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Oh angry because i bought DD a slightly bigger babygrow

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stuckinthewrongbody · 04/08/2019 21:48

DD is 1 in a few weeks so today i went out and bought some babygrows as she is growing out of her other ones which are 6-9 and have lasted forever and are a bit tight now. The ones i bought today are 12-18 months.

I went for a nap as ive felt a bit poorly today, he comes charging upstairs with DD look at her its way too big my daughter isnt wearing that it looks stupid she wont fit in this for months. I said you said the same thing when i bought them other ones. Hes pulled them off her and put the other 6-9 months ones on.

Surely its more comfortable for DD to be in something a little baggy than tight!

He gets this thing of his mum where they only by clothes to fit just for now doesnt make any sense to me why am i going to buy 9-12 when she will be out of it soon.

Aibu should i have bought a smaller size? Hes downstairs sulking like a little child now.

OP posts:
BrioLover · 04/08/2019 22:06

"Oh yes. They are a little big. Never mind, if it bothers you then feel free to get the smaller size and I'll stash those."

Knobber. But easily sorted by shifting the responsibility of 'fixing' it onto him.

WhoKnewBeefStew · 04/08/2019 22:07

He sounds like a complete prick!

I used to cut the feet out of my dd's babygrows to get a few more weeks out of them Grin

Millymollymandybestie · 04/08/2019 22:08

He’s being over the top. I started to buy pj at 12-18 months as the feet were just to long and caused problems with walking- plus in the night dcs were determined to get there feet out of the baby grows anyway and this is much easier when they are big.

On a side I did find there to be a big leap in size for 9-12 to 12-18 so the size difference may have taken him by surprise

TanMateix · 04/08/2019 22:09

So why did you decide to jump from 6-9 to 12-18? What’s wrong with 9-12?

He may remind you of his mother but you are reminding me of mine... she always had me in oversized uniforms my older —and chubbier sister— had over grown. I wish she had not been that tight, I spent my teen years wearing pinafores/skirts/jumpers that made me look like a sack of potatoes.

Wildorchidz · 04/08/2019 22:12

He's had the kids for a few hours on his own and he couldnt cope all i could hear was screaming. But he loves to tell me how easy i have it as a stahm and its a ''piece of piss'' in his words.

He sounds lovely. Not.
Is he ok to your son?
Do you have equal access to money?

concernedforthefuture · 04/08/2019 22:14

He's got a point. If she's just outgrowing 6-9, then 9-12 would be the logical next size up. Too big, baggy babygros aren't great - they get their feet caught up when they start walking (or even just when crawling). It's more of an issue than other clothes with legs that can be rolled up etc.

That said, there was no need for him to be so rude to you.

Crunchymum · 04/08/2019 22:15

As suspected this really isn't about the clothes is it?

Original poster
stuckinthewrongbody · 04/08/2019 22:16

@TanMateix my mother was the same but she bought stuff really big! I dont always buy baggy things it just didnt make sense to buy 9-12 pyjamas when she is 1 in three weeks.

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TheMonaOgg · 04/08/2019 22:18

I think you could have gone to 9-12 months but it's not an issue for him to act like an arse about. If he doesn't like it then he can go and buy some himself, it's not just up to you.

If my DS's wore sleep suits that were too big I put these over the feet - https://www.jojomamanbebe.co.uk/2pack-sock-ons-b7213.html?gclid=EAIaIQobChMI-8PC5Dq4wIVArTtCh1WxgvvEAQYAiABEgJpMDDBwE

I'm also an eBay clothing bundle nut. Baby clothes don't get worn and you can get everything you need for a particular size range for not a lot of money.

Teacakeandalatte · 04/08/2019 22:19

If he had said they look a bit big and maybe she should have the 9_12m rather than throwing a big strop about it and shouting at you I would have some sympathy with his point, but its his ott behaviour that is more important. Don't let him treat you badly and be controlling over little things whether he is correct or not he can still treat you nicely.

chocpop · 04/08/2019 22:20

He's being silly. I always find they shrink in the wash a bit after a few washes, too! Maybe get a cheap set of 9-12 just to tide her over if they're v loose on but otherwise, he's just being a bit of a knob.

