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Original poster

DHs comments about me not eating meat

40 replies

Pooshy · 02/08/2019 18:54

I've recently decided to cut out meat - I've never really liked it

I've not wanted to tell people if we're going to a bbq or whatever as I know there will be plenty of non meat options and I really don't need something special cooked for me, and I don't want to be inconvenient

Tonight we were ordering a take away, and I ordered what I would usually order, plus DHs meat based main

He said "he knew it would be annoying that I'm now vegetarian" and went on to say it was inconvenient

This pissed me off! Aibu?

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Shoxfordian · 02/08/2019 18:55

Yanbu
Would you normally have shared more meaty starter type food though?

ElizaPancakes · 02/08/2019 18:57

It would piss me off too. But I do think the best response in this instance is an eye roll and a ‘whatever’.

covetingthepreciousthings · 02/08/2019 19:00

This would piss me off too. I'm a vegetarian & have a meat eating DH, never been an issue.

I don't understand how it's inconvenient for him?

wildcherries · 02/08/2019 19:01

How is it annoying if you ordered what you usually have anyway, and he gets the meat he wants? I don't understand that. Is he just irritating as a rule?

YANBU.

Original poster
Pooshy · 02/08/2019 19:01

We got to three starters - one of which is prawn. Normally we'd get one meat one

It's not a big deal but feels unsupportive

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Original poster
Pooshy · 02/08/2019 19:02

Ha cherries, he is quite an irritable person Shock

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Ellie56 · 02/08/2019 19:04

He sounds a right tit OP. Enjoy your prawns.

cuppycakey · 02/08/2019 19:18

What's it got to do with him what you eat? How is it inconvenient? I don't get it Confused

Did you ask him why it was annoying or how it inconvenienced him?

Winterlife · 02/08/2019 19:20

I don't get it. How is he inconvenienced? Because you ordered an extra dish? If it all is eaten, what's the issue?

Original poster
Pooshy · 02/08/2019 19:21

He's basically saying that me not eating meat is annoying for him, he's not said
Anything supportive about it since I stopped, only a few slightly negative comments

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Sexnotgender · 02/08/2019 19:24

Why is it possibly inconvenient for himConfused

He still gets his dinner the same as always.

littlepaddypaws · 02/08/2019 19:24

are you going veggie though not eating meat and fish or pescatrian, eats fish but not meat ?

aquarianaura · 02/08/2019 19:25

What an arse. YANBU at all!

I went veggie end of December and my massively meat loving DP has supported me all the way, and he does all the cooking! He's even realised how good a lot of veggie stuff is and he isn't inconvenienced in the slightest. Bit awkward when we both want sausage casserole though and he wants real and I want veggie sausages! Aside from that, it doesn't make a difference. Tell him to wind his neck in and remind him that what you eat, especially when it's a takeaway for Christ's sake, has absolutely no effect on his life.

littlepaddypaws · 02/08/2019 19:26

he sounds a bit of a knob tbh, eat what you want, he's probably thinking you'll try to convert him but how does it affect him ? Confused

ysmaem · 02/08/2019 19:27

He's still getting his main meal that contains meat so what's his problem? He sounds like a but of a twat OP

Haworthia · 02/08/2019 19:27

What a twat. You not eating meat has no impact upon him whatsoever.

Unless he twists things and claims he feels you secretly disapprove of him eating meat... 🙄

cuppycakey · 02/08/2019 19:28

It what way is it annoying for him? Confused

How does it affect him?

I am still not understanding this one bit!!

JenniR29 · 02/08/2019 19:28

I am a vegetarian, my husband is not, we make it work.

I’ll usually bring a pack of veggie sausages to a BBQ and politely ask if they can be chucked on.

We each order what we want from the takeaway, your order shouldn’t affect him at all.

Spanglyprincess1 · 02/08/2019 19:31

He's being an arse. People go. On about veggie etc being grouchy but I've always had issues with meat eaters having a go. I don't care if they want to eat meat at all. Crcak on.
I don't eat meat and I won't feed my ds meat as I don't want to cook it etx. He eats a very varied diet far more than most of my fmaily, just not meat.
I get abuse from my family etc on this and I don't get it. Literally regular comments and trying to force meat on him. It's rude.
If he wants to eat meat when he's old enough etc then that's up to him obviously but right now I'm parent.

newmomof1 · 02/08/2019 19:33

How is it inconvenient for him? He didn't even order the takeaway Hmm

Winterlife · 02/08/2019 19:35

My husband has been a vegetarian for 35 years - no meat, no eggs, no fish. He does drink milk. I love a good steak or burger. There has never been an issue cooking in our home. Our children ate meat, although one son is now vegetarian as well.

If you're not forcing him to adopt your diet, he is being completely unreasonable. What you decide to put in your body is of zero consequence to him.

Perhaps overconsumption of meat products is causing his annoyance? Grin

Dutch1e · 02/08/2019 19:37

He's being a dick. I don't like tomatoes but somehow we make the marriage work, even when ordering takeaway.

iolaus · 02/08/2019 19:38

I've been veggie since before I was with DH - he eats meat it's never been an issue

I will cook it for the kids (well by cook it I mean I'll throw it in the oven/on the grill and take it out when it's done - if he wants something with basting etc he'll do it)

He'd always eat more than I would for a chinese anyway - so it means he gets the full part of his choices and a few spoons of mine (unless I get mushroom because he doesn't like them) - aside from the odd comments of 'how can you eat that it's fungus' it's never been an issue

Skittlenommer · 02/08/2019 19:40

I went vegan overnight and my DH didn’t bat an eye and has been nothing but supportive since.

Your DH is being an idiot!

burblish · 02/08/2019 19:48

By your DH’s “logic”, his eating meat is equally an inconvenience for you, because you couldn’t order an all-veggie meal!