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Would you move to Texas for USD 5k more a month

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Constance17 · 05/08/2019 23:07

DH has been offered a job in U.S, we have children aged 6 & 8. What concerns you most?

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catofdoom · 09/08/2019 03:43

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catofdoom · 09/08/2019 03:48

@MissConductUS until recently we had a 1999 Mercedes, a 2001 Range Rover and a 2004 Audi.

I recently threw my toys out of the pram and we have a brand new Subaru Outback and a very old but solid Toyota pick up.

The one thing about the US (at least where I am) that makes me furious is the newer the car, the more the tax/registration is. I'm paying top tax for my close to zero emission car whereas if I had a oil spewing classic I'd pay nothing at all! Awful example for the environment and my state should be ashamed.

mathanxiety · 09/08/2019 04:38

jennymanara Thu 08-Aug-19 17:50:47

I said it was easier because British students can get in with lower level of qualifications than British universities

They can get in where, Jennymanara?

Harvard?
Central Rhode Island College of Cosmetology?

Newsflash:
US universities in categories from 'selective' up apply their own rubrics to each admission decision. Two US students with exactly the same qualifications on paper are not both guaranteed admission to any given university.

Changednamesorry · 09/08/2019 04:45

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bellejoy · 09/08/2019 04:51

Yes! Just moved to Kansas for the same reason. Loving it!

Myfoolishboatisleaning · 09/08/2019 05:57

@catofdoom do you not watch the news? And see how POC are treated in the US? changednamesorry is not chatting shit, although you appear to be.

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mathanxiety · 09/08/2019 06:52

i don't like greedy american consumerism

Casting my mind back at this point to how my neighbours and friends and I would show up at each others' doors bearing finds from garage sales, or big bags of clothing and shoes and winter gear picked up from friends of friends, sent by second cousins, etc., so that everyone could share the bounty.

I remember bagging up winter gear and handing it all around - especially snow bibs, snow boots, and jackets, which made the rounds year after year. I have photos of my DCs making snowmen with the neighbours from the mid 90s to the mid 00s - certain outerwear on my oldest DCs then appeared on younger neighbour children, then returned to us for my younger DCs. One particularly recognisable orange, down-filled jacket eventually found its way to Goodwill and hopefully it will keep many more 7-8 year old children cozy for many years.

Fond memories too of block parties with every family bringing a pot luck dish to share and kids with fruit punch stains all over their tops eating hot dogs, the remains of water balloon fights all over the street; and more sombre togetherness as neighbours rallied to feed the family of a woman fighting cancer, take them out for trips here and there, doing a rota of laundry and housecleaning.

Apart from a little spell from about age 12-14 most kids are not that into brands or any 'must have' items. When I go to my local second hand shop I always see students I recognise finding clothes for school.

All this in an affluent suburb.

R44Me · 09/08/2019 07:30

My generalisations were from having lived there on and off (on and off due to coming back to uk sometimes for breaks to see family) for 10 years. And shopping was theeeee main pastime for many sahw, I left in 2014 maybe it's changed a lot since them. I was in Houston.

Changednamesorry · 09/08/2019 07:32

Thank you. I also thought her comment was racist.

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Sceptre86 · 09/08/2019 10:21

Not white so in this political climate definitely not. Would love to visit certain parts on holiday though. If the politics, gun control and conservative views in Texas are not an issue for you go for it.

makingmammaries · 09/08/2019 10:29

I’d say yes. Change of scene from Brexit. There will be things you love there and things you hate.

catofdoom · 09/08/2019 10:33

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catofdoom · 09/08/2019 10:37

And if you are white with white kids - maybe it's you who shouldn't be talking shit about things you know nothing about.

My closest friends are not white. A large number of my of my family aren't white. I know plenty about the issues they face. I'm saying not ALL America is racist and they've found some horrible racism in Britain too. And it's getting much worse than it has been.

Owlbabie5 · 09/08/2019 13:10

Of course there is racism in the US. There is racism in the UK too and homophobia. We’ve been watching the US news in the evening and have seen the same stories that are on the BBC. The outrage is the same. The US is a massive country. The news stories we see when they crop up don’t in any way speak for the whole country. This is the same re news stories that crop up in the UK about the UK.

