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Hobbies on holiday

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Violashift · 04/08/2019 10:01

How do you feel if your partner takes part in his hobby if you were on a weeks family holiday?

This morning on FB , I saw that my friend has cycled for three hours this morning while in Kos. I wondered what his wife and kids were doing. Maybe it didn't bother her or was a one off.

My best friend goes jogging for hours on holiday wherever she is ;leaving her husband with the two kids most days. She said he moans that she can't just relax for a week.

I think if it was my partner I would be annoyed that they couldn't just relax with us for the week but then I think it's their holiday too.

We had a city break this week.I went to get my haircut so my partner went to a gaming cafe for an hour. I guess it's the same thing.

Maybe it's how often they go in that week.

I know its each to their own and it's not important in the grand scheme of things. It more me wondering if it bothers anyone as it would me if my partner disappeared for a couple of hours a day on a family holiday.

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Moomin12345 · 04/08/2019 17:32

Maybe grow a hobby of your own and it'll suddenly start making sense?

SpeedyShutter · 04/08/2019 17:35

I think it depends on what the hobby is and how much of the holiday it takes up.

Dh doesn't really have anything in the way of hobbies but I do; when we go on daytrips and holidays etc I take my camera with me and spend some time taking photos of the dc and of the scenery. Sometimes we go somewhere specifically for a shot I have in mind. I don't take up the whole holiday though and don't complain when we do something for him or one/both of the dc.

ThroughThickAndThin01 · 04/08/2019 17:35

If you are a runner at home, you wouldn’t want to put it on hold for a week or two.

If dh doesn’t do some exercise running/cycling 6 days out of 7 he’s very restless and unsettled. Much better for everyone that he does it.

PooWillyBumBum · 04/08/2019 17:39

It wouldn't bother me. Luckily DH and I both love to cycle and run. I won't go a whole holiday without doing one or the other and I certainly don't want to come back from hols a few pounds heavier. It's also a fab way to see lots of the local area. DH and I take turns to 'lead' the run and get lost in little side streets or find hamlets along a coast. Then finish up with a black coffee somewhere shady. Lush.

He cycles more than me at home. He'll leave on a Sunday around 7 or 8 and be back by 10 or 11. Quite often I'm still in my jimjams reading, or I've popped to the gym myself. It'd be the same on hols and wouldn't bother me one bit.

AngelasAshes · 04/08/2019 17:42

NAh doesn’t bother us either. We include hobbies as part of the holiday.
We all have different hobbies so we’ll either take turns choosing where to go or what to do, or split up do our own thing and then meet up.
We always do new stuff together as well.

thecatsthecats · 04/08/2019 18:06

A twenty minute run or gym sesh each day before I have a shower means I come back from holiday the same weight as when I left - YABU!

Unless you're identical in every way possible, how on earth do you have a holiday where you AREN'T doing things that different people enjoy more or less at some point?

Blatherskite · 04/08/2019 18:12

Ha! I've just been pouring over google maps working out a running route so that I can carry on half marathon training while we're away! Grin

There will be plenty of lazing around and eating together. I'd rather not come back half a stone heavier.

RitmoRatmo · 04/08/2019 18:15

I actively insist that both my partner and I get chance to have runs, bike-rides and sea-swims whilst on holiday. Isn’t that actually what holidays are about? Enjoying oneself and doing all the things that life is usually too busy for? I’d kill everyone in sight if I had to be cooped up together by some dull pool all day long having enforced “holiday fun”.
Shudder.

Salene · 04/08/2019 18:26

We went on holiday recently , I either went running at 7/8 am when husband and kids still in bed or after dinner in evening when kids going to bed. In a ten day holiday I ran about 6 times, my husband was find about it as I made sure it didn't interfere with any of our plans.

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Violashift · 04/08/2019 18:33

Maybe grow a hobby of your own and it'll suddenly start making sense?

I do have hobbies of my own. Not for holidays though.

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Violashift · 04/08/2019 18:37

I’d kill everyone in sight if I had to be cooped up together by some dull pool all day long having enforced “holiday fun”.
Shudder.

I could not do that all day either. I think that's why I like city breaks.

I like to do escape rooms on holiday too but we all love them so we all do it.

Mu best friends husband says her running 2 hours a day is too much but that's up to them.

