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dollydaydream114 · 09/08/2019 23:53

I hate the anger, the swearing, the moods..
If I comment I get a lecture....

The problem here really isn't the football.

tillytrotter1 · 09/08/2019 23:55

You hate swearing? You must loathe MN then!

ilovesooty · 09/08/2019 23:57

No. I love football.

ParkheadParadise · 09/08/2019 23:58

No, I also live in a city with rival teams.
DH has a season ticket but doesn't behave like that.

Original poster
ijustlovecrisps · 09/08/2019 23:59

Yes I know what you mean,
but I'm just fed up of it.
Yes my partner has issues and gets angry at stuff.
I am unhappy in my relationship.
The football is just another reason for him to get wound up and swear.
He calls it loyalty and says I don't understand / get it.
It's not that bad he says...

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RobinMoseby · 09/08/2019 23:59

Domestic violence increases during ‘sports seasons’, I think football was proven to be the worst, so you’re certainly not alone, many women will be dreading it.

BackforGood · 10/08/2019 00:00

What dollyDaydream said

Another who lives in a City with rival teams. Still love football.

Outsomnia · 10/08/2019 00:04

The amount of money many of the players are paid makes me want to retch.

Sorry now. And very few of them seem to be happy and grounded either.

But hey ho.

ParkheadParadise · 10/08/2019 00:05

I used to have a neighbour who's DH would come home from the match and if his team had lost she know she was in for it.

lazylinguist · 10/08/2019 00:09

Football isn't the problem.

The dread, the anger, the swearing, the being ignored...

None of this is normal behaviour, even for a football fan. You are clearly in an abusive relationship.

lazylinguist · 10/08/2019 00:10

I used to have a neighbour who's DH would come home from the match and if his team had lost she know she was in for it.

Christ. Some men really ought to be lined up against a wall and shot.

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ijustlovecrisps · 10/08/2019 00:12

If I speak when the match is on he usually sighs or says what is it now?!
I don't like the level of venom towards the other team.. the things he says. If I comment he says I don't understand.
What a bloody waste of time.
I'm fuming.

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MorganKitten · 10/08/2019 00:12

Nope it’s fine

Original poster
ijustlovecrisps · 10/08/2019 00:14

what's fine?

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ParkheadParadise · 10/08/2019 00:15

I'm sorry, but he sounds a right prick.

dollydaydream114 · 10/08/2019 00:15

I love football and so does my DP. We support different teams and a few seasons ago our teams were vying for the league title. We sat next to each other on the sofa watching the deciding game and one of us was in tears, and one of us was leaping around the room cheering.

Despite this, there was still no shouting, anger, swearing, lectures, moods, dread. After the game we hugged and congratulated/commiserated each other.

Your relationship is clearly the problem, not the football, and your partner's behaviour is absolutely not OK. You definitely need to think about leaving if you possibly can. You sound desperately unhappy and you deserve better than this.

Original poster
ijustlovecrisps · 10/08/2019 00:16

sorry @MorganKitten
do you mean football is fine?

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ijustlovecrisps · 10/08/2019 00:21

thanks for all your comments
and especially @dollydaydream114
My partner hates the other team.
But I know others who support both teams and it is more as you describe it - more friendly

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ParkheadParadise · 10/08/2019 00:23

What team does he support?

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ijustlovecrisps · 10/08/2019 00:28

sorry, is it ok if I don't say as I'm very anxious and don't want to stir stuff up on here.
I suppose you can guess either a London team or a northern city...well it's a Northern city

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ParkheadParadise · 10/08/2019 00:32

Course its ok @ijustlovecrisps
Hope I didn't upset you.

Original poster
ijustlovecrisps · 10/08/2019 00:34

no it's fine x

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NarcolepticOuchMouse · 10/08/2019 00:37

Your other half needs to get a grip. My dp loves football, he's actually going away this weekend to watch his team, but he'd never be disrespectful to me simply because he was watching it on tv. I know he enjoys watching it so I try not to distract him but on the occasion I forget it's on, and ask him a question or something, he'll either answer me or say "Give me a minute babe one sec." I'll wait for whatever is happening to be over and then he'll respond. I don't know why your dp thinks football is an excuse to act like a total twat. There's just no need. Does he have problems respecting you at other times?

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ijustlovecrisps · 10/08/2019 00:41

thank you and in answer to your question ... yes
so that explains it all
Just so frustrated with it all
sorry

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NarcolepticOuchMouse · 10/08/2019 00:48

It sounds like you need a bit of support? What else is going on? Is he generally unpleasant whenever it pleases him?