His attitude towards you as a SAHM on the other hand is worrying and I'd be thinking about whether he respects you and the future. You don't deserve to be treated like a second class citizen.

justasking111 · 04/08/2019 22:23

The things always shrink in the wash anyway.

WhyBirdStop · 04/08/2019 22:23

Pyjamas baggy are fine. I never go by ages on clothes though. DS is 75th centile for height and 50th for weight, he's 8 months and still comfortably in 3-6 , some 6-9 are ok just a little on the loose side. DH put a vest on him the other day instead of PJs when it was warm and it looked a little bit snug and I thought I'll need to get some bigger, but when I took it off in the morning it was a rogue 0-3! Other people tend to buy up a size which means I've got a basket full of clothes washed and ready to wear when he fits into them, the only issue is the really seasonal stuff. Eg 3-6 jumpers fit him now but it's not woolies weather. I wouldn't dress him to go out in clothes that were too big, you don't get more wear out of them because by the time they fit, they've got stains or aren't looking their best from being washed and worn.

LagunaBubbles · 04/08/2019 22:25

He's had the kids for a few hours on his own and he couldnt cope all i could hear was screaming. But he loves to tell me how easy i have it as a stahm and its a ''piece of piss'' in his words

Well your problems are more than the size of sleepsuits then, it's having children with a dick head.

ReanimatedSGB · 04/08/2019 22:25

Are you sure you want to carry on sharing your home with this prick? It's not going to be the first time he's treated you like a naughty dog that needs the equivalent of a smack on the nose with a newspaper, is it?

StripeySocks29 · 04/08/2019 22:27

He sounds a bit unhinged, my DH would have just popped out and bought the 9-12 if that’s what he thought she needed.

Pannalash · 04/08/2019 22:27

What a knobber, complete and unpleasant overreaction.

SmartPlay · 04/08/2019 22:27

Seems like you have 2 children at home. One apparently a toddler in his terrible 2s.

I always skip sizes when buying clothes for my kids - I buy them 2-3 sizes bigger than what they actually need, because I think it's a complete waste of money and resource to buy the size that fits exactly. I simple roll up sleeves and legs (if they don't have an elastic band at the bottom). If something has feet and is too big, just put socks on to keep them in place.

Daisychainsgetbroken · 04/08/2019 22:31

Knob

NanooCov · 04/08/2019 22:31

It wouldn't bother me for babygros that they're only going to be sleeping in (and are likely to shrink on first wash anyway) but I tend to find that my kids are never within the age brackets on clothes. My 4.5 year old is still in age 3-4 tops and some of his trousers and shorts are age 2-3 as he's got such a skinny waist. Babygros were always much too long in the "correct" age bracket for both my two as they're both short arses. So I tend to buy what will fit them rather than going by the age label.

But a huge overreaction from your partner. He sounds like a wee bit of a twatbag.

MyDcAreMarvel · 04/08/2019 22:33

You should have bought 9-12 they won’t magically be too small as soon as she turns 1!
The 12-18 will be ridiculously big on her.

Youwantshoesinashoeshop · 04/08/2019 22:34

This inadequate man is takingnout his frustration at not heing able to parent for 2 hours, on you. If it wasn't the clothes it'd be some other complete triviality. And I'm sure it has been in the past. Any grown up who sulks needs disposing of very quickly.

Sewrainbow · 04/08/2019 22:35

Confused how bizarre! Him not you...

DowntonCrabby · 04/08/2019 22:37

I loved the DC in slightly too big babygrows, it made them look all wee and cute again!

Is it a pride thing if you say it’s also something his Mum is funny about? As in, would he worry that others may judge?

Most people would see your way as practical and save a 9-12 batch becoming too small in the next few weeks, I know I would. DS wore an age 6 jacket for 3 winters aged 4/5/6, slightly too big, then perfect, then a bit snug but still fine!

MrsP2015 · 04/08/2019 22:45

Tbf dd was in 9-12 months baby grows til she was about 15 months.
He's ott though, no need for that.

I suggest cut the feet off the 6-9 as this warm weather won't hurt her bare feet/ or put socks on. Then she can do a bit more growing if the issue is her safety in the bigger size.

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