To be annoyed at being left to look after house and pet

[Chocrichtea]

I've just had a baby who's 2 weeks old and my parents want me to look after their house and the old family dog! They booked this holiday while I was pregnant and knew that I would have just had a baby. I live around the corner so that's why they asked me instead of Dsis. I wish I had said no now but they made me feel really guilty.
It's stressing me out, I had stitches that are infected and shattered from our DS who doesn't sleep well and us really unsettled. Mum didn't want to put dog in kennals as he's so old.
AIBU to think they shouldn't have asked me and just not gone on holiday because she doesn't want to put the dog in kennels. I need support from family not looking after their stuff.

I dont think it's fair to call them selfish. They just didn't think and we ate all guilty of that at times

Sorry but the birth of a new baby is a bit of a big event to overlook or "forget"! They were wrong and selfish to even ask the op do this!

Tbf to them, you said yes and they've already gone. Its a bit late to back out now.

Bring the dog to yours. An elderly dog doesn't need much exercise.

I think I'd relocate to your parents house. Gather up what you need and stay there. I appreciate it's not ideal but at least then you wouldn't have to stress so much?

Yes it’s too late to moan now but you can make life easier by moving the dog to your house.

Can't you just take the dog to your house and your partner can help look after him? Unless I'm missing something I don't see what the big deal is

If the dog is old (I have an oldie myself) won't he just need letting outside 3 times a day? I assume you have a garden/yard. Mine literally goes a few hundred yards on his "walk" but if I was house-bound he'd be OK pottering in the garden and I guess your parents dog won't need walking as such if there is somewhere he can go outside for pee/poo. Your partner can clean up dog poo when he gets home from work.

And I'm sure your partner can make sure there is a bowl of clean water before he goes to work, and a dish of dog food?

Looking after an elderly dog isn't the same as looking after a young, high energy dog but it's still very selfish of your parents to just assume this is all still ok with a newborn.

Can you put the dog in kennels and send them the bill?

I don't have the money for a dog sitter

You don't need it, it's not your bill to pay.
Can your DP/DH take the dog to kennels and your parents can collect him and pay the bill when they get back?

I can't get over that they planned to be in Mexico so soon after a new grandchild was due!!

What if your baby had come 2 weeks early?? Would they still have expected you to dog and 'house sit' then?

Bring the dog to your house and let it out whenever you are able to shuffle about. Hope you feel better soon.

Look it's done now, the time to refuse would be before they left.

Bring the dog to yours, lock the house up and tell your parents the house is locked up. They need to contact your sister to check on the house.

Take the dog back to yours. An elderly dog that doesn't need walking isn't going to be much bother, they'll just need the company.

Least that way you're in familiar surroundings.

Can you say to them that you're sorry but there have been complications with stitches and you simply can't do it.

So therefore would they rather you put the doggo in kennels, or ask your sister to do it?

Or take the dog to yours if you don't feel able to face the awkwardness or confrontation if they're difficult? Usually, I'd say you shouldn't have to avoid confrontation but I'm also realistic and conscious that having given birth so recently you don't want to do anything that stresses you out.

Poor you, people really are dicks sometimes

The house doesn't need looking after. Have the dog at yours and persuade other people who visit or your partner to walk it. If it's elderly, it may only need going out in the back garden anyway.