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AIBU?

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AIBU TO BE ANNOYED WITH FRIEND

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beingmum39 · 03/08/2019 12:18

Ok, first time posting one of these but I am annoyed and need to vent

I have a close friend and we share a mutual friend although I am not as close to mutual friend as they are. The mutual friend has made several attempts to come round but doesn't give me notice and I have a little one which makes it awkward for surprise visits on the day. Whilst I have seen them on one or two occasions life has since meant that on each occasion they want to come I have been busy and said no...

So close friend messages me last week asking if she can pop over to see me on Saturday week, I replied that was fine as free .. she then responded by saying excellent.. WE will be over about 11:30 referring to her and said mutual friend.

I am annoyed coz she made out visit would be just her and now I have other one tagging along... AIBU to be annoyed

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Orangecake123 · 03/08/2019 17:09

You're not being unreasonable.

I would hate this too.

Maybe cancel now and say you would like to see her alone.

MaeveDidIt · 03/08/2019 17:18

I'm surprised you've got any friends with your attitude.

Mutual friend has made several attempts to come and see you - you sound like seriously hard work - I would tell you to foxtrot oscar.

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beingmum39 · 03/08/2019 17:21

I don't want people to think I am being selfish regarding the mutual friend, but some friends are better at making you better about yourself, conversation flows more freely and you tell some more than others.. I haven't had a lot of adult company since the little one has arrived, I don't have any problems to discuss with them I was just looking forward to seeing my best friend and just my best friend.,..the one who reminds me who I am and makes me laugh as we reflect

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beingmum39 · 03/08/2019 17:22

MaeveDidIt

Likewise

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ShellieEllie · 03/08/2019 19:16

Two's company, three's a crowd???

Orangecake123 · 03/08/2019 19:46

I don't think you need to explain OP. I knew someone I wasn't friends with but who was with my best friends. We just didn't get on and it does change the dynamic.

redcarbluecar · 03/08/2019 20:01

Can’t you just tell close friend that you only want one visitor? I’d be ok with that if I was your friend. If you have a little kid perhaps that could be part of the reason.

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beingmum39 · 03/08/2019 20:06

Orangecake123

Thank you

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beingmum39 · 03/08/2019 20:08

redcarbluecar

Yes I probably could. .. I am just feeling overwhelmed I guess and whilst things don't usually bother me this did ...

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