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When do i start to worry?

67 replies

AirRaidShelter · 05/08/2019 00:40

Ex was meant to come walk the dog at 10pm. Ive phoned him and messaged look like they havent been read. Its out of character when do i start to worry?

OP posts:
Isatis · 05/08/2019 01:08

Seriously, if you can't look after the dog without help you need to rethink whether you can have one. Your ex could get ill or held up at any time.

HiJenny35 · 05/08/2019 01:08

I think people have assumed you mean worry about you ex however I think you mean worry about the dog because she won't go?!?! Don't worry at all, the animal will go when it needs to.
Put the dog on a lead, stand at the front door with your keys incase the door blows shut and that's that.

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AirRaidShelter · 05/08/2019 01:09

After this ill be asking mt family for more support and increasing her time with the dog walker

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HiJenny35 · 05/08/2019 01:10

You really don't need to ask you family for more support with the dog, just do the walk before you put your child to bed, this really isn't an issue.

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AirRaidShelter · 05/08/2019 01:11

Well hes never let me down before but now i know that is what ill be doing.

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SadOtter · 05/08/2019 01:17

The dog will pee in your yard long before she'll do herself any damage holding it in. Its shitty of ex to not turn up but its not going to harm the dog, even the best trained/fussiest dog in the world will pee anywhere if it is desperate enough.

If she last went at midday and you are saying it could be 24 hours thats lunchtime, surely your child will be awake before that and you can take her? I can get not getting a young child out of bed but you can walk together/stick the child in the buggy as soon as they are up, how do you walk the dog the rest of the time?

Dippypippy1980 · 05/08/2019 01:18

You have become very worked up about a simple issue. I am a bit puzzled that you couldn’t problem solve your way out of this. Dog in garden - surely it’s easy.

Have you only recently separated? Does your ex come every night to walk the dog? You are you upset that he is maybe moving on?

saltinesandcoffeecups · 05/08/2019 01:19

Wake the child and take the dog out. It’s really that simple.

musicposy · 05/08/2019 01:19

Why don't you take the dog out with the child in a pushchair before bedtime?

Even if he'd come at 10pm, midday to 10pm is appalling. You can't leave a dog that long without toileting. Could you get a bit of grass in the yard if the dog needs grass, turn it into a bit of garden?

I think you need to think round it going forward. But what are you going to do tonight? You cannot leave the poor dog 24 hours! Could you go without a wee for 24 hours? There's your answer.

m00rfarm · 05/08/2019 01:23

You should not have a dog. You could have taken her out before 10pm bearing in mind she has been inside since midday. With your child. That is cruelty and you should not be allowed to keep any dog with this lack of activity and toileting. Your excuse that you cannot do it because your child is asleep is ridiculous. 10 hours of not being allowed outside? I am finding hard to express my anger at your lack of action.

user1473878824 · 05/08/2019 01:26

Let the dog wee on the grass ffs.

Passtherioja · 05/08/2019 01:31

So...we're not really concerned about the ex?

If you're the main carer for the dog then sort out a plan that you can maintain-if you can't maintain it then allow your dog to go to a suitable home where he/she will be happy.

TimeForNewStart · 05/08/2019 01:32

This doesn't seem sustainable as a long term thing anyway, surely?

Wolfiefan · 05/08/2019 01:36

He’s an ex and doesn’t live with you. He needs to take the dog, you need to get grass it can wee on first thing in the morning or last thing at night. Or rehome the poor bloody thing.

Dippypippy1980 · 05/08/2019 01:46

Totally agree with pp. dogs are big commitments - you don’t seem to be fulfilling this poor dogs basic needs.

Do better.

CarolDanvers · 05/08/2019 02:10

"Do better" Hmm

Most annoying and sanctimonious saying in current usage.

Dippypippy1980 · 05/08/2019 02:21

Really? Doesn’t stop it being true.

This thread is about a poor dog, not my writing style.

But hey if picking me apart makes you feel superior, I am glad I could brighten your day😊

omafiet · 05/08/2019 02:23

If it takes two people to ensure that your dog has adequate opportunities to pee/poop, and you're single - you need to think about rehoming your dog. Really - it's not OK.

Parrakeet · 05/08/2019 02:39

Can a dog go without a wee for 24 hours- no it bloody can't! Put it for an adoption!

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Skittlenommer · 05/08/2019 03:01

It’s just a dog, not like it’s a child. Think you need to calm down.

Some people (like me) prefer dogs to children! Hmm

user1480880826 · 05/08/2019 06:28

Your dog hasn’t been let out to wee since midday and you were writing those messages at 1am?!! That’s incredibly cruel. Your poor dog must have been in a lot of discomfort. I can’t believe you wouldn’t just let it out on your yard.

adaline · 05/08/2019 06:48

Why on earth did you not take your dog out between midday and 10pm when your ex was supposed to turn up?

10 hours without the opportunity to sniff or toilet is really unfair on your dog. If it won't go in the garden then you either need to train it to do so or take your child with you to let it out to wee and poo!

You can't just keep a dog cooped up with no chance to toilet Angry

TapasForTwo · 05/08/2019 06:55

Some people shouldn't be dog owners Hmm

envelopeofpubes · 05/08/2019 07:21

Please rehome this dog with someone who can attend to its basic fucking needs.