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AIBU?

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Original poster

football season.....here we go again!!!

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ijustlovecrisps · 09/08/2019 23:51

Does anyone else feel the same as me?
The dread, the anger, the swearing, the being ignored... I could go on!
Can you relate to this?
I live in a city with rival football teams!
I don't mind watching the odd game and finding out the scores but honestly...!
I hate the anger, the swearing, the moods..
If I comment I get a lecture....

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ilovesooty · 10/08/2019 00:49

@ijustlovecrisps I'm so sorry.. I wouldn't have responded like that if I'd realised how things are.

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ijustlovecrisps · 10/08/2019 00:53

@ilovesooty
it's ok.. I understand
and what you said is fine and how it should be... to like football!
It's the associated anger that I don't like - It just seems to be another vehicle and context for swearing and the like..

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ijustlovecrisps · 10/08/2019 08:57

I know all football supporters aren't like this and that it could be even worse but I have had enough if it.

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AlliKaneErikson · 10/08/2019 09:07

I’m the opposite- I love it!

Oysterbabe · 10/08/2019 09:10

Football definitely isn't the problem. Is there a reason you can't leave him?

Oldraver · 10/08/2019 09:12

Well your problem isn't really football.

I'm a bit meh about the actual football, but OH and DS love it

I just laugh when OH is on the phone to 'George' again. Getting tickets can be stressful and we now have a number ending in 1892 on our friends and family 😄

Shoxfordian · 10/08/2019 09:14

It's not about football though. It's another way for him to be aggressive and nasty to you. Can you think about leaving him?

2gorgeousboys · 10/08/2019 09:24

DH, DSS and our DSs have season tickets alongside my DDad and DB. There was a long conversation last night over dinner about how excited they are for the start of the season tomorrow. I'm resigned to the fact that for 9 months of the year every other Saturday is football and make the most of me time. I keep an eye out for the score so I know whether they'll be sad or happy but after 10/15 minutes it's all done and we move on to our Saturday evening they know that anything else is unacceptable behaviour!

There's showing passion and being unreasonable.

RedSheep73 · 10/08/2019 09:26

God it's not already is it? I can't stand football. One of dh's saving graces is he hates it too.

Cheeseoncrumpets · 10/08/2019 09:31

I think I have a faily good idea where you live and what team your husband supports just going on what you've written. Suffice to say I know people who support both clubs and they are not like this at all!

You have a DH problem, not a football problem. My DB and DF are seaon ticket holders for our local team, who are lower league and have far more lows than highs, but they do not behave like this either. They might have a whinge about the game having been 'shit' and how the manager needs to be sacked etc but then they move on and accept it.

DobbyLovesSocks · 10/08/2019 09:50

OP if your DH watching football - and his subsequent behavior- scares you, are you sure you want to be with him?

My DH would watch sport (not just football but ANY sport) morning, noon and night and gets very anxious when his team are playing or England are playing but unless his team or England are playing he will happily 'surrender' the tv remote to me.
Sport does bring out the worst in some people and if DH's behaviour towards me depended on the latest result his ass would be out the door quicker than you could say fulltime

InTheHeatofLisbon · 10/08/2019 09:53

Football isn't the reason for domestic abuse, it doesn't make men who would never be abusive suddenly become that way.

Men who are abusers use it, and anything else they can find as an excuse to abuse.

I'm sorry you're having such a horrible time OP. Do you want to leave? Are you safe at the moment?

As my username suggests I'm football daft, our whole household is. It doesn't mean I can't understand when people dislike football or can't hold a conversation about anything else. Arseholes are arseholes, irrespective of football allegiances.b

YouSayPotatoesISayVodka · 10/08/2019 09:57

The dread, the anger, the swearing, the being ignored... I could go on

You’re basically describing an abuser right there. Does other stuff set him off too by the way? When he’s driving? Things not working how they should? People not behaving in the way he would like (you, his kids)?

It is true that DV cases increase during football season and sky rocket during big tournaments like the World Cup. But no, being abusive is not normal and most football fans do not behave in this way.

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