To ask what "little" habits/ things your dp does around the house that drive you barmy? *lighthearted*

[Witsendagain]

Mine are:

1. He always puts the sofa cushions back in the wrong places no matter how many times I tell him!
2. If the dishwasher cycle is finished he will take out the one item he needs and leave all the other clean dishes in there.
3. He leaves the dirty dishes on the counter even when the dishwasher is empty!
4. He leaves little piles of papers everywhere to "remind himself" to deal with them, (dining table, coffee table, TV unit, kitchen counters) but never moves them!
5. He waits for the laundry basket to be empty then puts 1 small item in it which then sits there taunting me!

I mean obviously he's a heathen and I should LTB!

So what does your dp do that just narks?

Keeps on stuffing things into the kitchen bin until it is practically overflowing, rather than just emptying the bloody thing. Then, when I tell him to empty the kitchen bin, he never uses his common sense to think that it might be a sensible idea to also empty the bathroom bins at the same time. I have to tell him to do that as well and feel like I’m micro managing him. But I refuse to do all the chores, he has to do half. Even if the way he does things makes me want to tear my hair out!

It's very minor, but he has an annoying habit of leaving drawers & cupboards slightly open, and forgetting to put things away. Apart from that he's great & I wouldn't change him for the world. I'm sure I do things that annoy him, too.

Oh god no! That would be using his initiative and they seem incapable of that! 😂

Mines another useless dishwasher user, but the one thing that drives me barmy (love that term BTW OP) is that he never replaces the binbag when he empties the bin, it's not hard, the bags are in the cupboard right next to the bin!!!

Oh and he wipes down the kitchen sides but ‘forgets’ to do the hob every single time! I reckon it’s cos it’s a gas hob and fiddly to clean, he can’t be bothered to do it.

AND he just chucks the kids toys into random boxes when he tidies up, despite them all being clearly labelled. Even the kids can manage to follow the system, so Christ knows why he finds it so challenging.

@DramaAlpaca my dp every so often decides to randomly move things. I'll put them back where they belong, he'll move them again. I'll ask him why in gods name does he think that (for example) cup lives in the plate cupboard rather than with the rest of the cups and he'll claim its always lived there! But he does at least close draws properly!

@Bob urrghhh yep my dp does that too, but he puts the bin sans bag back in the cupboard so when I next scrape the plates without checking first....

When he uses the microwave he takes the food out just before the timer is finished and leaves the dial slightly turned and the door open.

@CarrieBlu does he at least check the obvious (and easily visable) toy places like under the high sofa for errant toys when he's tidying?

@3boys nooooooooo!

Bloody do everything all the time! I know it's an unfair thing to find annoying but I don't understand why he can't just LEAVE IT sometimes - like if it's 10pm and we're having a nice evening and the dishwasher cycle finishes he has to leap up and empty it right away, so I feel like j have to get up abd help, when I'd quite happily do the whole bloody thing in the morning when I'm not relaxing, the crocks aren't all boilibhthot and steaming wet, and we actually need a bowl or whatever. This is one thing but it is whole life - me re stops sodding "improving" things or being "efficient" and it does my nut in!! Relaaaaax!!!

That and leaves his chair out at the dinner table instead of pushing it back in, makes my eye twitch (I am a creature of contrasts).

@weaningwoes I'm afraid I'm your dp, I can't go to bed knowing there are jobs to be done!
Mind the chair thing would make me twitch too! 😂

Don’t be silly @Witsendagain, that would be far too much effort!

I sound like all he does is piss me off, but in a lot of ways he’s great and he’s an absolute star at washing/hanging out laundry for some reason.

But he’s so half arsed about a lot of other stuff and it makes me twitch. But those things don’t bother him at all so he doesn’t get why it would bother anyone else!

Dh does jobs and then tells me

I’ve emptied your dishwasher
I’ve hung out your towels
I’ve cleaned out your fridge

He’s done loads in the house today and is itching for praise but I’m saying nothing

Not cleaning his toothbrush. Leaving papers, junk mail and empty envelopes out. Hair in sink after trimming beard always denied so I sometimes take pictures to prove it. Doesn't put things back correctly. Leaves washing up until morning. Doesn't ever put the odd stray sauce or salt and pepper away after tea. Leaves his dirty socks in the living room. Cuts nails in living room and never vacuums them up properly. Makes a right fucking mess cooking... Yes I know it's good he cooks but it drives me mad,

Mine never closes the screw lids on bottles. He just puts it on and screws 2 millimeters.
And I annoy myself by forgetting it when I pick the bottle up.
Surprised we have no dump problem with the amount of spilled liquids here🙄

1. Fills up the dishwasher but doesn't turn it on.
2. Puts empty things back in the fridge.
3. Takes a decade to do anything because he's a perfectionist.
4. Loses his keys / wallet / phone every day. They're always in a pocket.
5. Takes a decade to leave the house because he will fanny around so much.
6. Agonise over any minor decision like its life or death.
7. Order thousands of things online and return 99.9% of them.

Leaves drawers and cabinet doors open. (Apparently he just doesn't notice. It's bizarre... How can you not notice something like that?)

Leaves lights on in rooms when he leaves them. (He claims it's because he's intending to go back into the room shortly, but often he gets distracted and forgets to go back. His hobby requires a lot of light, so he can easily leave four or five lamps on for hours, if I don't happen to notice!)

Makes a mess when he cooks. (If I mention it, he'll say that he'll clean it up, but he hardly ever does. I don't have the heart to insist, since with our division of labour, it's my job to keep the house clean, but he is a much messier cook than I usually am.)

But he puts up with an assortment of my own irritating traits, so I try not to complain too often...

Another one that leaves EVERYTHING open, drawers, cupboards, the dishwasher, washing machine, microwave...apparently everything bar the fridge. I’ve mostly learnt to ignore it except when he leaves the high up kitchen cupboards open because I’ve nearly lost an eye more than once, lost my shit then 😂🤦🏻‍♀️

My DP will decide when we're right up against it (having people over etc) to pick the most ridiculously stupid thing to focus on. I.e instead of cleaning the bathroom he'll suddenly decide to tidy the crap drawer or fix something that's barely even broken! Grrrrrrr!

I remembered something else. He'll shout from somewhere else in the house "where's my ....enter random thing here..."

I've realised if I don't reply straight away, it's rapidly followed by "oh here it is". Bloody look properly first before asking me!

1. He wears headphones while playing xbox sometimes and he can't bloody hear me talking to him and yelling at him. I have to tap him to get his attention

1. Doesn't bother recycling. He knows I take recycling seriously and yet i find plastic and cardboard in the bin frequently

1. He walks at a super fast pace and I'm sure half the town think we dont particularly get on very well as he's always walks miles in front of me.

1. He's a fussy eater. Cooking for him is a nightmare

1. And the worst one?!!? He can eat all kids of junk food and he never gains any weight! WTF! That winds me up the most 😂😂

Shoes wherever he takes them off, usually right in the middle of the floor/ landing/ bedroom. Drives me bloody bat shit!

Oh and clearing away after dinner but always leaving at least 2 things out (think salt shaker and a glass). Never back to what it looked like before.

My DP will decide when we're right up against it (having people over etc) to pick the most ridiculously stupid thing to focus on. I.e instead of cleaning the bathroom he'll suddenly decide to tidy the crap drawer or fix something that's barely even broken! Grrrrrrr!

Mine does this too. I remember asking him to set the table as I was serving up dinner. A few minutes later I carry plates through and the table isn't set and he has all the chairs upside down on it and he's tightening the bolts because they felt a bit wobbly. WTF?!