AIBU to let my 12 year old son wear a dinosaur tshirt

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My dh thinks I shouldn't be buying him any more jurassic park t-shirts. Reckons he'd get bullied. I asked what he should be wearing then? Fred Perry or something similar he suggested. To be clear, ds chose the t-shirt, I didn't just get it. What do you think? I said if he thinks ds would get bullied then perhaps he was the sort of child who would have done the bullying! I guess I'm asking AIBU in allowing ds to wear what he wants and not what others expect?

Of course it's fine! My 13 year old would happily wear that.

I have a Jurassic Park tshirt...

I'm currently wearing a band t-shirt. I normally wear them or Harry Potter or Avengers t-shirts.

My kids wear fandom t-shirts too. So their favourite bands, tv shows, films, games etc.

None of them have ever been bullied over their choice of clothes.

My ds is now 16 and still not into brand names, no bullying has ever occurred.

Why should they wearing them? Brands are only there to make money for the company and cost us so much more than other clothes...

I think it's fine, plenty of teens wear t-shirts like this. Truffle Shuffle is a great website for more choice and it's not aimed at the under 8's. I've let my teen boy pick his clothes for years, his comfort matters not mine of his dads.

im mid 40s and have a Pokemon t-shirt...

my friends are mid40s and have pokemon, mario and gaming t-shirts...

your DH is the one who needs to be careful not to create issues on your son

My 14 year old daughter is crazy about Harry Potter and t-shirts, a lunchbox, notepads, you name it. She does get bullied for being a nerd but that is their problem, not hers. She refuses to give in to them and compromise on what makes her happy and I won't reinforce the bullying by trying to make her wear other things. If your son wants a break from the bullying and wants to blend in, fine. But if your DH is forcing this on him, then he is telling your son that the bullies are right.

Sorry, I misread the OP and thought your son was already being bullied. So your DH is anticipating a problem that doesn't exist right now and wants his son to change before it even happens? That's not right.

IF he’s chosen it it’s fine. There are plenty of adults that chose to wear film/character stuff.

I’m sure he will let you know if he wants a particular brand but don’t let your DH dictate that - I doubt he knows what the kids actually value now anyway.

On a personal note I never really understood paying a premium to advertise someone’s brand. Of course some people like to but it’s not something that’s ever appealed to me.

My eight year old wouldn’t know a brand name if it hit her in the face.

My son has sensory issues that drive how he dresses and often draws comments (not nasty ones though) from strangers. I suspect he will continue in his own groove.

My 16 year old wears them . He’s not into brand names at all. Seems to have gone though school reasonably unscathed

I'm a 34 year old woman and I'd wear a Jurassic Park t-shirt. He should be allowed to wear what he wants :)

I'm 24 with a dinosaur tattoo let him crack on, they're amazing creatures

Fred Perry, really, for a 12 yr old?

If he's anything like my husband, he really hasn't got a clue how much these cost.

My youngest, almost 18, isn't in anyway bothered about clothes.

My almost 21 yr old however spends the majority of his wages on this type of clothing, I think he's mad.. but hey ho it's his his money.. he earns it.

I think it’s fine - if he chose it totally fine

My 12 year old daughter is currently wearing cargo shorts and a dinosaur T-shirt from the boys section of the supermarket.

At 12 it should be yours sons choice surely?

Fred Perry is a bit chavy around here. Jurassic Park t shirt is cool. My DD nearly 15 is currently wearing a vintage Back to the Future t shirt.

My 34 year old DH wears Jurassic Park tshirts

Let the kids wear what he wants! If he chose it, it's fine.

A Jurassic Park t-shirt is better than a cartoon one which is what I originally thought you were going to say.

That's a bit more cult like - a bit like the band shirts. So yes i'd leave him to it. Don't be surprised if he changes at some point and doesn't't want to wear it. Could be because of a comment or two.

My 13yo has been bullied relentlessly since he was 5 for lots of "reasons" - not once has he been picked on for not wearing the right brands or style of clothing.

Let him wear what he wants, fuck the bullies, they will choose their target and find a reason to excuse their behaviour.

Ha-my youngest DC(age12) faveT is Jurassic park😂

Fred Perry? That’s worse
Adults wear the old style JP t shirts
What is with kids not being able to be kids anymore
It’s great if he wants to wear that but I’m sure it’ll change soon enough.

If it was Barney the dinosaur he might have point but a Jurassic park t shirt is absolutely fine - at any age.

Fred Perry is not cool OP. It's what aging mods wear, see Tim Lovejoy... cringe.

'Geek'/'nerd' style is actually very much on trend. Even if it's not, good parenting is about encouraging your child to be their best true self.

Telling him he 'can't wear something because he might get bullied' is one of the worst parenting tactics I've ever heard.

Grown men wear t-shirts with child type logos on don’t they so why not a 13 year old