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Original poster

To be pissed off that DH has just said that l'm annoying

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AnnoyingAnnieApparently · 08/08/2019 21:43

DH was sat reading the news and the conversation went like this...

DH: "God women really will do anything"
ME: "How do you mean?"
DH: "Women steaming their vagina's...and queue liberal back lash.."
ME: "Well not all women will do anything"
DH: "Maybe I should start staying super Liberal things and then you can see how annoying it is"
ME: "Charming... so I'm annoying?"
DH "No, not you"
ME: "Just the things I say?"
DH very smugly says "Well not ALL the things you say"

DH is like something from the 50s where women should be seen, briefly at that, and not heard! Whenever I have an opinion that differs from his I'm being "too Liberal" Confused

That aside, I'm slightly f**d off that he thinks when I talk I'm annoying Blush. I'm now sat here worrying that other people think I am too!!

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PatriciaHolm · 08/08/2019 21:45

well if he's an antique that can't have come as a surprise?

If he's always been like that, well - he doesn't sound very attractive.

TeamUnicorn · 08/08/2019 21:48

I would say YABU, but that is only because I would take that as a joke. Pretty standard line in my house growing up.

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AnnoyingAnnieApparently · 08/08/2019 21:49

@TeamUnicorn I would have laughed if he'd been joking but he wasn't

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IAintWroteNoPoetry · 08/08/2019 21:54

I don’t think YABU, I wouldn’t like the way he talks about women

AnneLovesGilbert · 08/08/2019 21:56

He didn’t say you were annoying?

Letseatgrandma · 08/08/2019 21:56

queue?

Prisonbreak · 08/08/2019 21:57

Not all the things my man says are annoying but some of it is. And he could say the same for me. I don’t get the issue?

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AnnoyingAnnieApparently · 08/08/2019 21:58

@Letseatgrandma Oh god did I write that? Sorry I have dyslexia! I should have re checked and edited Blush

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OooErMissus · 08/08/2019 21:59

Did he suddenly morph into this person after your married him?

I doubt it.

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AnnoyingAnnieApparently · 08/08/2019 22:00

@Prisonbreak I get what you're saying but my DH nit picks at everything I make a comment at these days Sad EVERYTHING is "too liberal".

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AnnoyingAnnieApparently · 08/08/2019 22:01

@OooErMissus He never used to nit pick at what I say, no.

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FAQs · 08/08/2019 22:01

Surely you must also find him annoying at times?

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AnnoyingAnnieApparently · 08/08/2019 22:03

@FAQs Everyone finds people annoying at times but you don't say it to their face usually, do you? I wouldn't dream of saying to him "I'm going to start whistling randomly so you can see how annoying it is". I do hate whistling but it's a part of him and he likes it. I'd not want him to feel like he couldn't do or say what he wanted.

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fivecupsoftea · 08/08/2019 22:29

I don’t think it’s bad that your husband said you are annoying. I say that to my husband and we laugh about it. When two people live together they are usually going to annoy each other at times, I think it’s good to be honest. I think that steaming ones vagina is an odd thing to do and I agree with your husband that women will do anything, so your retort back to him seems a bit annoying to me. He was only making a simple comment about a funny story.

threemonthstogo · 08/08/2019 22:42

Of course not all women would do anything. How is pointing that out "too liberal"?

I'd be more concerned about his generalisations regarding women tbh (and PPs) What if you said to him that "damn men are stupid" or some such comment?

WhyBirdStop · 08/08/2019 22:43

I wouldn't be worrying I was too liberal, I'd be worrying I'd married a misogynistic arsehole

OooErMissus · 08/08/2019 23:58

He never used to nit pick at what I say, no.

That really wasn't what I was asking!

I'll clarify:

Did he suddenly morph into a misogynistic arsehole after your married him?

OooErMissus · 09/08/2019 00:00

DH is like something from the 50s where women should be seen, briefly at that, and not heard!

Or in other words, how on earth could you possibly ever have been attracted to him? Confused

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AnnoyingAnnieApparently · 09/08/2019 02:05

@OooErMissus He wasn't always. He always seemed to treat me as an equal partner.

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AnnoyingAnnieApparently · 09/08/2019 02:08

@fivecupsoftea I get what you're saying but I'm not even sure he was telling it as a funny story Confused I barely got a chance to open my mouth before he started taking the piss out of me.

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Alicewond · 09/08/2019 02:11

To be honest, you did sound like you were being deliberately annoying. Did you have a point? Is he normally an arse?

Alicewond · 09/08/2019 02:16

@AnnoyingAnnieApparently so are you leaving him? You’re obviously disgusted and insulted?

Nextphonewontbesamsung · 09/08/2019 02:22

I don't understand your husband's "liberal backlash" comment at all. What was his point?

ElizaPancakes · 09/08/2019 02:39

This sort of comment is what would mentally make me start checking out of the marriage. Do you want to be with a man who has no respect for you?

I'd just respond with "I expect you're right husband, even if you're not it doesn't really matter does it?". But then I'm not known for letting others have the last word.

Pineapple1 · 09/08/2019 02:47

How long have you been married?

My wife and I call each other all sorts... We know there is no malice behind it...

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