Aibu to not tell DH I'm pregnant yet?

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I found out this morning that I'm pregnant with our second child. I'm due on my period in a week, and the test said 'pregnant 3+ weeks'. We are not trying for a baby at the moment, and I'm on the contraceptive pill but forget to take it with me on a short trip away without DS.
We have spoken about having a second DS. If I fell pregnant now it wouldn't be sad news for us, but ideally due to work we wanted to wait until after Christmas. DH is a worrier, a very anxious person, and likes a plan. DS is nearly 2.

AIBU to not tell DH straight away? I think he will be shocked but happy. I feel like I need a day or so to process the information and get my head around it and decide how I'm feeling. Is that awful?

It could be that your period wasn't a period but implantation bleeding, I know someone this happened to.

Oh and congrats by the way

Take a few days OP, gather your thoughts and let the news sink in.

It's ok to wait a day or so to tell him. My friend always does that, she gets too overwhelmed even though they've all been planned pregnancies. It's your body after all.

Good luck!

Congratulations OP you may be further along than you think, when I took one of those tests and got a 3+ weeks I was just over ten weeks! Or it's twins...

Tbh I wouldn't tell my DH if there were guests in the house.

I think a quiet evening and a lovely bath is absolutely the right idea to get your head around it OP.

Then maybe tell your DH before you go to bed or in the morning.

I’d personally tell him right away. That way he also has a chance to process the information too.

I think that considering you forgot your pill after your period in July it is unlikely you are more pregnant than you think....unless there are other occasions you have forgotten to take it?

More likely it is a multiple pregnancy. My cousin recently tested early with a clear blue digital and it came up 3 weeks +. This seemed impossible given her contraception and when they did the deed....she was pregnant with twins.

Op I never answered your actual op, I think it’s fine to wait until later or tomorrow to tell him.

Personally I would wait until you've missed another period, if your husband is an anxious person. Until you're fairly sure.
Or have other symptoms.
But hopefully it's good news .

If the pregnancy test dates as they do in midwifery etc, then they date from the start of the last period (IIRC), so you are two weeks pregnant before you actually even ovulate, IYSWIM.

I would wait as long as you need before telling him. At this early stage you may naturally lose the pregnancy anyway - who knows how many babies were lost before modern testing - so many 'late periods' could have been lost pregnancies.

@ChristmasFluff that's not how a test dates your pregnancy because how could a test know when your last period was.
Tests date based on HCG levels.

I would tell him sooner rather than later.

My DH is a worrier and has severe anxiety issues (especially when it comes to finances) but if I’d held back the fact I was pregnant, even for a week, it would have hurt him immensely.

By all means wait a few days to let it sink in, but if you’re in a happy and healthy relationship surely he can help with that? He might notice your mood is different (not saying you’re going to be moody but my DH can always tell when there’s something occupying my mind) and worry there is something wrong.

If it were a reverse situation and he had big news that would impact the whole family, how would you feel if he chose to leave it a week or so to tell you?

Not trying to guilt you OP, not at all, but that’s what I’d do. After all you’re a partnership

My thought was a multiple pregnancy too (mum of twins (

I think just be happy and share your news with dp. He knew you were having unprotected sex while you were away and presumably he understands how babies are made .

As you know well enough having tried for dc1 for two years, babies can't always be scheduled and sometimes don't happen at all. Therefore I would allow yourself to be happy and share the news. Congrats!

Just tell him tonight and don't fanny about. You obviously knew that it was a possibility if you had unprotected sex and wouldn't have been sad if it happened. I don't get all this 'needing to process' stuff but then I am coming from a place of having needed IVF so my conception was so meticulous as to take any real element of surprise out of it.