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Queue jumper or not?

57 replies

KfordMum1977 · 02/08/2019 22:49

Recently on holiday on a Caravan site:
This particular shower block has 5 showers. Decent sized, with benches. Not a tiny cubicle, can easily fit 3 people. But still, just 5 showers.

Nan, mum, child are next up... All wearing swimming costumes (so not going in naked) mum and child go in, nan waits for the next shower. Mum sends the kid out of the shower to go for a wee (round the other side of the showers)

Meanwhile, a shower becomes available. At this point there are probably 4/5 people waiting. The next woman in the queue and her child go in.

The nan then complains to the mum that her place in the queue has gone, she is going back to the van etc and the mum has a go at the woman (through the stalls) for jumping the queue.

Who is BU?

Should she have waited and let the nan back? Bear in mind it was tea time and there is a queue of people waiting

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Antigonads · 02/08/2019 23:16

Exactly. Wee in the shower.

WorraLiberty · 02/08/2019 23:17

Maryann the OP hasn't said she expected them to all go in the same cubicle.

NoSauce · 02/08/2019 23:17

Nan should have piped up and said she’d back in a jiffy and that she was just taking GD to the loo!

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KfordMum1977 · 02/08/2019 23:17

I was just waiting in the queue. Just saw the nan walk off with the kid and then heard the kerfuffle when she came back.
To clarify, it was the kids mum who was in the shower cubicle still that mouthed off at the other mum. The nan told her that she had lost her space and the mum had a go through the cubicle.

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TheHandsOfNeilBuchanan · 02/08/2019 23:17

@Floralnomad you'll get flamed, but showering in your swimsuit with your gran is not a holiday to me either!

BottomliePotts · 02/08/2019 23:18

Why could the girl not just pee in the shower?... just me then Blush

Stompythedinosaur · 02/08/2019 23:19

If you aren't in the queue then you aren't in the queue!

Samcro · 02/08/2019 23:20

gosh you could be waiting all day. nan was bu

GibbonLover · 02/08/2019 23:22

If you're in the supermarket queue and you suddenly realise you've forgotten to get milk, you don't ask the person behind you to save your space do you. This is no different.

TriciaH87 · 02/08/2019 23:22

So in my work that's the equivalent to leaving your trolley at the end of the till and then going off to find more. Don't blame the next person for jumping in as why should they wait you chose to walk away. They didn't know if she would be a minute or 20.

SchadenfreudePersonified · 02/08/2019 23:27

Why could the girl not just pee in the shower?

Maybe she needed a poo?

Riverside85 · 02/08/2019 23:28

@TheHandsOfNeilBuchanan As if showering in your swimming costume with your Nan wasn’t bad enough, now people are suggesting weeing in the communal showers! Grim.

KurriKurri · 02/08/2019 23:30

Why didn't the Nan just get into the shower with the Mum when she returned with the child? The showers were big, they all had clothes on. Better than stropping off - and no other woman wasn't a queue jumper - what's she going to do stand and look at an empty shower in case a Nan turns up ?

Did Nan expect her essence to keep her place in the queue?

I see a gap in the market for a new perfume called Essence of Nan Grin

LifeImplosionImminent · 02/08/2019 23:30

Why does this feel like a GCSE Maths quesion???

GibbonLover · 02/08/2019 23:31

I see a gap in the market for a new perfume called Essence of Nan

A sultry blend of lavender and piss

MamaOomMowWow · 02/08/2019 23:31

I don't know how to vote. I think the nan was being very unreasonable. Is that YABU or YANBU? You, as a random queuer, were not being unreasonable.

This reminds me of one time when I was in a supermarket. A man was being served by the cashier so I queued up behind him. After 30 seconds a woman comes up and says that she had been queuing but had left the queue as she had wanted to get another item. She thought I should let her in front of me even though she wasn't there when I started queuing Confused She got quite aggressive but I didn't give in.

Malvinaa81 · 02/08/2019 23:33

On holiday in a caravan park.....

Well expect the unexpected.

cdtaylornats · 02/08/2019 23:34

Scarce resource so you shouldn't leave it empty.

BizzzzyBee · 02/08/2019 23:37

If you leave the queue you lose your space.

AcrossthePond55 · 02/08/2019 23:41

We've had this in line at Disneyland. Parent takes child for wee, asks people behind to save place, but aren't back when the people holding place are ready to board. Should they really stop the line until the people get back? Nope.

It's fine to ask someone to hold your place, but not fine to expect the line to stop until you return.

WeBuiltThisBuffetOnSausageRoll · 03/08/2019 01:42

Maybe she needed a poo?

Waffle Stomp Grin Grin Grin Grin Grin

FiddlesticksAkimbo · 03/08/2019 02:12

YABU for asking an incomprehensible question.

skybluee · 03/08/2019 02:36

If the cubicle was empty the people in the queue were right to go into it, there's no point leaving one empty.

  • She didn't jump the queue
  • Pissing in the shower is disgusting, show some respect to the other people there
  • I don't see anything wrong or weird about showering with family in cossies.
Monty27 · 03/08/2019 04:25

So nan was in the queue for her shower. Fair enough. Two different showers. Some people like to shower privately

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KfordMum1977 · 03/08/2019 10:55

Reading further through the thread you can see that I did apologise and I did give further details....

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