So a bit of back story, my parents, particularly my mum have had an issue with my weight for years. I was very skinny as a child, but that’s partly because food was massively restricted and as a consequence I’ve grown up with a very bad relationship with food.
My mum mentioned my weight almost every time I saw her, my dad sometimes too.
I am overweight, but I also had a baby almost 10 months ago. I was overweight before then too, but I’m happy within myself at the moment anyway.
Back to the original issue. They haven’t mentioned it for a while.
I sent a WhatsApp to my mum with an image from Pinterest of the haircut I want to get and asked her opinion as I’m going back to work after mat leave in sept and said I wanted to look nice.
Her response was:
“How about shedding a few pounds too?” I honestly didn’t know what to reply, I kept typing something and deleting it, so resorted in saying “When you say things like that, what do you expect my response to be?” And she said “Just a suggestion” so I haven’t responded to that and I won’t do.
I feel really sad and let down again, I thought we’d moved on from this and she/they were understanding of the fact I need to do it under my own steam & off my own back, if I want to at all. But apparently we’re back here again (I suppose we never really left). I’ve had plenty of therapy due to my anxiety disorder and each time, my parents seem to be the main problem, especially as to why my self esteem is so low and I need reassurance constantly.
I keep thinking I need to go low contact or no contact. But I feel a huge amount of guilt doing this for some reason. I also wouldn’t know how to go about it. If I don’t answer her texts after an hour or two she often bombards me with messages asking why I haven’t responded (we live 4 hours drive apart).