To be irritated?

[anxietygirl76]

I am awaiting a delivery if an expensive item I have been waiting for for about 6 weeks. I had no control over when it was despatched and it has finally been despatched today via UPS with a delivery of Friday, with the only details being 'any time of day'.

Unfortunately I am attending a funeral on Friday , so won't be home.
Of course, I'd rather there weren't such sad circumstances that there's a funeral at all. So my parcel really is minor in the grand scheme of things.

However I casually mentioned to my DP perhaps he could WFH Friday . The answer was an outright no because he doesn't like working on a laptop and prefers the desktop at work

I feel a bit miffed as I'm always running around dropping him off, picking him up, taking his bike to the bike shop for repairs/servicing and do on....

And now he's just mentioned can I take him to work on Friday and pick him up so he doesn't have to ride because it's going to be raining (his car in garage).

I'm biting my tongue....if he wfh he wouldn't need a lift would he...grrr

But at the end of the day there are far worse things going on in the world aren't there and I should really count my blessings.

Let the daft selfish twat ride in the rain and start rethinking your relationship.

Does the over-whelming response from posters saying your DP is a selfish twat not make you realise that in a healthy relationship a partner would be happy to WFH for you on such an occasion?

Honestly, the fact he hasn't even considered the fact that YOU may need some support on the day of a funeral is just bizarre.

Loving partners treat each other so much better than he's treating you.

Is it always about him & his needs?

Let him cycle in

It's all about him isn't it. Does he always make himself the most important person in the room.
Selfish idiot, can work from home and do you this small favour or ride in the rain.

Why would it cause a row ? Unless he has form for being a selfish arse

Let him know that your are annoyed that he can't work from home for one day to be in for this bike yet he expects you to go out of your way to drop him off & pick him up

I don't think I'm a doormat, I just didn't see the point in a row,

There doesn’t have to be a row. You tell him you’re not giving him a lift and then carry on with your plans as normal. Ignore any reaction from him. He might want a row. You don’t have to join him in one.

I did mention it all to him and I can't force him to stay at home.

No, but that doesn’t mean you have to give him a lift either. Don’t do it.

Bury him in the garden face down with just his bum showing -
Now you have somewhere to park your new bike!!
He is literally an arse anyway!

Let that dickhead pedal to work in the rain. Like fuck do I help people who wont bother themselves for me!

I am sorry but I would not be able to work from home for some of.the work I do. Often it is fine as I do emails.and admin etc but sown of my work is on deadlines and is twice as quick to do.at work as I have two screens and I have access to large data bases that always crash when I remotely log in so whether YABU depends on what he has on at work and how easy it is to do from home

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I wouldn't give him a lift to work though

You aren't bejng petty. You spelled it all out and he's still being self absorbed. Try saying no, see what he says.

Could there be a reason he doesn't want you to have the bike?

So just an update.
It wasn't raining so he rode to work.

I went to the funeral and missed the UPS delivery which was then reset for Monday. I tweeted UPS and thankfully got someone helpful and arranged to collect my bike from the depot this evening.

I'm now sat on my sofa drinking a gin whilst admiring my new shiny bike. 😁

He (last week) bought a new bike frame and seperate parts (cheaper than buying one built) and needs it dropping off at the bike shop next week. I've no idea how hes getting them there 😈

Thanks for listening to me rant. I have made my point, he is well aware. I have my bike.. happy days.

Glad you’ve got your bike. He’s still a pig though!

Oh yes, completely selfish arse. Certainly has opened my eyes a.bit, sadly.