We’ve just done a week in New York and felt far safer there than in London. The people were lovely, so helpful. It was far more multicultural than London and seemed like one big melting pot.On a lesser level Cape Cod v Cornwall ditto Obviously I’m aware other places within the US won’t be the same in the same way the UK differs from place to place but to dismiss the whole country as racist is unfair and it’s an unfairness we wouldn’t like dished out to the UK.

Re toys I agree with the Maine poster. We were just saying yesterday that our tiny in comparison lawn mower wouldn’t cut it hereGrin and we’d need one of those massive ride on things. I also now see the reliance on AC having spent 2 weeks so far of the summer here.😅Cat we’re off up to Maine next and so excited.

EmpressoftheMundane · 09/08/2019 13:51

mathanxiety I am aware of Texas hill country. But it's not relevant, if she is moving to Houston. Houston is a swamp, they are flat. Hill country is about 200 miles away.

catofdoom · 09/08/2019 13:53

Hmm if it's swampy that would be a no from me then. I'm allergic to mosquitoes and it's hellish enough in Maine.

@Owlbabie5 where are you going? I'm in Old Orchard Beach at the moment and it's bloody mental. Like Blackpool on steroids. DS is having the time of his tacky little life! Grin

Owlbabie5 · 09/08/2019 13:56

We’re travelling up the coast-Kennebunk, Sebasco Harbour and then Bar Harbour for a few days.😍

catofdoom · 09/08/2019 13:58

I really am upset that anyone would think I was making a racist post. Christ, I was engaged to someone of Jamaican descent,

I've been in relationships with people from Pakistan, Turkey, Japan. Most of my previous partners before my DH weren't white. Half of my family is Filipino.

Honestly, I can't think of a worse thing to be called. Again, I'm sorry if I offended anyone but I don't have a racist bone in my body.

catofdoom · 09/08/2019 13:59

@Owlbabie5 ooooh lovely! It's actually a little quieter than usual in Maine so you picked a great year!!

timshelthechoice · 09/08/2019 14:24

Houston is a massive city of 4m with a hugely diverse population, property prices are going up, there are some very good schools there, you can learn any language you'd like (and plenty of them are also taught in schools) and mostly people just live and let live. You do not have to engage in politics if you don't want to. It doesn't register much on peoples' radars day-to-day, it's just like any other place, most people are just concerned with going to work, making a living and getting by.

MissConductUS · 09/08/2019 15:48

@catofdoom

I recently threw my toys out of the pram and we have a brand new Subaru Outback and a very old but solid Toyota pick up.

Not to beat the car bit to death, but our first Subaru was a 1998 Legacy GT Wagon (bought shortly after we got married), which is the same vehicle as an Outback without the faux body armor. We loved that car, it never failed us, but traded it in for a 2009 Forrester when we needed something a bit bigger to take on holiday to Block Island. We also have a zippy little Impreza that I've been using to take DD all around New England on doing uni tours.

To reconnect this somewhat to the thread, having placed DS in uni and now being in the process of doing the same with DD, it has really made me appreciate the fabulous array of options we have in the US for higher education. There is truly an option for every student who aspires to university and we are spoilt for choice.

drsausage · 09/08/2019 15:50

I'm in Old Orchard Beach at the moment and it's bloody mental. Like Blackpool on steroids. DS is having the time of his tacky little life!

LOL there's nothing quite like OOB in the summer. I always leave there with the impression that all Canadians wear speedos, swear constantly and smoke like chimneys.

Apologies to any Canadians on this thread. I'm sure you're lovely.

drsausage · 09/08/2019 15:57

To reconnect this somewhat to the thread, having placed DS in uni and now being in the process of doing the same with DD, it has really made me appreciate the fabulous array of options we have in the US for higher education. There is truly an option for every student who aspires to university and we are spoilt for choice.

Yep - I have three very different children and it's good to know there are colleges out there that will work for all of them.

DD got a $30k a year scholarship, plus a couple of other smaller ones, and starts next month. She didn't bother applying to UK colleges partly because it would have worked out more expensive. She considered Cambridge but wasn't tempted when she had so many great options available here. Several of her friends got into Manchester, Glasgow etc very easily despite 'only' having American high school qualifications.