To think my toddler is ridiculous

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What is with these tantrums?! Why do they loose their mind over placing a pillow down the wrong way? Please tell me I'm not alone! Let's share our silliest toddler tantrums. Ps am I being unreasonable to laugh in his face?

Ours is13 now but I remember with fond memories how my friends and I used to share the meltdowns.
If you don't laugh you'll get upset over how irrational, inconvenient or totally incomprehensible toddlers can be. My friends son told me that he wasn't going to eat the chicken I served him because it was sweaty. He was 3 years old. We had to laugh 😂

DS has a tantrum at the park because we couldn't 'splash like peppa' in the big muddy puddle. It was a fucking pond. A hole filled with duck shit and stagnant water full of god knows what diseases. I had to physically drag him home kicking and screaming while he swung from my arm like a monkey on MDMA.

I fondly remember him at around 13/14mo, he had an obsession with opening and closing doors. Well he screamed for hours, literal hours one time because he shut the door. Not because he couldn't open it again. He had opened and closed them loads before. To make sure, I opened it, I closed it. He carried on crying. I checked for marks in case he had caught himself (even though I watched him do it!). He was crying because he shut the door. He shut the door and it actually closed in his face. That was all. He shut the door and it closed and he was absolutely inconsolable about it. I'm not sure what the door was meant to do instead. But honestly he was heartbroken and cried for hours because he shut the door and it actually closed. Nothing will ever beat that. It was pure and utter insanity and made zero sense what so ever. I sat and cried after about an hour partly because I couldn't bear listening to the crying and partly because I had given birth to something so incredibly stupid.

You think your toddler is ridiculous? Imagine you were deeply upset about something (doesn’t matter what). And the person supposed to love you most laughed in your face. How would you feel? Remember your toddler has very limited ability to explain to you what is upsetting him and why. Even adults can struggle to articulate why they feel a certain way but we generally have a better ability to understand and manage our feelings. Empathising with your child is not the same as indulging bad behaviour.

Dd (3yo) screamed the roof down in Prezzo today because my grandma was reading a book to her but didn’t start the book by naming the title on the front cover “NOT THAT PAGE! THE FRONT ONE” cried about for at least ten minutes. I had to take her out for a breather.

@Northie

😂😂😂

Swung from my arm like a monkey on MDMA.

P.s @Sara107 you are spot on, learnt this in infant psychology, the empathy reflex is the best first reaction.

@Nofunkingworriesmate it is hard but humour gets you thru most of it. Don't be terrified just make sure you enjoy it as much as you can. Hugs and kisses are free and if you can get into a routine life becomes easier. Kids can be hard work but also an absolute treat.
Ours is nearly 14 and he still adorable. A real gift in life. All the best 😘

@Northie you really made me laugh 😂 a fucking pond.

Mine has a badge called “birdie friend” which is a picture of a bird and some Welsh words. Today, I forgot to pin birdie friend to his outfit when we went out for brunch and he cried for ages and shouted at me.

When we got home, I made a roast dinner and birdie friend was only fed broccoli as he isn’t allowed meat or roast potato. I realised my mistake when I pretended to feed birdie friend some potato! More tears.

Last nights bedtime, featuring overtired shrieking DD(3)
DD: no Mummy, don't lean back!
OneMore: leans forward
DD: no Mummy, dont lean forward!
OneMore: leans back

On repeat for 20 minutes at steadily increasing volume complete with kicking if I tried to break cycle by standing up...

@Sara107 Kids need to learn the difference between laughing at them and laughing at a situation.
We need to encourage resilience. Last thing you want it's a snowflake that gets easily offended.
Parenting needs to be loving and patient but that doesn't mean we can't laugh when their behaviour is contradictory or incomprehensible.

I remember DD having a tantrum before nursery once because I wouldn't let her wear the light pink knickers she wanted to wear and handed her a different light pink pair (because the ones she wanted she had worn the day before and were in the wash basket) She got dressed eventually and told me "I'm going to tell [nursery keyworker] on you!" stomped all the way to nursery, threw herself at the keyworker and burst into tears and sobbingly explained what a bad mummy I am.

They were identical pairs of knickers, they were cheap and I'd bought a few packs as we were toilet training.

@onlyoneoftheregimentinstep
🤯 What... I have no words

I haven’t read them all...but doesn’t anyone else have a ten year old that has massive tantrums still? Mine does!

DD is 10, we have massive tantrums, they did stop for a few years but I'm pretty sure she just stored them all up for me to have now.

Thank you for making me laugh!

DD at dinner time no longer likes ham, cucumber or hummus (the usual favourites). Full on meltdown as she no longer likes bread either. So she happily ate beans on toasted bread instead.

17m old tantrum'd today about EVERYTHING. All 'round Monkey World, all around Lullworth Cove, absolutely everything was pissing him off.

Wanted the water bottle, didn't want the lid. Took the lid away, screamed for the lid. Threw water bottle, screamed as soon as it left his hands.
Didn't want to walk, didnt want to be carried, didn't want the buggy, didn't want the sling....

Felt like leaving him with Daddy and taking my tired, sick, pregnant ass to a spa for a week or two! And it'll only get worse won't it?! 😩😩😩🙈🙈

I don't know what started the tantrum, but last week DH popped into Sainsburys where a small child was having such a OTT tantrum (rolling on floor, screaming etc) that the security staff had barricaded that aisle with cones. Apparently it had been going on for quite some time!

My DS is 4 and sobbed because I didnt save him from a fish in his dream! I wasnt sure what to say to that but he was distraught!

SadOtter My 12 years old has tantrums and I will laugh at him and sometimes with him when he eventually calms down and realises he is being ridiculous

My just turned 3 year old had a tantrum yesterday because I opened the door to my husband when he wanted to. This morning me and his Dad were having a cuddle on the sofa and my son went and sat on the bottom step crying because he wasn't involved, even though we invited him to come and cuddle and also cried this morning because I wouldn't let him open his Dad's 40th birthday cards and presents lol

Although reading some of these also reminds me of an incident last summer with my eldest who would've been 7/8 year old (HF ASD for what it's worth) wanted to go to the park but didn't want to wear jogging bottoms, jeans or shorts - not quite sure what he thought how we were going to do it 😂

Shinyletsbebadguys try working in a classroom full of them when one tantrum has a domino effect. I never drank before I worked in a school.

Ds had a tantrum on a beach in Sharm El Sheik because it was the last day and he wanted to take the beach home.

My 20 month old cried for 10 minutes because I opened and let him have his older sisters packet of quavers he went got out of the cupboard and asked for. (I normally say no so it could have been shock )

This thread is pure gold!

The tantrum that I most appreciated was when DD was around 18 months old and she threw a tantrum because I was cleaning the flat. She grabbed my arm and dragged me over to the computer desk and made me sit down. I did not argue with that!

One that really cracked me up, though not really a tantrum, was when I overhead her arguing with herself "Give it back [name]!!" "Nooooooooo!!!!"