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Oh angry because i bought DD a slightly bigger babygrow

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stuckinthewrongbody · 04/08/2019 21:48

DD is 1 in a few weeks so today i went out and bought some babygrows as she is growing out of her other ones which are 6-9 and have lasted forever and are a bit tight now. The ones i bought today are 12-18 months.

I went for a nap as ive felt a bit poorly today, he comes charging upstairs with DD look at her its way too big my daughter isnt wearing that it looks stupid she wont fit in this for months. I said you said the same thing when i bought them other ones. Hes pulled them off her and put the other 6-9 months ones on.

Surely its more comfortable for DD to be in something a little baggy than tight!

He gets this thing of his mum where they only by clothes to fit just for now doesnt make any sense to me why am i going to buy 9-12 when she will be out of it soon.

Aibu should i have bought a smaller size? Hes downstairs sulking like a little child now.

OP posts:
rubyroot · 04/08/2019 22:51

He's an absolute idiot! My son has just gone into his 18-24 month old clothes and is 18 months. He still fits into some of his 12-18 months. They'll be big for him for a few months and then they'll fit better. Isn't that the way with baby/toddler clothes

Yogurtcoveredricecake · 04/08/2019 23:05

Over the top reaction from him but I'd have brought 9-12 month ones - too big and they get in the way of crawling/walking. We moved into PJ's at about 10 months, I can't believe I bothered with fiddly poppers for so long!

Tweetingmagpie · 04/08/2019 23:08

What a weirdo.

Bambamber · 04/08/2019 23:13

Well turning 1 soon doesn't mean that your baby will magically outgrow 9-12. My 2 year old is still mostly in 18-24 months trousers and at 12-18 months tops.

But to be honest that's not the point anyway. His reaction was ridiculous.

AngelsOnHigh · 04/08/2019 23:16

You're upstairs having a nap because you're feeling poorly.
DH is downstairs changing and interacting with DD. I'd call that a win, win situation.

A lot of DHs wouldn't even give you the opportunity to have a nap.

My DGS is 6 months old and some of his clothes are starting to look a bit tight. I'm not going to become the MIL from hell (DIL is absolutely beautiful and goes to enormous trouble to treat both families equally) which I really appreciate because I hear so many horror MIL stories.

I did buy a few larger size clothes "to "be worn when he gets bigger"'.

DIL loved them and put them on DGS straight away. Yes, they look a little bit big but so warm and snuggly and cute.

SignedUpJust4This · 04/08/2019 23:21

I find they all shrink first wash anyway.

cheesydoesit · 04/08/2019 23:21

You're upstairs having a nap because you're feeling poorly.
DH is downstairs changing and interacting with DD. I'd call that a win, win situation.

A lot of DHs wouldn't even give you the opportunity to have a nap.

Dearly me. Really?!

OP, the baby grow is a red herring. He sounds horrible and says unnecessarily mean things to you and instead of accepting that you have previous parenting experience or that being at home with both kids is hard, he has belittled you.

HouseworkAvoider10 · 04/08/2019 23:27

He's a knob.

Chakano · 04/08/2019 23:28

Maybe just a couple of 9-12 months would have been a good idea as well as the 12-18 mths.
I'd be more worried about his reaction, charging upstairs and pulling clothes off his child isn't acceptable, but you seem used to it.
Tell him to back the fuck off.

Bringonspring · 04/08/2019 23:31

Honestly I wish I had time for these debates with my husband! If my biggest life issue was the size of my child’s baby grows.

ItsOnAmericasTorturedBrow · 04/08/2019 23:33

"My daughter" eh? Hmm

AbbyNormal · 04/08/2019 23:35

You're upstairs having a nap because you're feeling poorly.
DH is downstairs changing and interacting with DD. I'd call that a win, win situation.

A lot of DHs wouldn't even give you the opportunity to have a nap.

What?? Should OP be grateful to her prick DP because he did some parenting?

OP, does your DP usually fly off the handle over little things? His reaction doesn't sound normal at all. And now he's actually sulking? I think you have much bigger problems than babygrows.

ThanosSavedMe · 04/08/2019 23:45

You have bigger problems than a baggy baby grow op

TheDarkPassenger · 04/08/2019 23:46

He’s a bit of a knob isn’t he?

But then again, I’d be absolutely baffled why you’d buy clothes two sizes bigger. Your dc will be cruising soon and that is so flipping hard when they’ve got big long baggy feet!

Suebnm · 04/08/2019 23:46

Your boyfriend is weird OP.

If you’re a stay at home mum I hope you’ve got some financial protection in place with a weirdo like your boyfriend.

TwistyTop · 04/08/2019 23:48

He woke you up over this? He sounds nuts

timeisnotaline · 04/08/2019 23:50

I buy ahead. I buy whatever the fuck I want and my dh wouldn’t dream of objecting. also, my dh can happily take the kids on his own.
Does your dh add anything to the relationship? So far we have: controlling and undermining your decisions, doesn’t value your parenting role but can’t actually man up to parent himself, and sulks . I can’t decide which of the last two is less attractive, they are all dealbreakers in my book.

TwistyTop · 04/08/2019 23:50

A lot of DHs wouldn't even give you the opportunity to have a nap

Wow, we're setting the bar really low today.

Hey OP, your husband could have hit you when he came upstairs, but he didn't. Isn't that wonderful?

Italiangreyhound · 04/08/2019 23:52

stuckinthewrongbody to be honest he sounds unhinged and quite mean.

" ...he comes charging upstairs"

"Hes pulled them off her..."

"Hes downstairs sulking like a little child now."

He doesn't sound very stable to me.

I hope you and the kids will be OK.

Sad (Don't doubt yourself!)

Bravelurker · 04/08/2019 23:53

He definitely needs his own babygro, bless him.

thatwouldbeanecumenicalmatter · 04/08/2019 23:55

He's had the kids for a few hours on his own and he couldnt cope all i could hear was screaming. But he loves to tell me how easy i have it as a stahm and its a ''piece of piss'' in his words

Yeah this guy is a prick. I'd be looking to be financially independent of him.

You're upstairs having a nap because you're feeling poorly.
DH is downstairs changing and interacting with DD. I'd call that a win, win situation.

A lot of DHs wouldn't even give you the opportunity to have a nap.

Wow, I couldn't imagine having such a low bar for men.

WishingILivedOnAnIsland · 04/08/2019 23:55

This isn't about a baby gro. Your husband is mean, critical and immature.

What an arse.

Dieu · 05/08/2019 00:18

I'd have bought 9 - 12, but no need for his sulks.

Isatis · 05/08/2019 00:27

Sulking over a babygro? Tell him it's a pity they don't make them in his size as he hasn't grown up.

If your baby is nearly 1 then of course it makes sense to buy 12 month clothes. And it's positively irresponsible to put her in a too-small babygro as it will damage her feet.

Celebelly · 05/08/2019 00:29

A lot of DHs wouldn't even give you the opportunity to have a nap.

Christ almighty that's depressing. Who are all these lazy 'D'Hs who can't parent their own children? It's fucking sad that some people expect so little from their children's fathers that them taking their own children for an hour is something to be grateful for.