About blowing our birthday candles?

[astonishedzebra]

I have NC'd for this as feel along with my previous posts could be quite outing to those that know me.

We have been to a family child's party over the weekend and when "Happy Birthday" and blowing the candles out was done by the birthday girl, her Mum asked does anyone else want a turn? There was then a huge queue of children wanting to have a turn; pushing, arguing etc and the birthday girl was pushing people out the way to blow out the candles again. It was mayhem.

We have been at other family birthdays where there have been tantrums if said child could not blow out the candles first.

My DC birthday is next month and I am dreading the tantrum when this child can't blow the candles out first. I have no intention of "opening the floor" to children to blow out the candles as I feel like it's unnecessary and we have other things to be doing during the party.

AIBU and how do I handle this?

Not this again. I have only ever seen this on Mumsnet - letting other children blow the candles out at parties. Honestly - incredible parents feel they can't just say no.

Can you do blowing out candles with just family the night before and do a cake sparkler on the day.

Can you do blowing out candles with just family the night before and do a cake sparkler on the day.

That's not the same for the birthday child though is it? They probably want to be able to blow out the candles on their own cake on their actual birthday, at their party.

How about the other child being told that they cannot blow out the candles as it isn't their birthday?

Thank you again for all the replies - I will look through the old thread too.

At the party I'm going to do happy birthday and candles as usual - if anyone else asks to blow out candles I'm just going to say something about only the birthday boy/girl does candles and leave it at that.

My MIL did this recently at an adults birthday. She insisted on relighting the candles so each of the grandchildren could have a turn blowing out the candles. I’m really against this as it doesn’t make a Birthday as special if you get to blow out candles often, but I was so shocked I didn’t know what to say 🙈

We do this! Not at a party but with family birthdays. So all the cousins get a go. I did it as a kid too. I know it's not common but it's fun and a bit of a family ritual.

The only time we have ever done this is with my DB. He is special needs and loves blowing out candles. So on our birthdays, we either let him help us blow them out, or light one for him to do after wards. Otherwise not a hope anyone is blowing out candles.

The poor child!! Just let your child blow them out and then cut it straight away. Either let them do the first cut or you pick it up as soon as the candles are out to do it.

Just my DD blew out the candles, we just swiftly took the cake away after she had blown them out.

However, said child then spent the rest of the time asking to open the presents because she didn't get to blow out candles 🙄

Goodness

Because of the amount of kids blowing/spitting candles out .
Ide rather starve.
totally disgusting.