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amusedbush · 04/08/2019 18:39

We’re going away in October, our first beach holiday together as we always do city breaks where we walk for miles and miles every day. I will be making use of the resort’s running track and gym to make sure I don’t come back looking and feeling like a slug. If you exercise first thing in the morning then it’s out of the way and doesn’t impact on the holiday.

SDTGisAnEvilWolefGenius · 04/08/2019 18:42

Dh and I do some things together and some separately, because there are some things we like doing together - visiting National Trust properties/castles/gardens/eating out, and some things he likes and I don’t, or vice versa. Plus he can do longer walks than me, and likes industrial archeology so sometimes he goes off to find old viaducts or mines while I enjoy sitting with my book or knitting, with coffee and a cake.

HerRoyalNotness · 04/08/2019 18:48

I’d be grateful to have a hobby I could do on vacation, especially when we do beach breaks. The last one we were all bored st the end of the week despite being in a nice resort

My dS is a fitness type and does iron woman and triathlons. On holiday she hikes, mountain bikes and runs, I assume to keep her fitness levels up, and because she loves it. Her H goes along too even though he’s more a bbq and beers guy

Caterina99 · 04/08/2019 20:15

I’d only be bothered if DH was leaving me alone for hours and hours to look after our kids (4 and 2 so a lot of supervision required). If I was by myself I wouldn’t really mind at all.

Usually we break it up so we’ll both take an hour or 2 each day to do what we want. Whether that’s going for a cycle or reading a book in peace. Yes it’s a family holiday, but we both need some down time

yikesanddang · 05/08/2019 06:13

Depends on how much of the holiday was spent doing the hobby. 4-5 hours a day leaving you to sole parent the dc would be off as their hobby would be creating an unfair workload on you. A couple of hours couple of times a week allowing you to do the same would be fine. Or a daily jog early before it affects anyone else would be fine Or a day in the week where they go off fishing or similar would be fine.

speakout · 05/08/2019 06:21

Fine with me- as long as it's not all day every day.

I was in Kos a few weeks ago and every morning did a sunrise yoga session on the terrace, Yes it was at 6am, and did not impact others.
I have been to hotels that do daily yoga or aquarobics, its part of te holiday.
Days are long and doing things alone are part of the holiday.

user1480880826 · 05/08/2019 06:32

It depends if you’re hobby means that your partner is left looking after the kids or not. Going running/cycling/birdwatching for hours would really piss me off if it meant I was effectively a single parent for half of the holiday. Holidays are not relaxing with young kids so at least you should be sharing the load.

hopeishere · 05/08/2019 07:22

Getting your haircut on holiday seems pretty weird to me!!

A friends holidays are special ones related to her hobby ie doing it every day in a group with other hobbyists. Her partner went once and refused to go again.

My hobby is reading so I generally get it done on holiday!!

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Violashift · 05/08/2019 10:07

Getting your haircut on holiday seems pretty weird to me!

It was for a problem and nit the norm. It was a 5 day city break too.

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Violashift · 05/08/2019 10:08

Getting your haircut on holiday seems pretty weird to me!

It was for a problem and nit the norm. It was a 5 day city break too.

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Haphazardhacker · 05/08/2019 22:45

Nothing wrong with him running while on holiday, we don’t have holidays unless the horse comes with so I can’t offer a balanced opinion hehe

Thebookswereherfriends · 05/08/2019 22:50

My partner cycles and when we go on holiday he either gets up early and goes for 2or 3 hours, back by 11am or he’ll go out in the late afternoon for 2 hours, back by 5.30. We usually get one full day to ourselves, so he’ll bike for 6 hours and I’m with our daughter and then I’ll have a day out to visit something that maybe our dd wouldn’t really enjoy.

Summergarden · 05/08/2019 23:36

A relative has always been mega into running marathons, triathlons, Ironmans etc. He and his partner had a baby this year and a few months later they went on “holiday” for him to do an Ironman event abroad. It sounded like hIs DP was left alone a lot to care for their young baby.

They’ve openly said they plan to TTC at the end of this year yet he has already booked several more Ironman and other sporting events (holidays if you can call them that) for next year. I feel sorry for his DP if she ends up solo parenting for much of these holidays especially if she’s pregnant again.

Marvinmarvinson · 05/08/2019 23:41

Me and dh continue with our running on holiday. What better time to do it? Usually we're squeezing it in in between work and housework and trying to get some quality time together and with the kids. On holiday we have time to kill. We can easily take an hour or so out for a run and still have loads of time left for each other.

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