Hobbies on holiday

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Violashift · 04/08/2019 10:01

How do you feel if your partner takes part in his hobby if you were on a weeks family holiday?

This morning on FB , I saw that my friend has cycled for three hours this morning while in Kos. I wondered what his wife and kids were doing. Maybe it didn't bother her or was a one off.

My best friend goes jogging for hours on holiday wherever she is ;leaving her husband with the two kids most days. She said he moans that she can't just relax for a week.

I think if it was my partner I would be annoyed that they couldn't just relax with us for the week but then I think it's their holiday too.

We had a city break this week.I went to get my haircut so my partner went to a gaming cafe for an hour. I guess it's the same thing.

Maybe it's how often they go in that week.

I know its each to their own and it's not important in the grand scheme of things. It more me wondering if it bothers anyone as it would me if my partner disappeared for a couple of hours a day on a family holiday.

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dollydaydream114 · 06/08/2019 00:04

This wouldn't bother me at all. My partner and I can be apart for a couple of hours without the world collapsing.

My partner has a hobby which he might go and do for, say, three hours one evening/afternoon when we go on holiday. It's nice for him and I enjoy a bit of time of my own while he's off doing it. Either I spend that time doing some other activity he's not really into, like going for a swim, perhaps, or I just enjoy the opportunity to relax with a book and a glass of wine or something. Or, if he's going somewhere that's also an interesting place to wander around, maybe I'll go with him and then he'll go off and do his hobby while I do some solo sightseeing. I really enjoy it, personally.

If he wanted to, say, go for a run or go for a bike ride for an hour or so each morning, it wouldn't bother me at all.

NoSauce · 06/08/2019 00:36

As long as both partners get the same amount of time “off” the I think it could be ok, I don’t agree with one going off all day while the other is struggling with small dc though.

CrispbuttyNo1 · 06/08/2019 00:44

Wouldn't bother me at all. Last time we went away DP went on an all day sea fishing excursion, I spent the day mooching happily around shops which he would have hated, then I had a lovely late lunch with a couple of glasses of wine then wandered back to our villa. We both value a bit of time to do our own thing.

SimonJT · 06/08/2019 00:45

I’m on holiday with my son and cousin, I chose this hotel as it has a really good gym, so I can go ther once a day while my cousin babysits. She is a keen swimmer so she’ll do her usual 45 minute swim everyday as well.

NewPapaGuinea · 06/08/2019 08:16

Quality over quantity. I know if I was expected to “relax with the family” the whole time I’d spend most of it full of resentment. You need to strike a balance. 2-3 hours isn’t that much out of a day.

JaceLancs · 06/08/2019 09:01

It’s not just about hobbies though for me
DP and I have different interests and totally incompatible body clocks but we still compromise
I’m up v early off out shopping, sightseeing, sunbathing hanging around drinking coffee with a book, he surfaces after lunch where we might do something together or look for great places for one of his hobbies (photography)
Usually eat together in evening few drinks then I’m off to bed and he indulges in a bit of astronomy
Other days we will plan to go somewhere together usually 1/2 of the holiday spent together
I also go away with adult DC and again we compromise and usually meet up late afternoon for pre meal cocktails and all do our own thing during day
I like to exercise a bit but mainly long walks and swim for a couple of hours a day

Apolloanddaphne · 06/08/2019 09:09

My DH likes to go for a run or go to the gym if there is one when on holiday. I have no problem with it at all and I enjoy some time to myself to read or snooze while he is away. Too much togetherness is not always a good thing when you are not used to being together all the time.

Apolloanddaphne · 06/08/2019 09:24

whothedaddy · 06/08/2019 11:34

No matter how long or short a holiday we always make sure we each get some alone time to do what we want. whether it be a run, a massage, a swim, or go to a cafe bar by ourself.

Got back from Paris yesterday and we both made sure we got a run on our own in a park a couple of times over the weekend.

whothedaddy · 06/08/2019 11:36

NewPapaGuinea Tue 06-Aug-19 08:16:42
Quality over quantity. I know if I was expected to “relax with the family” the whole time I’d spend most of it full of resentment. You need to strike a balance. 2-3 hours isn’t that much out of a day.

Exactly this. A holiday is yours to enjoy , your way. forced fun is not fun. Even our DD gets down time to do her own thing

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